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Unlocking Attraction: Mastering the Art of Dating and Captivating Women
Contents
Introduction.......................................................................................................3
Part 1: Understanding Women's Behavior........................................................4
Chapter 1. Passing a Woman’s Tests ..................................................................4
Chapter 2. These 3 Deadly Seduction Sins..........................................................6
Chapter 3. 5 Weird Ways Girls Test a Guy to See How Desperate or Needy He
Acts ....................................................................................................................8
Part 2: Building Attraction...............................................................................10
Chapter 4. Avoid THESE attraction killers .........................................................10
Chapter 5. 8 Common behaviors that make you look needy............................11
Chapter 6. 4 Attraction building benefits of the pull back ................................ 13
Part 3: Gaining Control and Confidence ..........................................................15
Chapter 7. 2 Ways to Gain the Upper Hand with a Girl ....................................15
Chapter 8. Engineering Love.............................................................................17
Part 4: Navigating Relationships .....................................................................19
Chapter 9. 3 Reasons a Girl will Go Cold...........................................................19
Chapter 10. What makes a girl fall in love ........................................................22
Conclusion .......................................................................................................24
Introduction to "Unlock Her Legs" ..................................................................25
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Introduction
In the intricate dance of dating, understanding the dynamics of attraction is
akin to possessing a master key. Welcome to "Unlocking Attraction: Mastering
the Art of Dating and Captivating Women." This book is your guide through the
labyrinth of romantic pursuit, offering insights, strategies, and techniques to
navigate the complexities of the male-female dynamic.
Every interaction between a man and a woman is imbued with nuances,
subtleties, and unspoken signals. Whether you're embarking on a new romantic
journey or seeking to enhance your existing relationships, this book aims to
equip you with the tools to decipher these subtleties and leverage them to
your advantage.
Throughout the chapters that follow, we will delve into the psychology of
attraction, exploring the intricate mechanisms that govern how men and
women perceive each other, communicate, and form connections. From
decoding the enigmatic tests women employ to evaluate a man's character to
mastering the art of seduction without succumbing to common pitfalls, each
chapter offers practical advice rooted in psychological principles and real-world
experiences.
Whether you're aiming to reignite the spark in a long-term relationship or
captivating the attention of someone new, "Unlocking Attraction" empowers
you to approach dating with confidence, authenticity, and finesse. Join me on
this journey as we unravel the mysteries of attraction and embark on the path
to mastering the art of dating and captivating women.
Introducing the author
Chu Nam is the author of this book and the creator of 2improveyourself.com, a
comprehensive personal development blog. Beyond his expertise in personal
growth, Chu Nam is also known for sharing insights on dating and attracting
women, drawing from the teachings of renowned expert Bobby Rio. Through
this book, he brings forth a wealth of knowledge and practical advice to help
readers navigate the complexities of relationships and self-improvement.
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Part 1: Understanding Women's Behavior
Chapter 1. Passing a Woman’s Tests
In the article below, we wanted to discuss one of the most critical elements to
seducing that one girl you really want- your emotions.
Unfortunately, most guys emotions DO NOT act in their best interest when it
comes to getting a girl (especially when you really like her.)
You’re emotions cause all kinds of mischief like making you act insecure, needy,
clingy, and predictable – All things that MURDER attraction.
The reality is that when these “emotions” take over – its like it disengages your
logical brain. And you start doing all the things you know you SHOULD NOT be
doing…
Signs You’re Acting “Needy”
– feeling a compulsion to call or text her
– Unable to “play it cool”
– blurting out your feelings too soon
– making yourself too available
– showing noticeable jealousy when she mentions other guys
– showing too much disappointment when she can’t hang out
Here’s the worse part –
She is going to TEST YOU to see how “needy” she can make you – (she does this
subconsciously of course) – Its her way of screening out weak guys.
She’ll cancel plans and pay close attention to how you react –
She’ll “forget” to text you back to see how you handle it –
She’ll challenge you on stuff to see how quickly you back down –
Here’s a very simple example of a “test” – If you’re listening to a certain type of
music that you like she might say “Do you like that?” in a tone that expresses
that she definitely doesn’t.
How do you respond? Do you lie and say “not really”? Or “It’s ok”
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If so, you’re TRYING HARDER. And the pendulum of power is tipped in her
favor.
– And she doesn’t want that. She would much rather you look at her and say
“yea, this song kicks ass.”
No girl wants a guy who won’t defend himself. Even against her.
Here’s the good news: You can correct this imbalance, and rather easily when
you know exactly what to do.
