Most guys are incredibly nervous when approaching girls due to assumptions they make about a girl's looks and personality without talking to her. This document recommends having "deal breakers" like smoking, religion, or political views, and talking to girls just long enough to discover these deal breakers and disqualify the girl in your mind without rejection. Doing this with 10-20 girls will help realize there is more to girls than looks and destroy feelings of needing to qualify to a "perfect" girl, making future approaches less anxiety-inducing.

2. Most guys are incredibly nervous
when they approach girls.

3. In fact, it can take years of practice to
fully get over this.

4. And even guys who DO get over this,
once they're off the market for a
while, their skills will go back to zero.

5. If you've ever been in a relationship for
a while and then suddenly tried the
market, you may have felt WAY out of
your league.

6. Why is this?

7. One of the reasons is all of the
assumptions that guys make about
girls.

8. Since guys are hard wired to be
attracted primarily to looks, we
assume that if she's cute, then every
other part of her is good also.

9. Which means when we walk over
there, we assume that SHE already
passes our "tests" and it's completely
up to us to pass her tests.

10. This is enough to give ANYBODY the
jitters, no matter WHAT it is your
doing.

11. Luckily, the part about her looks being
"good enough" is absolutely false.

12. And here's a way to prove it to
yourself, AND get over your approach
anxiety faster than you ever could just
by pushing through them.

13. This will take some time, but you'll be
gaining an EXTRAORDINARY amount of
experience, AND decreasing your
levels of anxiety significantly.

14. Here's what you do.

15. First, come up with some deal
breakers.

16. Either pure red flags, (according to
you, nobody else) or things you'd
rather she didn't have.

17. This must be personality traits, habits,
beliefs, things that will take a little bit
of conversation to get to.

18. Smoking, a certain religion or political
affiliation, cat person (or dog person)
anything that you don't imagine your
"Dream Girl" of having.

19. Then, simply talk to girls LONG
ENOUGH to disqualify them.

20. Don't get ANY numbers.

21. After you go through ten or twenty
girls, you'll have a sudden burst of
realization.

22. That there's MUCH more to girls than
just their looks.

23. And that will absolutely DESTROY any
feelings of "she's perfect and I must
qualify myself to her."

24. ALL without getting any rejection.

25. Now, it's important to have a friendly
attitude while doing this.

26. Don't get angry, don't put them down
(out loud or in your mind).

27. Just talk to them long enough until you
get a red flag.

28. Then simply disqualify them IN YOUR
MIND, politely end the conversation,
and walk away.

29. Once you leave the mindset of the
desperate beggar, and enter the
mindset of the sorter, it will get much,
much easier.

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