This document provides tips for improving conversation skills. It recommends pausing before responding to avoid interrupting others and to give careful consideration to what was said. Asking open-ended questions like "how do you mean?" keeps the conversation flowing and demonstrates active listening. Paraphrasing the speaker shows you are paying attention to understand their perspective. Listening builds trust and improves self-esteem in both parties. It takes discipline to focus on others' words given our faster processing speed, but practicing listening makes you a better conversationalist and develops your character.

1. Improve your Conversation
(Start communication in a different way)

2. An inspiration from management Article
By: Brian Tracy
By: Brian Tracy

3. One key to becoming a great conversationalist is to
pause before replying.
pause before replying

4. A short pause, of three to five seconds, is a very
classy thing to do in a conversation.
classy thing to do in a conversation

5. The Benefits of Pausing

6. First benefit,
You avoid running the risk of interrupting if the other
person is just catching his or her breath before continuing.
person is just catching his or her breath before continuing

7. Second benefit,
Second benefit
You show the other person that you are giving careful
consideration to his or her words by not jumping in with
your own comments at the earliest opportunity.

8. Third benefit,
Third benefit
After pausing you will actually hear the other person
better. His or her words will soak into a deeper level of
your mind and you will understand what he or she is
saying with greater clarity. By pausing, you mark yourself
as a brilliant conversationalist.
as a brilliant conversationalist

9. Ask Questions

10. Another way to become a great conversationalist is
to question for clarification.
to question for clarification.

11. Never assume that you understand what the person
is saying or trying to say. Instead, ask, quot;How do you
mean, exactly?”

12. This is the most powerful question I've ever learned
for controlling a conversation.
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13. It is almost impossible not to answer.

14. When you ask, quot;How do you mean?quot; the other
person cannot stop himself or herself from
answering more extensively.
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15. You can then follow up with other open‐ended
questions and keep the conversation rolling along.
questions and keep the conversation rolling along.

16. Paraphrase the Speaker's Words
After you've nodded and smiled, you can then say,
quot;Let me see if I've got this right. What you're saying
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is . . .“

17. Demonstrate Attentiveness
Demonstrate Attentiveness
By paraphrasing the speaker's words, you demonstrate in
no uncertain terms that you are genuinely paying
attention and making every effort to understand his or her
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thoughts or feelings.

18. Demonstrate Attentiveness
And the wonderful thing is, when you practice effective
listening, other people will begin to find you fascinating.
listening other people will begin to find you fascinating

19. Demonstrate Attentiveness
They will want to be around you. They will feel
relaxed and happy in your presence.
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20. Listening Builds Trust
The reason why listening is such a powerful tool in
developing the art and skill of conversation is because
developing the art and skill of conversation is because
listening builds trust.

21. Listening Builds Trust
The more you listen to another person, the more he
or she trusts you and believes in you.

22. Listening Builds Trust
Listening Builds Trust
Listening also builds self‐esteem. When you listen
attentively to another person, his or her self‐esteem will
naturally increase.

23. Listening Develops Discipline
Finally, listening builds self‐discipline in the listener.
Because your mind can process words at 500‐600 words
per minute, and we can only talk at about 150 words per
per minute and we can only talk at about 150 words per
minute, it takes a real effort to keep your attention
focused on another persons? words.

24. Listening Develops Discipline
If you do not practice self‐discipline in conversation, your
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mind will wander in a hundred different directions.
The more you work at paying close attention to what the
other person is saying, the more self‐disciplined you will
become.
become

25. Listening Develops Discipline
In other words, by learning to listen well, you actually
develop your own character and your own personality.
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26. Action Exercises
Here are two things you can do immediately to put these
ideas into action.
ideas into action
First, make a habit of pausing before replying in any
conversation or discussion. You will be amazed at how
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powerful this technique really is.
Second, continually ask, quot;How do you mean?quot; in response to
anything that is not perfectly clear. This gives you even more
time to listen well.
time to listen well.

27. Thank you,
Thank you
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