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Chapter 2. These 3 Deadly Seduction Sins
I call these the “deadly seduction sins”, and if you ever had a girl you though
liked you go ICE COLD and lose interest, or if the girls you fall for never seem to
like you back, you’re probably making at least one of these mistakes.
Seduction Sin #1: – Letting Her Know How You Feel Too Soon
Sure it feels good to release all those bottled up feelings and blurt out “I love
you” or tell her how special she is. And man, if Hollywood doesn’t make that
look like the key to her heart.
But once the “challenge” disappears, usually so does SHE.
If a girl suddenly goes cold on you, loses interest or pulls away, I can almost
guarantee its because she figured you out to soon. And that bores her.
And with girls boredom = death.
Bottom line? Once a girl knows she has you, It’s OVER and you can never have
her.
Seduction Sin # 2: – Being Too “Agreeable”
When you have a lot in common with a girl, share the same sense of humor,
get along like peanut butter and jelly, you probably start thinking “girlfriend
material” or “she’s the one”, and decide, “I better not mess this up.”
Once that thought goes through your mind your like a sitting duck, Because you
go into “perfect guy” mode, And start acting like a super nice, watered down,
Rated PG version of yourself, afraid to offend or upset her.
Big mistake.
You’re forgetting one fat fact: Girls LOVE DRAMA
That’s why most “nice guys” lose the girls they really like. Girls get bored. She
wants some good old-fashioned drama.
Bottom line, if you’re not occasionally disappointing her, pissing her off, or
confusing the shit out of her, She’s probably not thinking about you at all.
Seduction Sin #3: -Trying Too Hard
In every relationship one person tries harder. And the person who tries harder
holds less power. Once she recognizes that she has the power, game over, you
lose, collect your things and go home.
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On the other hand, girls are POWER HUNGRY. When a cool, hot girl senses YOU
have the upper hand, Her mind literally can’t handle it. It FORCES her to chase
after you. (This is especially true if you’re not her usual type)
Want to know something else?
Girls are constantly testing you to see how much power they hold. It could be
something as simple as playing with her phone while you’re talking to her,
fishing for a compliment, or using her sexuality to see what she can get from
you,
How you react to these tests lets her know how much power she has over you,
(Most guys completely miss these tests, and when you’re able to spot them you
have a huge advantange over other guys).
The Strange Thing About These Sins,
So, here’s the strange thing about these sins. And what makes them so
dangerous,
They feel like the right move. Sending a girl you like flowers at work feels
natural.
Responding to her texts right away feels natural. Trying hard to impress her and
show her you’d make the perfect boyfriend feels natural.
Yet, everyone of these things is more likely to scare her away then make her
want you.
C’mon it feels so natural can it really be that bad?
The short answer is yes.
Because it feel so natural it’s what every guy does, and it’s exactly what she
expects, and makes you completely predictable.
And remember, one a girl figures you out it over, and you can never have her.
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Chapter 3. 5 Weird Ways Girls Test a Guy to See How Desperate or Needy He
Acts
When it comes to dating, both men and women have their ways of assessing
potential partners. Girls, in particular, may resort to unconventional methods
to gauge a guy’s level of desperation or neediness. These subtle tests can
reveal valuable insights into a man’s emotional stability, confidence, and
independence. In this article, we will explore five peculiar ways in which girls
evaluate a guy’s demeanor to determine his level of desperation or neediness.
Understanding these tests can help men gain a better understanding of
themselves and improve their dating experiences.
Delayed Text Responses Test:
In this digital age, text messages have become an integral part of dating
communication. A common test girls may employ is to intentionally delay their
responses to text messages. By doing so, they gauge how a guy reacts to the
delay. If he becomes anxious, repeatedly checks his phone, or bombards her
with follow-up messages, it may indicate a higher level of desperation or
neediness. Conversely, if he remains calm and composed, it demonstrates his
confidence and self-assuredness.
Social Media Dilemma Test:
Social media has transformed the way people interact and share their lives.
Girls may observe a guy’s behavior on social media platforms to assess his level
of desperation. For instance, if a girl purposely takes longer to respond to his
posts or tags, she may monitor how he reacts. Does he become overly
concerned about her acknowledgment? Does he comment excessively or
inquire about her whereabouts? Such actions might indicate a need for
constant validation, potentially signaling desperation or neediness.
Busy Schedule Test:
A girl might intentionally fill her schedule with various activities and obligations
to see how a guy reacts. By presenting herself as busy, she evaluates whether
he becomes overly persistent or clingy, or if he respects her space and engages
in his own pursuits. A well-adjusted individual will understand the importance
of personal boundaries and pursue his own interests rather than fixating solely
on the girl’s availability.
