Is social media redefining love? That’s the theme of our latest study. We know that social media has changed the way we live—and now, we’ve discovered, it’s changing the way we love. Euro RSCG Worldwide surveyed 1,000 respondents in the United States to explore how the digital world, specifically social media, has affected their lives in the areas of love and intimacy. In this white paper, we tackle new realities in love, like the questions of whether old-fashioned matchmaking will be a job of the past (about half of those we surveyed said they knew someone whose relationship had started online) and how old is too old to search for closeness online? Has social media affected fidelity? (Our poll says yes.) Which generation is most actively using online connections to find their love connections? And what do Facebook and the neighborhood bar have in common? Our groundbreaking survey reveals the answers to these questions and more.
If anyone is interested in trends in online dating and some fun....very factual do's and don'ts.....I was curious to see what is happening on all those sites out there....So I researched it and...
Props to Calvin Cheng for doing the layout and design. If anyone wants to make things beautiful, let me know and I will connect you with him!
OMSI Science Pub - Sex, Relationships, and TechnologyOMSI Science Pub
"Sex, Relationships, and Technology"
This Science Pub took place on Tuesday, March 30, 2010, at the Mission Theater in Portland, Oregon. It was presented by Dr L. Kris Gowen from Portland State University. You can check her blog here: http://healthysexedu.blogspot.com/
Spoiler alert! Dr. Taylor will giving this same talk at the Science Pub-Mission Theater in Portland on Tuesday, February 16, 2010.
If anyone is interested in trends in online dating and some fun....very factual do's and don'ts.....I was curious to see what is happening on all those sites out there....So I researched it and...
Props to Calvin Cheng for doing the layout and design. If anyone wants to make things beautiful, let me know and I will connect you with him!
OMSI Science Pub - Sex, Relationships, and TechnologyOMSI Science Pub
"Sex, Relationships, and Technology"
This Science Pub took place on Tuesday, March 30, 2010, at the Mission Theater in Portland, Oregon. It was presented by Dr L. Kris Gowen from Portland State University. You can check her blog here: http://healthysexedu.blogspot.com/
Spoiler alert! Dr. Taylor will giving this same talk at the Science Pub-Mission Theater in Portland on Tuesday, February 16, 2010.
Clarissa Windham-Bradstock, COO, Any Lab Test Now presentation.
Amazing things happen when an entire organization begin to use social media. What happens when it all goes wrong? Clarissa shares very candid information about this topic and how she and Any Lab Test Now franchise system dealt with the "cyber harassment".
Everything evolves, including how human beings relate to one another in intimate relationships. Norms which have been relatively stable in this space have been mutating and changing rapidly over the past ten years - and will continue along this trajectory into the foreseeable future.
In this report we will be sharing with you a snapshot of some of the forces and waves of change which are shaping the future of relationships. And while many of these data points may seem alien or downright strange, they do point to a possible future of acceptance, openness and increased happiness through relationships that really work.
The Future of Relationships was created by the cultural strategy team at sparks & honey, in partnership with the Museum of Sex in NYC.
Chapter 10 Interpersonal Relationship Types
This chapter focuses on specific relationship types: (1) friendship, (2) love, (3) family, and (4) workplace relationships. We establish what these are and explore how interpersonal communication within each of these relationships can be made more effective. We’ll also examine the dark side of some relationships in the final section. All of these relationships can be face-to-face or online or, as is most often the case, some combination. Online relationships have been increasing since the first online dating service was established in 1995. According to one survey, 38 percent of those who identified themselves as “single and looking” used an online dating service (Smith & Duggan, 2013). Social networking sites such as Facebook, Google+, Twitter, Instagram, and Pinterest; professional sites such as LinkedIn; and the dating sites such as Match.com, eHarmony, and OKCupid (and the numerous apps for your phone such as Zoosk, PlentyofFish, and HowAboutWe) make it increasingly easy and interesting to meet new friends and potential romantic partners, to keep in touch with family (websites that provide family hubs are increasing in popularity), and to conduct much of the business of work. As you’ve no doubt noticed, each type of relationship has both advantages and disadvantages. Here we need to identify just a few of these. One of the advantages to establishing relationships online (though some may say it’s a disadvantage) is that personality outweighs physical appearance. Online communication reveals people’s inner qualities first. Rapport and mutual self-disclosure become more important than physical attractiveness in promoting intimacy (Cooper & Sportolari, 1997). And contrary to some popular opinion, online relationships rely just as heavily on the ideals of trust, honesty, and commitment as do face-to-face relationships (Whitty & Gavin, 2001). Friendship and romantic interaction on the Internet are a natural boon to shut-ins and extremely shy people, for whom traditional ways of meeting others are often difficult. Computer talk is empowering for those with “physical disabilities or disfigurements,” for whom face-to-face interactions are often superficial and often end with withdrawal (Bull & Rumsey, 1988; Lea & Spears, 1995). By eliminating the physical cues, computer talk equalizes the interaction and doesn’t put the disfigured person, for example, at an immediate disadvantage in a society where physical attractiveness is so highly valued. Online you’re free to reveal as much or as little about your physical self as you wish, when you wish. Another obvious advantage of online relationships is that the number of people you can reach is so vast that it’s relatively easy to find someone who matches what you’re looking for. The situation is like finding a book that covers just what you need from a library of millions of volumes rather than from a collection of only several hundred or even thousands. In a ...
Clarissa Windham-Bradstock, COO, Any Lab Test Now presentation.
Amazing things happen when an entire organization begin to use social media. What happens when it all goes wrong? Clarissa shares very candid information about this topic and how she and Any Lab Test Now franchise system dealt with the "cyber harassment".
Everything evolves, including how human beings relate to one another in intimate relationships. Norms which have been relatively stable in this space have been mutating and changing rapidly over the past ten years - and will continue along this trajectory into the foreseeable future.
In this report we will be sharing with you a snapshot of some of the forces and waves of change which are shaping the future of relationships. And while many of these data points may seem alien or downright strange, they do point to a possible future of acceptance, openness and increased happiness through relationships that really work.
The Future of Relationships was created by the cultural strategy team at sparks & honey, in partnership with the Museum of Sex in NYC.