Impromptu Plans Test:
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Girls may also test a guy’s level of desperation by suggesting spontaneous plans
or last-minute outings. The purpose is to observe his reaction and assess if he
readily drops his own plans or obligations to accommodate her. A guy who
alters his entire schedule or cancels pre-existing commitments at the drop of a
hat may appear overly eager or needy. Conversely, a man who values his own
time and commitments demonstrates independence and self-assurance.
Emotional Availability Test:
Girls often seek emotional connection and support in relationships. However,
they may test a guy’s emotional availability to avoid someone who appears
overly needy or desperate for constant validation. To conduct this test, a girl
may subtly share personal challenges or express vulnerability. Observing how a
guy responds can reveal whether he is genuinely empathetic and supportive or
if he displays signs of desperation by trying to solve all her problems
immediately. A balanced and secure individual will offer comfort and
understanding without overwhelming her.
Conclusion:
Understanding the unconventional ways girls assess a guy’s level of
desperation or neediness can provide valuable insights for men navigating the
dating world. These tests, although seemingly peculiar, help girls determine a
guy’s emotional stability, confidence, and independence. By recognizing these
tests, men can focus on cultivating healthy dating behaviors, such as
maintaining their own lives, respecting personal boundaries, and displaying
emotional availability without appearing desperate. Ultimately, a balanced
approach to dating and relationships will foster healthier connections and
enhance personal growth for both individuals involved.
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Part 2: Building Attraction
Chapter 4. Avoid THESE attraction killers
I grew up watching John Cusak movies. I really wanted to believe that standing
outside some girl’s window with a boom box blasting a love song was the key
to her heart.
Unfortunately, it’s not. And even though logically most of us know this, years of
“pop song programming” seem to kick in every time we like a girl and lead us to
make some very damaging mistakes.
Here are 3 of the most toxic killers of attraction:
1. Sending Her Flowers at Work
This move REAKS of desperation. It also says “I’m completely Unoriginal.” If you
send a girl flowers early into a relationship you trigger her “CLINGY Alarm.” And
she’ll begin worrying that if things end you’re going to be one of those guys
who gets weird and creepy. Make no mistake, the thoughts that begin flowing
through her mind when the flowers arrive are almost never positive.
2. Confessing Your Feelings too Soon
As guys when we have all these bottled-up feelings for a girl we want to blurt
them out. We think: if only she knew how much I like her she’ll surely want to
be my girlfriend. WRONG. The minute you confess your feelings to a girl you’re
revealing your hand, and leaving her nothing to work for. Remember, the less
she has to work for you, the more bored she becomes.
3. Being too Available
There are a few reasons this will kill her attraction towards you. First off, it
eliminates some of your mystery. Second, it doesn’t give her time to miss you
and anticipate seeing you. And third, we place less value on things that are easy
to obtain. Which means if you’re always around she begins to value you less.
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Chapter 5. 8 Common behaviors that make you look needy
There’s not a day that goes by when a guy doesn’t email us asking for advice on
a specific girl confused as to why he’s not “getting physical” with her even
though she seems to like him,
The truth is most guys confuse “boyfriend behavior” with “get her into bed”
behavior.
And if you start displaying “boyfriend behavior” BEFORE you’ve gotten her into
bed, you come across as needy and TRY HARD, (and will NEVER sleep with her)
Here are some examples of “boyfriend behavior” that if displayed too much,
too soon, will KILL her attraction towards you.
1. Trying too hard to find commonalities and rapport.
2. Focus on showing her that you have a good job, like to travel, and other
“impress her” traits.
3. Taking her side when she bad mouthed players, and act like you’re totally
the opposite of those “jerks.”
4. Respecting her too much to make a move.
5. Being too generous towards her.
6. Listening to all her problems and trying to solve them for her.
7. Make a lot of compromises so that you get along better.
8. Paying too much attention to her.
If you’ve been dating a girl for a year, it is fine to do all of those things for a girl.
And if you want to keep her, you probably have to.
But, when you’re first meeting a girl the LAST thing you want to do is
demonstrate what a great boyfriend you would be.
Why?
Because it DOES NOT create attraction in a girl. Each of the traits listed above
create more “comfort” than sexual attraction, and will usually land you in the
friend zone if you start acting that way BEFORE sleeping with her.
Also, when you start acting like her boyfriend before you’ve slept with her,
you’ve already handed HER the power. And once she is holding the power, its
VERY unlikely you’ll EVER sleep with her.