Chapter 10 Interpersonal Relationship Types
This chapter focuses on specific relationship types: (1) friendship, (2) love, (3) family, and (4) workplace relationships. We establish what these are and explore how interpersonal communication within each of these relationships can be made more effective. We’ll also examine the dark side of some relationships in the final section. All of these relationships can be face-to-face or online or, as is most often the case, some combination. Online relationships have been increasing since the first online dating service was established in 1995. According to one survey, 38 percent of those who identified themselves as “single and looking” used an online dating service (Smith & Duggan, 2013). Social networking sites such as Facebook, Google+, Twitter, Instagram, and Pinterest; professional sites such as LinkedIn; and the dating sites such as Match.com, eHarmony, and OKCupid (and the numerous apps for your phone such as Zoosk, PlentyofFish, and HowAboutWe) make it increasingly easy and interesting to meet new friends and potential romantic partners, to keep in touch with family (websites that provide family hubs are increasing in popularity), and to conduct much of the business of work. As you’ve no doubt noticed, each type of relationship has both advantages and disadvantages. Here we need to identify just a few of these. One of the advantages to establishing relationships online (though some may say it’s a disadvantage) is that personality outweighs physical appearance. Online communication reveals people’s inner qualities first. Rapport and mutual self-disclosure become more important than physical attractiveness in promoting intimacy (Cooper & Sportolari, 1997). And contrary to some popular opinion, online relationships rely just as heavily on the ideals of trust, honesty, and commitment as do face-to-face relationships (Whitty & Gavin, 2001). Friendship and romantic interaction on the Internet are a natural boon to shut-ins and extremely shy people, for whom traditional ways of meeting others are often difficult. Computer talk is empowering for those with “physical disabilities or disfigurements,” for whom face-to-face interactions are often superficial and often end with withdrawal (Bull & Rumsey, 1988; Lea & Spears, 1995). By eliminating the physical cues, computer talk equalizes the interaction and doesn’t put the disfigured person, for example, at an immediate disadvantage in a society where physical attractiveness is so highly valued. Online you’re free to reveal as much or as little about your physical self as you wish, when you wish. Another obvious advantage of online relationships is that the number of people you can reach is so vast that it’s relatively easy to find someone who matches what you’re looking for. The situation is like finding a book that covers just what you need from a library of millions of volumes rather than from a collection of only several hundred or even thousands. In a ...
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Julie Yepes
Professor Toumey
ENC1101
19 February 2020
Love- First Draft
Love in a Digital Oriented Society
To begin with, it is important to state that love is the supreme emotion above all other emotions. Romantic love is among the key human needs that propels one to self-actualizations according to the hierarchy of needs by Abraham Maslow. However, the advancements in internet and computer technology has made complex finding and sustaining romantic love. This is because unlike the past when single individuals met potential love partners via family, friends or colleagues, in the contemporary world, there are online dating websites such as Tinder. Whilst this has made it easier for people to find love, the main challenge is that technology has made people make rush judgements about settling in relationships. However, the key to maintain a healthy relationship in this digital era is premised on healthy communication and keeping healthy boundaries (Rosenthal 35). This are explicated in the subsequent paragraphs below. Comment by Edwin: Only use TAB once to indent a new paragraph, not twice. This goes for the next paragraph as well. Comment by Edwin: Insert a comma before adding non-restrictive information to the end of a sentence using gerund verbs (-ing) or the words/phrases “which, such as, including” Comment by Edwin: Since you’re talking about two things, use “have” plural Comment by Edwin: Move this word to the end of the sentence for better word flow. Comment by Edwin: Omit – we already assume that this is what you’re writing about.
As stated above, there are various online dating platforms such as Tinder, Match.com and OKCupid. This implies that people looking for romantic partners can now do so by surfing on the internet and browsing through pictures. This offers a significant number of people convenience over the traditional physical meetings and referral through friends and family. Besides the convenience that it offers, such dating platforms increase the probability of getting into a relationship with someone who meets their criteria of their ideal love partner (Kirshenbaum, 21).
Dating platforms also entails key challenges that present negate the essence of technology in love and relationships. First, the easiness in entering into a relationship has made individuals rush into relationships that they should have not entered into in the first place. “Individuals make rush judgements over the choice of partners and tend to overlook aspects that are significant qualities of a potential partner” (Gottman 89). This is because these judgements are clouded by superficial factors such as physical beauty and/or attractiveness. Comment by Edwin: Plural “entail” Comment by Edwin: Insert a comma here – this is the same rule as explained on page 1
The internet dating platforms emphasize on the need to find the perfect person to enter into a relationship with. Whilst this motive is good, there is no technology that can ever replace th.
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Yepes 2
Julie Yepes
Professor Toumey
ENC1101
19 February 2020
Love- First Draft
Love in a Digital Oriented Society
To begin with, it is important to state that love is the supreme emotion above all other emotions. Romantic love is among the key human needs that propels one to self-actualizations according to the hierarchy of needs by Abraham Maslow. However, the advancements in internet and computer technology has made complex finding and sustaining romantic love. This is because unlike the past when single individuals met potential love partners via family, friends or colleagues, in the contemporary world, there are online dating websites such as Tinder. Whilst this has made it easier for people to find love, the main challenge is that technology has made people make rush judgements about settling in relationships. However, the key to maintain a healthy relationship in this digital era is premised on healthy communication and keeping healthy boundaries (Rosenthal 35). This are explicated in the subsequent paragraphs below. Comment by Edwin: Only use TAB once to indent a new paragraph, not twice. This goes for the next paragraph as well. Comment by Edwin: Insert a comma before adding non-restrictive information to the end of a sentence using gerund verbs (-ing) or the words/phrases “which, such as, including” Comment by Edwin: Since you’re talking about two things, use “have” plural Comment by Edwin: Move this word to the end of the sentence for better word flow. Comment by Edwin: Omit – we already assume that this is what you’re writing about.
As stated above, there are various online dating platforms such as Tinder, Match.com and OKCupid. This implies that people looking for romantic partners can now do so by surfing on the internet and browsing through pictures. This offers a significant number of people convenience over the traditional physical meetings and referral through friends and family. Besides the convenience that it offers, such dating platforms increase the probability of getting into a relationship with someone who meets their criteria of their ideal love partner (Kirshenbaum, 21).
Dating platforms also entails key challenges that present negate the essence of technology in love and relationships. First, the easiness in entering into a relationship has made individuals rush into relationships that they should have not entered into in the first place. “Individuals make rush judgements over the choice of partners and tend to overlook aspects that are significant qualities of a potential partner” (Gottman 89). This is because these judgements are clouded by superficial factors such as physical beauty and/or attractiveness. Comment by Edwin: Plural “entail” Comment by Edwin: Insert a comma here – this is the same rule as explained on page 1
The internet dating platforms emphasize on the need to find the perfect person to enter into a relationship with. Whilst this motive is good, there is no technology that can ever replace th ...
TECHNOLOGY’S EFFECTS ON COLLEGE RELATIONSHIPS (ENTERPRISE NEWS STORY)Miranda Bator
November, 2015: Written at GVSU in CMJ 256: News Reporting, this enterprise story was assigned with the purpose of covering a current issue on campus. By observing the constant need for millennials to use technology, I chose this topic. After a variety of interviews and research conducted, this story was compiled and carefully written with the target audience in mind.
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Brief Report
“I Love You , Man ”: Overt Exp ression s of
Affection in Male¯Male In teraction
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Mar k T. Morm an
Baylor University
Kory Floyd 2
Cleveland State University
D esp ite th e im p o rta n c e o f a ffec ti o n a te co m m u n ic a tio n fo r rela tio n al
developm en t and m ain ten ance, individuals expressin g affection incur a num ber
of risks, in clu d in g possible m isin terpretation of th e expression s as sexu al
overtures. These risks appear to be m agn ified in the m ale-m ale relationship,
wh ere overt expression s of affection m ay be all bu t prohibited by norm ative
exp ectan cie s. Th e p resen t stu d y exam in es exp ec ta n cie s fo r a p p ro pria te
m ale-m ale affection . Although em pirical research su pports the idea that overt
affection is con sid ered less appropriate in m ale-m ale relationsh ips than in
relation ships with wom en, it also su ggests that three variables m ay m oderate
th is expectan cy: relation sh ip type, em otio n al in ten sity of th e con text, an d
p riv a cy lev el o f th e co n text. An expe rim en tal pro ced u re with 140 m en
(approxim ately 95% cau casian ) con firm ed th e m oderatin g effects of th ese
variables.
The sharing of affe ction has long be en re cognize d as a fundame ntal human
ne e d. Schutz ( 1958, 1966) was one of the first the orists to re cognize the
le gitimacy of affe ction ne eds within inte rpe rsonal re lationships. According
to Schutz, affe ction is inhe re nt to re lational situations involving love , e mo-
tional close ne ss, pe rsonal confide nce s, and intimacy. Following suit, Rotte r,
Chance , and Phare s ( 1972) classifie d affe ction as one of six fundame ntal
human ne e ds. Similarly, Frank ( 1973) and Koch ( 1959) both e mphasize d
Sex Roles, Vol. 38, Nos. 9/10, 1998
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draft.
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To whom corresponde nce should be addressed at De partment of Communication, Cleve land
State University, 2001 Euclid Avenue, Cleveland, O H 44115.
the significance of affe ction within the rape utic inte rve ntions, while B owlby
( 1953) and Harlow ( 1974) comme nte d on the ke y role affe ction plays in
de ve lopme ntal psychological proce sse s.
Despite its importance , affe ctionate communication invite s nume rous
risks, including the risk that the inte nde d meaning be hind affe ctionate e x-
pre ssions will be misinte rpre te d. Such risks may be magnifie d in the male -
male re lationship, whe re ove rt e xpre ssions of affe ction may be all but
prohibite d by normative expe ctancie s. O f course , this was not always the
case . In 19th century Ame rica, young men de ve lope d romantic frie ndships
with each othe r that today would be mistake n for homose xual re lationships.
The y wrote love le tte rs to each othe r, sle pt in the same be d, he ld e ach
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Learn about two tools emerging as vital to PR from one of the world's most renowned futurists. Trends for the Near Future presented by Marian Salzman at Havas Cafe at the Cannes International Festival of Creativity
In October 2009, Euro RSCG Worldwide commissioned a survey to map the trajectory of social life and social media usage in the United States, quizzing 1,228 Americans from all online demographics. This white paper looks at the macro developments in social media; it also brings in numbers and verbatims about people’s hopes for their social life online and offline before finally drawing conclusions and implications for marketers and their clients. The study found, for instance, that by interacting through online media, American consumers are more connected than ever and have dramatically integrated social networking tools into their lives. According to the study, their world is expanding and narrowing at the same time because of social media’s hyperlocalization quotient. Among the takeaways for marketers: It’s impossible to predict how bits of communication will spread across social media; as most traditional media converge online, communication flows among them, and consumers become messengers. Go to eurorscgsocial.com to see Euro PR’s blog and website that grew out of the survey and white paper.
The Teenage Girl as Consumer and CommunicatorHavas PR
Euro RSCG Worldwide PR’s white paper analyzes data from a survey the agency commissioned of 100 girls between the ages of 13 and 18 about their spending and communications habits. The research reveals that the teenage girl contradicts almost all cultural stereotypes in those areas. But the core finding of the white paper is more sociological than statistical. Tearing down another false platitude about teenage girls, the paper proves that a sense of intimacy with a select group of friends and family drives almost all their social interaction—including shopping, which the study characterizes as a core social activity for teenage girls. The findings are helping to launch a new Euro PR initiative. Eventually focusing on teen boys and girls, the first phase is called The Sisterhood.
How is the changing world of the 21st century reshaping families, lives and homes in the U.S.? Euro RSCG Worldwide PR analyzed diverse data sets and surveys, media and social trends, and home-industry reports to answer that question with thoughts in six areas: multigenerational homes, home as a destination, sustainability, scent as design element, mobile media centers and simplicity. The categories blend and blur with one another, but there are also some underlying themes. One bottom line from the white paper is this: “With the world in so much flux, Americans are rethinking their definition of home. In flusher times, home was a pit stop, a place to drop your keys between outings. With less cash to spread around, Americans are rediscovering home as the ultimate destination. We work at home. We dine in. We host movie night. Once again, we live at home.”
The new normal in the United States is not anything like it was just a few years ago. Fear and anxiety have replaced confidence and hope when it comes to the economy, and the effects have been felt from the family den to the White House. Optimism is out and pessimism is in, with Americans questioning the future of health care, education, jobs and the political direction of the country. In February 2010, Euro RSCG Worldwide PR and Euro RSCG Life, the public relations arm and the health-focused communications network of Euro RSCG Worldwide, a leading integrated marketing communications agency, commissioned two surveys to try to gauge the mood of Americans on these hot-button issues and others. One survey questioned people nationwide; the other polled residents of Connecticut. Research partners MicroDialogue deployed the two surveys, with each questioning a random and representative sample of 386 people age 18 and older, then analyzed the data. The resultant “U.S. Mind and Mood” white paper provides a series of snapshots of a nation living in a precarious present.
- April 2010
This white paper is the next chapter in Euro RSCG Worldwide PR’s commitment to the study of the future of men. Since 2003, when Euro RSCG popularized the “metrosexual” concept, the agency has been at the forefront of the movement of marketing to men. “Male in U.S.A.” draws on this long history, plus the results of recent proprietary studies, independent research and insights gained through ERWW PR’s global trendspotting network, connecting the dots between all of them. Men in the United States today have many differences, but there are commonalities, and this paper addresses both. To try to accurately illustrate a portrait of the American man, it looks at demographics, the wealth illusion, the effects of the recession, male icons in Hollywood and beyond, cars, technology, the banking industry, love and second chances, among other diverse topics. A conclusion offers a list of 10 points helping to define the American male in 2011.
More people are leaning toward political extremes than ever, and anger will continue to grow based on that sphere and others,” said Marian Salzman, president of Euro RSCG Worldwide PR, North America, when she released her annual list of trends.
“But we’ve also seen many people react to this anger, segregation, and perceived or real loss of control by doing a 180 and becoming even more interested in relationships than possessions and learning how to be more self-sufficient.” Below are four of the trends on her list, tweet-style because of the importance social media plays in many.
One thing is for sure: Social media is changing the world, and we often feel powerless in the face of its constant morphing.
This PowerPoint presentation puts the future into perspective with a look at 16 trends Marian Salzman sees in SoMe for 2011, from the farthest reaches of connectivity to doing good on social media.
When Marian Salzman, president of Euro RSCG Worldwide PR, North America, and industry-renowned trendspotter, released her annual list of trends this year, she noted that social media would be a key driver in all of them in 2010. “Companies have begun paying attention to, and actively engaging in, social media,” she said. “As this continues, what began as a campaign strategy for Barack Obama might prove to define next year’s version of total convergence, and a further blending of business roles and responsibilities.” Click on the button below to read her in-depth forecast of these trends and others.
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each chakra is studied in greater detail, several steps have been included to
strengthen your personal intention to open each chakra more fully. These are designed
to draw forth the highest benefit for your spiritual growth.
The PBHP DYC ~ Reflections on The Dhamma (English).pptxOH TEIK BIN
A PowerPoint Presentation based on the Dhamma Reflections for the PBHP DYC for the years 1993 – 2012. To motivate and inspire DYC members to keep on practicing the Dhamma and to do the meritorious deed of Dhammaduta work.
The texts are in English.