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Here’s the good news: Even if you’ve already displayed some of the traits listed
above to a girl, you can still get her into bed.
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Chapter 6. 4 Attraction building benefits of the pull back
Did you know there is one simple “move” that will boost the attraction of level
of any girl you’re dating?
This one move (that takes almost no skill to pull off) taps more “psychological”
attraction trigger points then just about anything else you can do.
This one move is called “The Pull Back.” And its super effective.
Calling (a little) less or not calling for a couple of days at a time.
Wanting to see her (a little) less than you did in the beginning.
Being (a little) cold, distant, or aloof.
Acting (a little) less enthusiastic and certain of her
Sounds sneaky? It is. But its extremely powerful if done in small doses and
strategic times.
Here are some of the benefits that make this so powerful:
#1- She spends more time thinking about you:
You’re sudden change in behavior will have her sitting at home replaying her
conversations with you in her mind, (and remember, if you can make a girl
think about you when you’re not around, you can make her fall in love with
you)
(Side Note: Not capturing her attention is the #1 reason she’ll sleep with
another guy!)
#2- She’ll begin working harder to win you over:
When a girl senses you’re losing interest, she’ll begin trying harder to win you
back over. And remember, if she’s trying harder, you’re holding the power.
#3- She dwells on your good qualities.
When think she thinks she’s about to lose you, she’ll only focus on your positive
qualities. Its in her nature to want more what she can’t have.
#4- It increases her anticipation to see you.
If she’s uncertain about if/when she’ll see you again, she’ll begin to strongly
desire you. She’ll begin to convince herself that she absolutely has to have you
inside her.
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The list actually goes on and on with regard to how effective “The Pull Back” is
at increasing her attraction for you, amping up sexual desire, and taking the
power in the relationship,
Want to know about other techniques that can get a female friend to desire
you sexually, have co-workers or classmates fantasizing about you, and makes
you look like the MAN to everyone in your social circle?
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Part 3: Gaining Control and Confidence
Chapter 7. 2 Ways to Gain the Upper Hand with a Girl
I bet you didn’t know this,
Every time a guy and a girl start talking, one person tries harder, and the
person who tries harder holds less power. Once she recognizes that she has the
power, game over, you lose, collect your consolation prize and go home.
This why you’ve got to immediately establish that you have the upperhand,
Here’s one of my favorite “power plays” early on,
When you’re out at a bar or restaurant, say, “what do you want to drink?”
Then order her something completely different and say, “you’re going to like
this much better.”
Its playful but it establishes right off the bat that you’re not afraid to call the
shots,
Get Her to Buy You a Drink
Here’s another one, get her to buy you a drink.
If she asks for a drink say “you got this round?”
Or if you’ve already bought her one, when you finish your drink show her your
empty glass and say “your turn.”
You’ll be amazed that the simple trick of getting her to pull out her wallet and
buy you a drink boosts her attraction towards you,
Its like her brain is subconsciously going “I must really like this guy”,
Get Her Chasing Your Validation
Here’s a story rob (co-creator of Unlock Her Legs) just told me about some 22
year old crossfit instructor he banged last night,
“So, the first couple times i tried talking to her she blows me off, One time she
was even pretty rude about it. Now since she’s in my social circle, i run into her
at parties pretty often,
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So i see her at a party and i pull her aside and say, “let me take you on a ‘ game
of thrones’ date” (someone told me she’s a big fan.) And she got all excited and
was like, “you like game of thrones too?”
And i playfully said, “no, that’s for nerds and people who don’t have sex,which
are you”,
And she told me last night (as she was putting her panties back on) that when i
did that she got a little offended but it also made her start paying attention to
me,
Once i had her attention I used the scrambler to make her earn my respect,
I made her jump through a bunch of hoop… I got her addicted to my validation
rather than the other way where you’re chasing hers. Even if she doesn’t like
you initially (which i don’t think she did), you can actually turn the tables and it
becomes more of a challenge to her pride than anything else.”
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Chapter 8. Engineering Love
In my previous article I talked about how you don’t get a woman to fall in love
with you by things you say,
Because love actually happens when she’s away from you,
when she can’t stop thinking about you,
when she finds herself repeating your name in her mind over and over again,
And although she doesn’t quite understand why, she wants to see you so bad it
HURTS
That’s love. And its something you can actually “engineer.”
The “Emotion Game”
Love is what I call an “Emotions Game.”
And its all about getting a woman emotionally addicted to you. So that you can
fully capture her attention.