For the Video with audio narration, comments and texts in English, please check out the Link:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zF2g_43NEa0
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Presentation: Missionary Celso Napoleon
Renewed in Grace
In Jude 17-23 Jude shifts from piling up examples of false teachers from the Old Testament to a series of practical exhortations that flow from apostolic instruction. He preserves for us what may well have been part of the apostolic catechism for the first generation of Christ-followers. In these instructions Jude exhorts the believer to deal with 3 different groups of people: scoffers who are "devoid of the Spirit", believers who have come under the influence of scoffers and believers who are so entrenched in false teaching that they need rescue and pose some real spiritual risk for the rescuer. In all of this Jude emphasizes Jesus' call to rescue straying sheep, leaving the 99 safely behind and pursuing the 1.
The Book of Joshua is the sixth book in the Hebrew Bible and the Old Testament, and is the first book of the Deuteronomistic history, the story of Israel from the conquest of Canaan to the Babylonian exile.
What Should be the Christian View of Anime?Joe Muraguri
We will learn what Anime is and see what a Christian should consider before watching anime movies? We will also learn a little bit of Shintoism religion and hentai (the craze of internet pornography today).
Homily: The Solemnity of the Most Holy Trinity Sunday 2024.docxJames Knipper
Countless volumes have been written trying to explain the mystery of three persons in one true God, leaving us to resort to metaphors such as the three-leaf clover to try to comprehend the Divinity. Many of us grew up with the quintessential pyramidal Trinity structure of God at the top and Son and Spirit in opposite corners. But what if we looked at this ‘mystery’ from a different perspective? What if we shifted our language of God as a being towards the concept of God as love? What if we focused more on the relationship within the Trinity versus the persons of the Trinity? What if stopped looking at God as a noun…and instead considered God as a verb? Check it out…
The Good News, newsletter for June 2024 is hereNoHo FUMC
Our monthly newsletter is available to read online. We hope you will join us each Sunday in person for our worship service. Make sure to subscribe and follow us on YouTube and social media.
3. WHITE PAPER: LOVE (AND SEX) IN THE AGE OF SOCIAL MEDIA 3
Romance and sex used to be private and shrouded in mystery: i.e., practiced behind
closed doors. Back in the early days of popular novels, moralists warned that romantic
fiction would put dangerous ideas into people’s heads, inflame their imaginations and
stoke lewd desires. Once moving pictures became a popular pastime, the same strictures
were applied to them. The U.S. Motion Picture Production Code of 1930 (Hays Code)
presented strict guidelines on the subject, including: “excessive and lustful kissing, lustful
embraces, suggestive postures and gestures, are not to be shown” and “in general, passion
should so be treated that these scenes do not stimulate the lower and baser element.”1
Similar moral impulses tried to tone down the performances of hip-swiveling Elvis “The
Pelvis” Presley in the 1950s; his hip gyrations were just too much, too much.
Oh, if those moralists of yore could only see us now…
In free societies, no amount of moralizing could hold back the tide of what people
respond to. Mass media have made romance, lust and love normal parts of everyday life.
Through several generations now, hundreds of millions of people all round the world have
had mass-media heartthrobs to fall in love with. Books, magazines, movies, songs, radio
and TV have exposed us all to different ideas—”memes”—about what’s normal and
what’s possible in intimate relationships.
Traditional media, subject to the limits of legislation and distribution, have been somewhat
controllable. But the Internet? That’s a whole ’nother story. The Internet gives everyone
everywhere pretty much unrestricted access to any imaginable aspect of intimate
relationships. Virtually any romantic or erotic content an individual might imagine is on the
Internet and can be found with just a few clicks. And now social media gives people instant
access not only to romantic and erotic content, but also to each other.
It’s often said that the mind is the biggest erogenous zone of the body. In that case,
the Internet is the most powerful erogenous zone the world has ever known. Novels,
movies, music and TV were just a foretaste of the impact the
Internet has had already (and will have in the future) on
intimate relationships, on relationships more generally—and
beyond that, on the way we live our lives.
In this paper we look at five key aspects of how Americans
think about online romance through the prism of an online
survey of 1,000 Americans online, carried out for Euro RSCG
in January 2011.
4. 4 WHITE PAPER: LOVE (AND SEX) IN THE AGE OF SOCIAL MEDIA
OBSERVING LOVE ONLINE
Regular use of the Internet has got many of us wondering about one of the favorite
themes of philosophers and science fiction, from Buddha and Plato to The Matrix: What
is reality? The difference being that in this case it’s not just a head-in-the-clouds
academic issue—it’s a real, live practical question for ordinary people every day. The
language we use reveals the confusion, as we make a distinction between things
happening on the Internet and things happening “in real life.”
So are things people do online “real,” “unreal”—or something else?
There are some cases that are beyond discussion: Breaking a leg or catching a sexually
transmitted disease in “real life” has far more tangible consequences than getting hurt
or infected in a virtual world (although computer viruses can be devastating). But in
other areas the lines are not so clear. Many different “real life” products and activities
can migrate partially or wholly online—not just books, music and movies, but also
medical consultations, education, jobs, careers and even warfare.
The more people become used to spending time online, the more normal it feels to be
seeking out important things in life online as well as offline. That includes love in all its
forms. In fact, the increasing scope for interactions online is forcing us to expand our
notions of what the word “love” means.
5. WHITE PAPER: LOVE (AND SEX) IN THE AGE OF SOCIAL MEDIA 5
What’s called “love” in books and songs and movies and conversation is hard to pin down.
The increasing
It’s actually a whole range of feelings and relationships: “Eros” (lustful erotic love);
“Mania” (obsessive love); “Lludus” (conquests and deception): “Storge” (natural affection);
“Philos” (friendship love); “Pragma” (practical love) and “Agape” (spiritual love).2
“ scope for
interactions online
At first glance, it seems most of these types of love require physical proximity, but on
further consideration, maybe they don’t after all. Perhaps some—or even most—types of is forcing us to
love can transpire online. As people become more adept at online interactions, and more
online tools become available, some of these forms of love will grow as naturally online expand our notions
as they have done offline.
of what the word
‘love’ means.
Love online - Agreement with the statement: It’s possible to have
a romantic relationship with someone on the Internet.
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”
N= 500 500 515 181 336 389 94 108
41% 28% 29% 46% 37% 29% 21% 52%
Plenty of Americans think that it’s possible to have a romantic relationship with someone
on the Internet—overall one third agree (34 percent). There’s a big difference between
men and women (41 percent versus 28 percent), which indicates that more women than
men need a physical connection to make the romance work for them. There’s a clear
generational difference, too; the younger the cohort, the more of them see online romantic
relationships as possible. And even 21 percent of Matures see the possibility.
Love online - Agreement with the statement: It’s possible to have
an erotic relationship with someone on the Internet.
Men Women Married Gen Y Gen X Boomers Matures Prosumers
N= 500 500 515 181 336 389 94 108
39% 27% 26% 43% 36% 29% 21% 53%
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There’s very little difference in the percentages of respondents who see the possibility for
erotic relationships online, with 33 percent agreeing overall. Prosumers are far more
likely to see the possibility for both romantic and erotic relationships.
Love online - Agreement with the statement: I know somebody
whose relationship started with online interactions.
Men Women Married Gen Y Gen X Boomers Matures Prosumers
More women
“
N= 500 500 515 181 336 389 94 108
than men 49% 52% 47% 66% 57% 43% 26% 80%
need a physical Love online - Agreement with the statement: Online dating has
connection to become normal/mainstream.
make the romance Men Women Married Gen Y Gen X Boomers Matures Prosumers
N= 500 500 515 181 336 389 94 108
work for them.
” 53% 55% 49% 65% 60% 47% 30% 69%
The real impact is where online and offline mix—where one leads to the other. Overall,
half the sample (50 percent) knows somebody whose relationship started with online
interactions, and more than half (53 percent) think online dating has become
normal/mainstream. There’s a clear generational gradient here, as well: The younger the
cohort, the more the agreement. Impressive proportions of Boomers (43 percent) and
Matures (26 percent) know somebody whose relationship started with online interactions.
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EXPERIENCING LOVE ONLINE
A lot of the resistance and hostility to activities online stems from lack of familiarity
More men
with the technologies, the interfaces and the modes of interacting. Online is a new and
different space with different cultural norms that we have to learn and adapt to, just as
we learn and adapt to the culture of a new town, a new company or a new social set.
“than women
We have all seen media pieces about what people do on the Internet (and now we have
engage in online
seen the back story, too, via The Social Network). But as much as we’ve heard other flirting—or at least
people talking about it, it’s all hearsay and theory until we have experienced it for
admit to it.
ourselves. It’s when personal experience comes into the equation that consumers become
active and energized, exploring for themselves, swapping tips with friends and driving the
online activity that translates into big shifts in behavior. ”
Love online - Agreement with the statement: I have flirted with
somebody online.
Men Women Married Gen Y Gen X Boomers Matures Prosumers
N= 500 500 515 181 336 389 94 108
39% 23% 18% 49% 37% 22% 8% 51%
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Not everybody starts out as a vocal, prolific poster of online comments. For many people
the first big challenge in social networking online is venturing to say anything at all in
spaces where there may be strangers and it’s not possible to read other people’s mood
and reactions easily. Then, once people get comfortable with basic online interactions,
they move on to the sort of interactions that are a little riskier even offline, let alone
online: joking, arguing and flirting.
More men than women engage in online flirting—or at least admit to it; a substantial
39 percent of men in the survey say they have flirted with somebody online, compared
with a more modest 23 percent of women. The question is whether the gap between the
two would be wider or narrower in face-to-face interactions. For women, one big plus of
flirting online is that there’s less physical risk if things get out of hand.
Not surprisingly, the frequency of this online behavior correlates with age; the younger
the cohort, the more they have flirted online. Still, it’s impressive that 8 percent of
Matures have flirted online, too.
Love online - Agreement with the statement: I have experienced
strong feelings of attraction for somebody online.
Men Women Married Gen Y Gen X Boomers Matures Prosumers
N= 500 500 515 181 336 389 94 108
Engaging in
“
relationships online
26% 14% 12% 30% 23% 15% 9% 35%
may risk making For people unfamiliar with or skeptical of online interactions, it may be hard to imagine
feeling anything much for someone in whose physical presence you have never been (and
people less available may never be). However, as people interact online, feelings are stirred up. And why not?
It’s not at all unusual for people to have strong feelings about other people they’ll never
for relationships meet in person, such as popular actors, musicians and authors, so why not people online
with whom you’re able to have an actual conversation?
with people close
More than a quarter of men (26 percent) and 14 percent of women say that they have
to them.
” experienced strong feelings of attraction for somebody online.
The fact that even 9 percent of the Matures have experienced strong feelings of
attraction for somebody online indicates that what happens on the Internet can put a
twinkle in older eyes, too.
Love online - Agreement with the statement: I have had a romantic,
sexual or erotic relationship online.
Men Women Married Gen Y Gen X Boomers Matures Prosumers
N= 500 500 515 181 336 389 94 108
22% 12% 12% 24% 22% 10% 7% 32%
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One thing that makes social media crucially different from traditional media is the
potential for interactions with real people. People have always felt strongly attracted to
remote figures in books, in pictures or TV and movie screens. In most cases it’s not
regarded as unusual for people of any age to “have a thing” about some media figure
who is, for all practical purposes, purely virtual; it’s one-way only.
Now with social media, a similar phenomenon is happening—except that it’s two-way.
The parties interact; they respond to each other. It may well be less concrete and “real”
than meeting a person in the same physical space, but it’s more of a real relationship
than is possible with a celebrity.
A solid 22 percent of the men and 12 percent of the women say they have had a
romantic, sexual or erotic relationship online.
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THE EFFECTS OF LOVE AND SEX ONLINE
Hundreds of millions of people are now using the Internet as a tool for living, or rather
as a whole range of tools for different aspects of life. As the great media and
communications theorist Marshall McLuhan observed, “We become what we behold. We
shape our tools, and then our tools shape us.” And true to McLuhan’s statement,
consumers are finding that online services can be shaped into great tools to meet their
various “love” needs to some degree: connection, interaction, recognition and affection,
not forgetting arousal and passion. Many in today’s world are concerned about the ways
in which these tools seem to be shaping the users.
Front and center of these worries is pornography, known euphemistically as “adult
content,” although “adult” is a moot point: Many sites boast “barely legal teens,” and
teenage boys are widely identified as big consumers of porn. As former AOL editor-in-
chief Jesse Kornbluth commented: “Porn and teenage boys have been inseparable since
the beginning of time. The Internet offers more extreme porn than the airbrushed
Playboy images I grew up on, but that’s not a reason to get unduly riled. I’m much more
concerned about porn and adult males, many of whom seem to use it as a substitute for
real relationships. Substitution quickly becomes distance, and distance becomes an
unbridgeable chasm—and the porn-obsessed masturbator develops an unhealthy view of
sex and women.”3
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According to Gizmodo, 40 million Americans are regular visitors to porn sites and one
third of visitors are women; 25 percent of search engine requests are pornographic and
35 percent of downloads are pornographic.4
Social media
Clearly, there’s a lot of sexual content being consumed, so we can expect the effects to
be reflected in at least some of our large representative sample.
“
has lessened the
Love online - Agreement with the statement: Discussions on the time, money and
Internet have influenced how I think about sex.
effort of searching
Men Women Married Gen Y Gen X Boomers Matures Prosumers
N= 500 500 515 181 336 389 94 108 for partners and
15% 8% 8% 23% 14% 6% 5% 21% increased the likely
success rate.
Love online - Agreement with the statement: Images on the
Internet have influenced how I think about sex. ”
Men Women Married Gen Y Gen X Boomers Matures Prosumers
N= 500 500 515 181 336 389 94 108
26% 9% 13% 33% 21% 9% 4% 36%
Both discussions and images of sex on the Internet have influenced men more than
women, but images have a bigger influence all around. Almost twice as many men as
women (15 percent versus 8 percent) say discussions on the Internet have influenced
how they think about sex. However, the impact of images on the Internet is far more
striking; almost three times as many men as women (26 percent versus 9 percent) say
images on the Internet have influenced how they think about sex. Among Married
respondents and for each generational cohort except Matures, around 50 percent more
have been influenced by images than by discussions.
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Love online - Agreement with the statement: Online relationships
There are
“
plenty of sites
can take the pressure off face-to-face relationships.
Men
N= 500
Women
500
Married
515
Gen Y
181
Gen X
336
Boomers Matures
389 94
Prosumers
108
aimed at people
31% 28% 26% 44% 33% 24% 13% 49%
looking for
something other Love online - Agreement with the statement: Online relationships can
be too much of a distraction from face-to-face relationships.
than a serious
committed Men
N= 500
Women
500
Married
515
Gen Y
181
Gen X
336
Boomers Matures
389 94
Prosumers
108
relationship…
” 34% 37% 36% 41% 38% 30% 41% 40%
Whether relationships are on- or offline, they take time, attention and care. We see a
great deal of ambivalence about the positive and negative effects online relationships
can have on face-to-face relationships. On the positive side, online relationships may act
as a safety valve, enabling a person to experience or express things that might not have a
place in their face-to-face relationships. Similar percentages of men and women (31
percent and 28 percent) agree that online relationships can take the pressure off face-
to-face relationships. Significantly, this thought resonates with more than a quarter of
married respondents (26 percent).
On the negative side, engaging in relationships online may risk making people less
available for relationships with people close to them. Here, too, similar percentages of
men and women (34 percent and 37 percent) agree that online relationships can be too
much of a distraction from face-to-face relationships. This thought earns agreement
from 36 percent of married respondents.
Comparing the two sets of responses yields two important insights. Firstly, more men
than women see online relationships as having positive effects on face-to-face
relationships, and more women than men see such relationships as having negative
effects. Secondly, across most segments, except Gen Y and Prosumers, more respondents
see the negative effects than the positive. For Gen Y the positive balance of online
relationships is slight; for Prosumers, it’s wider.
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CYBER-CHEATING
What’s the real state of American relationships now? The official statistics indicate a
marriage rate of 7.9 marriages per 1,000 Americans and a divorce rate of 3.9 5, which
suggests a divorce rate of more than half the marriage rate, but it’s not quite that
straightforward. The divorce rate in first marriages is 41 percent, in second marriages
it’s 60 percent, and in third marriage it’s 73 percent.6
For cyber-alarmists with short memories, let’s not forget that divorce rates in the United
States were on the rise long before the Internet was being widely used. For many
decades, Americans’ commitment to family values has had to slug it out with their
beliefs in freedom, consumer choice and new beginnings—and the balance has apparently
tipped towards freedom and choice. And now that the Internet is impacting every aspect
of life, it’s highly likely that it’s having an impact on relationships and break-ups too.
Just as the Internet has made it a lot easier to find rare books and discontinued spare
parts, so has it eased the search for romantic partners. In fact, one need not even
actively be looking—our e-mail inboxes are bombarded daily with offers from Russian
brides, hot singles and lonely housewives. For anybody with even a little curiosity,
romantic connections are never more than a click or two away. The law of averages
surely makes it likely that more people now than before will be tempted to check out
who else is available, with a possibility that this increased illicit behavior may lead to
more divorce.
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After all, social media has lessened the time, money and effort of searching for partners
and increased the likely success rate. Even people who are married or in a stable
relationship can keep looking for more attractive partners; they can stay in the market,
either looking for opportunities to cheat or else for a completely new relationship.
Aside from the mainstream matching sites such as eHarmony.com and Match.com, there
are plenty of sites aimed at people looking for something other than a serious committed
relationship: websites such as AshleyMadison.com (“Life is short. Have an affair.”)7,
Liketocheat.com and Affairlink.com invite extramarital encounters.
There is a lot
“
of potential for
The jury is still out on whether the potential for cyber-cheating is rocking the marital
boat. Economist Todd D. Kendall ran analyses of large-scale data sets (from 2003,
hence before social media), looking for correlations between Internet penetration rates
and divorce rates. He found no clear evidence that the rise of the Internet has increased
relationship shake- divorce but added “the results presented in this paper can only identify short-term
effects of Internet access, leaving open the possibility of different or opposite long-term
ups bubbling under effect. Certainly, the Internet makes romantic search much easier and hence likely to
become more widespread.” As Kendall points out, for married people using the Internet
the surface in the to look for extramarital affairs, the Internet increases privacy and reduces the chances
United States. of being caught.8
” However, people who feel positively about their current situation are less likely to look
around than people who don’t feel as positive. So as an indicator for potential cyber-
cheating, we looked at how Americans feel in their current relationship situation.
Please check all that apply to how you feel in your current
relationship status.
Men Women Married Gen Y Gen X Boomers Matures Prosumers
N= 500 500 515 181 336 389 94 108
Fulfilled 28% 32% 43% 25% 32% 30% 32% 26%
Settled 36% 40% 50% 28% 41% 36% 48% 30%
Bored 16% 12% 8% 20% 16% 12% 3% 19%
Open to
better offers 17% 13% 4% 22% 16% 14% 3% 17%
Looking to
spice things up 25% 24% 21% 32% 33% 19% 6% 40%
The results show that there is a lot of potential for relationship shake-ups bubbling
under the surface in the United States. Above all, there’s a very significant minority
(overall 25 percent) looking to “spice things up.”
Half of married Americans (50 percent) feel settled in their relationship status but
fewer of them (43 percent) feel fulfilled. In fact, 8 percent feel bored in their
relationship and although just 4 percent are open to better offers, a substantial 21
percent are looking to “spice things up.”
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The bellwether Prosumers point to more casting round for a change of relationship;
fewer of them feel fulfilled (26 percent versus 30 percent of non-Prosumers) or settled
(30 percent versus 39 percent of non-Prosumers), more of them feel bored (19 percent
versus 14 percent of non-Prosumers), and far more of them are looking to spice things
up (40 percent versus 23 percent).
Cheating online - Agreement with the statement: The Internet has
made it easier for people to cheat on their partners.
Men Women Married Gen Y Gen X Boomers Matures Prosumers
N= 500 500 515 181 336 389 94 108
62% 65% 65% 67% 64% 65% 55% 79%
Cheating online - Agreement with the statement: I know somebody
whose relationship ended because of their actions online.
Men Women Married Gen Y Gen X Boomers Matures Prosumers
N= 500 500 515 181 336 389 94 108
31% 30% 29% 49% 32% 27% 8% 55%
Cheating online - Agreement with the statement: Having a strongly
sexual relationship online doesn’t count as cheating on
your partner.
Men Women Married Gen Y Gen X Boomers Matures Prosumers
N= 500 500 515 181 336 389 94 108
6% 4% 6% 4% 6% 6% 2% 4%
More than half of
More than half of Americans of all conditions think the Internet has made it easier for
people to cheat on their partners. Even among the Matures (aged 65 and over), more
than half (55 percent) agree that the Internet has made cheating easier.7 How much of
that is supposition, how much is observation, and how much is personal experience?
“
Americans…think
the Internet has
A strikingly high proportion of the overall sample (31 percent) knows somebody whose
relationship ended because of their actions online. This is a huge impact for technologies made it easier for
that have been truly mainstream for barely a decade. The impact has been observed most
by the youngest cohort (49 percent) but even among the over-65s, it’s on the radar of 8
people to cheat on
their partners.
”
percent.
On the sticky question of online sexual relationships, the great majority of Americans
disagree that “Having a strongly sexual relationship online doesn’t count as cheating on
your partner.” However, not all Americans disagree; 6 percent agree that online sex
doesn’t count as cheating.
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TYPES OF SITES THAT SCORE
Finding satisfactory romantic partners is one of those eternal human challenges, and
modern life hasn’t made it any easier.
Increased mobility makes for stretched and fractured social circles; each new move
means more time and effort building new social ties that may provide or lead to romantic
possibilities. Busier lifestyles leave less time for hanging out and building relationships.
Consumer culture encourages people to expect more and look around for better deals if
they’re not satisfied; the same thinking easily transfers to personal relationships.
Pretty early on in the life of the Web, people realized that the Internet offered plenty of
scope for helping people find romantic partners; that is not a new phenomena. Almost a
decade ago, in 2002, Wired magazine noted the growth of online dating (“Today, one in
five singles looks for love on the Web”) and forecast that it would become the norm
within a couple of decades: “Twenty years from now, the idea that someone looking for
love won’t look for it online will be silly, akin to skipping the card catalog to instead
wander the stacks because ‘the right books are found only by accident’ … After all, how
likely is it that the book of your dreams will just fall off the shelf and into your arms?”9
Online dating site Match.com launched way back in 199510, eHarmony started its online
activities in 200011 and PlentyofFish started in 200412. Nichier sites have been around a
long while, too. The Jewish dating site JDate.com was founded in 199713, the LGBT site
Gay.com launched in 1996.14 And these rub virtual shoulders with a bewildering range of
sites offering romantic matching for all imaginable niches: vegetarians, Catholics, geeks,
deaf and ASL people, golf nuts, Trekkies and even Mac fans.15
To echo Wired’s point, with so many options for finding romantic partners online why
would anybody with Internet access not make use of them?
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Consumer
“
A paper presented to the American Sociological Association in 2010 said that the
Internet is “unambiguously gaining importance over time as a place where couples
meet.” The authors said that in the coming years the Internet could eclipse friends as the culture encourages
most influential way Americans meet their romantic partner.16 Commenting on his
findings, co-author Michael J. Rosenfeld, an associate professor of sociology at Stanford people to expect
University, said: “the Internet is a friend to everybody who is looking for something
that’s hard to find […] And that’s true whether you’re looking for parts for a ’57 Chevy, more and look
or a partner who has some attributes that are uncommon.”17
around for better
There’s no longer any question that the Internet is increasingly becoming the go-to place
for people seeking a romantic partner of any sort. But which bits of the Internet look
deals if they’re
not satisfied…
”
like the best bets?
Could you imagine this type of site/media leading you
into some kind of romantic or erotic relationship? –
Answering probably/definitely
Men Women Married Gen Y Gen X Boomers Matures Prosumers
N= 500 500 515 181 336 389 94 108
Fulfilled 28% 32% 43% 25% 32% 30% 32% 26%
General social networking
sites (e.g., Facebook) 32% 22% 24% 40% 31% 21% 11% 52%
Match-making sites
(e.g., Match, eHarmony) 30% 22% 22% 34% 33% 19% 14% 37%
E-mail 30% 20% 23% 27% 29% 22% 20% 33%
Dating sites 28% 20% 20% 30% 32% 17% 12% 32%
Specialist social networking
sites (e.g., Flickr) 19% 10% 13% 18% 20% 11% 6% 28%
Adult sites 21% 7% 12% 15% 19% 11% 9% 22%
Chat services
(e.g., MSN, AIM, Skype) 21% 12% 13% 23% 23% 11% 4% 22%
Blogs or discussion forums 17% 11% 13% 16% 16% 12% 10% 21%
Classified services
(e.g., Craigslist) 16% 6% 9% 14% 15% 9% 2% 19%
Location-based services
(e.g., FourSquare) 15% 8% 10% 17% 13% 10% 4% 19%
Brand-based site 16% 7% 10% 12% 15% 8% 9% 19%
The specialist sites and media each have their fans as places with a good chance of
leading to a relationship, but top of them all are general social networking sites such as
Facebook. These sites are by far the most promising for the youngest cohort of Gen Y
(40 percent) and for Prosumers (52 percent). Prosumers consistently rated all the
different channels higher than other groups, but the margin is particularly wide for
general social networking sites.
Men rated every channel significantly higher than women; it seems that, across the
board, men are more optimistic than women about their prospects with online
matchmaking and dating.
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WHAT IT ALL MEANS
GENDERS—EQUALLY ONLINE, BUT DIFFERENT
We’re long past the days when the Internet and computers can be cast as the domain of
men (i.e., boys and their toys). Women are fully present on the Internet; still, there’s no
getting away from gender differences in attitudes and the things men and women do
online. According to Aaron Smith, a research specialist at the Pew Internet and American
Life Project, a few years ago men were more likely than women to be online, but that’s no
longer the case. “In general, a lot of the general gender differences in Internet usage that
we saw have pretty much gone away … It tends to show up more in the applications they
use than whether they go online and whether they have a computer.”
The fact that an increasing percentage of relationships and marriages started with
online connections proves that serious numbers of women are seeking and finding
romantic connections online. However, our survey shows that consistently more men than
women are positive about every aspect of online romance. Significantly more men than
women think that every type of electronic/online interaction can lead to some kind of
erotic or romantic relationship, and that it’s possible to have romantic or erotic
relationships on the Internet. Words and images on the Internet have influenced thinking
about sex for significantly more men than women, and far more men than women have
flirted with, been strongly attracted or had a love relationship with somebody online.
The higher percentages of men pursuing romance online should not be interpreted as
meaning that women are not interested in making a whole gamut of romantic connections
online; the percentages for women are lower, but they’re still substantial. What’s more,
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the lower numbers of women may give an advantage to the ones who are actively
searching online, because online dating and matching services are essentially sophisticated
marketplaces bringing supply and demand together. If women are in shorter supply than
men, then their bargaining power should be greater; they should be in a stronger position
More men
“
to be picky. Theoretically, online searching gives women greater quality control. They can
check out potential romantic partners and go through some of the preliminaries from a
safe distance, with far less risk of getting creeped out, groped or worse on a first date. than women think
ONLINE ROMANCE—BLUSH NO MORE that … it’s possible
to have romantic or
Online dating is no longer weird—in fact, it’s smart. It’s no longer the geeky or
desperate exception, it’s the mainstream and increasingly plain vanilla norm. Not all erotic relationships
consumers have had direct personal experience with it yet—at least not that they will
on the Internet.
admit to—but plenty know people who have, and even more have read or heard about
people who have. In a world where prominent tattoos and piercings have moved from the
fringes towards almost-normal, and where people hold loud cell-phone conversations in
public places, online dating hardly merits a raised eyebrow—unless it’s for something on
”
the edge of the moral map.
GENERATIONS—DON’T WRITE OFF THE SENIORS
On virtually every metric in our survey, positive and not-so-positive attitudes towards
online romance correlate directly with age; Gen Y tends to be more positive than Gen X,
who are more positive than Boomers, and they’re more positive than Matures. This is not
at all unexpected.
Gen Y was born into life online; Gen X came to it in young adulthood; Boomers spent
more than half of their lives in a pre-online world; and if Matures speak digital, it’s with
an analog accent. For Gen Y online is “d’oh”, for Matures it’s “Are you sure?”
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The mating agenda is far different for younger cohorts than for older. For Gen Y, it’s all
about checking out the full range of who’s available, playing the field, trying partners
out and maybe hoping to find the One for a serious relationship. For Gen X, there are far
fewer first-timers and far more who have had at least one serious relationship (with the
scars to prove it) and are looking for a change or a whole new start. For Boomers, very
few are first-timers and many are hoping that they’ve still got what it takes for
romance. Whatever fantasies Matures may have must be tempered by what they see in
the mirror and what their physician’s report tells them.
The urges and the energy of younger cohorts in online dating can be pretty much taken
as read; it offers great opportunities to meet their needs. However, the response of
Boomers and Matures is very encouraging for any business offering romance-related
products or services online. As these huge demographics age and live on—and on, and
on—and time takes its toll on their old connections, they will need new connections. For
older people who may not feel like cruising singles bars or ready for senior speed dating,
online services will be a new lease on romantic life.
THE SOFT-SELL MEETS THE MIGHT-BE-INTERESTED
The big
“difference
between general
social networking
sites and dedicated
dating sites is the
difference between
a neighborhood
bar and singles
bar.
”
Prosumers are consistently ahead of the curve on most trends, so it’s particularly
intriguing that a majority of them rate general social networking sites such as Facebook
as offering great chances of leading to romance. General social networking sites also
emerge as top for men, women, Marrieds and Gen Y. Specialist matchmaking sites also
score strongly, but nowhere near as strongly among Prosumers and Gen Y.
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The big difference between general social networking sites and dedicated dating sites is
the difference between a neighborhood bar and singles bar. In general networking sites
and the neighborhood bar, people go along to socialize, to hang out, to meet old friends
and maybe make new friends, to chat and maybe play games with other people. It may
be that the interactions lead organically to romantic connections. In the singles bar and
the online dating site, people are there with a clear agenda: to find a romantic partner.
The social networking site is about interaction; the dating site is about transaction. The
Whether visiting
people who are most at home online—Gen Y and Prosumers—are the ones who are
most likely to regard online as just another space, with its own characteristics, where
they can do what they feel like naturally. Others may still be more inclined to see online
“a dating site or
services as being about transactions and getting things done. a general social
BRANDS: A THIRD WHEEL? networking site,
The space where would-be romancers meet is controlled and strongly branded by the site
consumers are
owners—Facebook, Match.com, etc.—and it’s the site owners who provide the value in there to meet
terms of features and functionality.
and interact with
Whether visiting a dating site or a general social networking site, consumers are there to
each other.
meet and interact with each other. They’re looking for a “product,” for sure, but the
product they’re seeking is a unique individual person who matches their hopes and
desires as near as possible. They’re probably looking for a “deal,” but the deal they’re
seeking is with another person willing to trade time and attention and goodwill and
”
maybe more.
If the romantic encounter were taking place in a physical space, then brands would
surely have their place; food, drink, apparel, fragrance, personal care and maybe in due
course more intimate products. But in the virtual space of online interactions, what’s the
scope for brands to find a place?
Which brands can bring value to the party? How can brands be present and add value
without being a third wheel?
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ENDNOTES:
1 http://www.artsreformation.com/a001/hays-code.html
2 http://www.psywww.com/intropsych/ch16_sfl/six_types_of_love.html
3 http://www.huffingtonpost.com/tom-matlack/perspectives-on-pornograp_b_633647.html
4 http://gizmodo.com/5552899/finally-some-actual-stats-on-internet-porn
5 http://divorce.lovetoknow.com/Divorce_Rates
6 http://marriage101.org/divorce-rates-in-america/
7 http://www.ashleymadison.com/cheating/affair-guarantee-package.html
8 http://www.toddkendall.net/internetdiv.pdf
9 http://www.wired.com/wired/archive/10.11/view.html?pg=2
10 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Match.com -
11 http://www.onlinedatingmagazine.com/history/eharmonyhistory.html
12 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/PlentyofFish
13 http://what-is-what.com/what_is/jdate.html
14 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gay.com
15 http://cupidtino.com/
16 http://www.asanet.org/press/Internet_Access_and_Relationships.cfm
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23. This white paper is the sixth in a series of thought leadership pursuits by Euro RSCG Worldwide PR.
In October 2009, Euro RSCG Worldwide commissioned a survey to map the trajectory of social life and social
media usage in the United States, quizzing 1,228 Americans. A white paper looked at the macro developments
in social media and drew conclusions and implications for marketers and their clients. Our company conducted
an additional survey of 600 Americans about social media and health care. We presented our findings at an
FDA hearing on promoting FDA-regulated medical products online and through social media. To get a copy of
the white paper, please go to our Social Life and Social Media website.
Shortly thereafter, seeking to better understand how teen girls spend, socialize and communicate, Euro RSCG
Worldwide PR commissioned a survey of 100 teenage girls nationwide aged 13 to 18. A March 2010 white
paper presented the proprietary study’s findings in the context of today’s communications and business worlds
as they are increasingly dominated by social and other digital media. We used the information we gathered to
launch The Sisterhood, an agency within an agency that is an insight group to help define the teenage female
consumer’s ideas in fashion and beyond. To get a copy of the white paper, please go to The Sisterhood website.
Euro RSCG Worldwide PR and Euro RSCG Life, the health-focused communications network of Euro RSCG
Worldwide, commissioned the online “mood monitor” survey of 386 Americans in February 2010 that also led
to a white paper. The survey showed that people’s interest in a raft of weighty matters had grown in the
previous 12 to 18 months. And on many points, particularly related to money, Americans tended to net out far
more pessimistic than optimistic on subjects such as quality of life, employment, real estate and schools. Euro
RSCG commissioned a similar poll in the bellwether state of Connecticut. For a copy of the reports, please go
to the White Papers page of the Euro RSCG PR website.
In summer 2010, ERWW PR took part in a five-country study by Euro RSCG Social that looked at how
millennials (people aged 18 to 25) are making themselves felt in the workplace, consumer markets and
politics. The biggest bottom line in the survey: Young people across the world think the world needs changing,
and they’re confident social media will give them the power to accomplish that change. To download the report
based on the study, please go to our Social Life and Social Media website. A new report built on the same
study, discussing differences between genders in that age group, launched this fall.
In January 2011, for the study “Male in the U.S.A.,” Euro RSCG drew on its long history of marketing to
men—including the popularization of “metrosexual” in 2003—plus the results of recent proprietary studies,
independent research and insights gained through ERWW PR’s global trendspotting network, connecting the
dots between all of them. Men in the United States today have many differences, but there are commonalities,
and the paper addresses both. To try to accurately illustrate a portrait of the American man, it looks at
demographics, the wealth illusion, the effects of the recession, male icons in Hollywood and beyond. A
conclusion offers a list of 10 points helping to define the American male in 2011. To read this report, please
go to the White Papers page of the Euro RSCG PR website.
And for “Sex (and Love) in the Social Media Age,” we drew on the results of a proprietary online survey of
1,000 Americans, plus the research and insights we gain via our extensive trendspotting work to tackle the
new realities of intimacy.
Through such research and analysis, we are addressing topics that are not only imperative to our clients and
our own growth but are also driving news about the future. The studies are places to listen and learn. They’re
propelling momentum for companies, brands and causes. They’re satisfying the new value exchange, where
consumers want brands that listen, converse and enable them.
Please join us in the conversation.
Marian Salzman
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