You’ve probably already heard the saying “create a roller-coaster of emotions”
for her. But my guess is you don’t fully understand the concept.
I say this because every day I get emails from guys asking:
“How do I talk about emotions” with her?”
“What are some emotional topics?”
That’s ALL WRONG.
Getting a girl “emotionally” addicted to being around you is NOT about talking
about specific emotions..
Its about creating them in her.
Yes. Your ONLY job is to create full range of emotions in a woman. Most guys
stop at the obvious ones like anger, joy, horniness…
But the real “Gems”, the ones that create the drama, intrigue, and fascination
that captures a woman’s mind are the less obvious ones:
anticipation
surprise
trust
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confusion
Its the surprise that keeps her on her toes, that holds her interest, that has
wondering what’s coming next.
Its during the confusion of trying to figure you out , that you begin to occupy a
larger and larger space in her mind
Its during the anticipation of waiting for your next text that she begins to
convince herself she’s in love with you,
Love does NOT happen when you’re completely content. This is why most
“nice” guys lose girl they really like.
Love happens when you start to feel like you’re losing control,
Think about the last time you were in love with a girl. I bet you felt a little
powerless a little helpless, and had a constant sense of a little anxiety,
And the only “fix” was the woman.
And that feeling, love, is something you can engineer.
In the “Seduction Weapons” portion of Unlock Her Legs I give 12 weapons of
seduction.
These are 12 ways to induce specific emotions in a woman,
These are 12 ways to capture her attention and basically have her thoughts
glued on you,
Until she begins to think she’s in love with you.
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Part 4: Navigating Relationships
Chapter 9. 3 Reasons a Girl will Go Cold
I was working with one of my private coaching clients, Steve (not his real name.
And Steve has run into a dilemma that a lot of guys face when they finally get
good at attracting women. They have trouble keeping the ones they really
want.
Steve told me a story of how he had recently met a girl through a mutual
friend,
“She was hot, smart, and totally into me, We were talking almost every day.”
he explained to me.
Then then she went cold.
“All the sudden I could tell things had changed. I could just feel it in my gut. It
was over”
And sure enough, a week later she started making excuses why she couldn’t
hang out,
And finally, she was gone.
So what did Steve do wrong?
It was three main things,
(AND PAY ATTENTION BECAUSE THESE THREE THINGS MIGHT BE HOLDING YOU
BACK TOO)
3 Reasons a Girl Loses Interest
I had Steve send me some transcripts of his text messages with her,
And I also asked some pretty intimate questions about how he felt about her,
and how he expressed it to her,
1. He was way too needy
Yes. An obvious one. But here’s the thing with neediness. Most guys assume
because they feel a certain way towards a girl, that she feels the same way.
And they think “Ah,I can finally drop the game.”
Unfortunately, you can’t.
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As I scanned over Steve’s text chats I noticed he continually sent her things like
“what you doing today?” And always seemed to want to be in contact with her,
And he NEVER ended the exchanges first. NEVER.
He also expressed major disappointment the few times she turned down one of
his invites to go out. When a girl is still making up her mind about you, you’ve
got to avoid putting any pressure to make a quick decision. This is because
almost always she’ll choose the one you don’t like.
The best way to do this is NEVER make up YOUR mind about a girl too soon. Be
the one holding out to make sure what that she’s the one you really want.
And the ironic thing is that when you take this attitude, you’ll find that she
becomes the one that gets a little “needy”
2. Insecurity
While Steve’s game dramatically improved over the past year, he still had a self
image of a guy who got picked on in high school. And was never quite
comfortable around “the cool crowd.”
What a lot of dating gurus fail to tell you is that once you start scoring hotter
chicks, you’re going to have to start socializing with a different crowd. And
you’ve got to be comfortable in those situation.
Steve wasn’t.
And his insecurity was obvious. Steve had what i refer to in my as “Us vs Them”
mentality towards hot chicks and alpha guys. He still sort of resented that he
wasn’t part of the club. And tried to make himself feel better by criticizing
them, and pointing out their deficiency. Which Only served to make HIM come
across as petty and insecure to the woman.
3. Lack of ambition
lazyYounger guys can get away with lack of ambition. But once you’re over
twenty five a woman immediately recognizes where you fit on the totem pole.
And MOST women much rather prefer to be with a guy who has the attitude of
“I’m going to conquer the world,”
On the other hand, Steve worked a job he hated, and bitched about it
constantly. Ambition turns women on. Period. A “Poor me” attitude just as
quickly turns them off.
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If you want a woman to be excited about being with you, You need to be
excited about your future, about where you’re going in life, Make her want to
come along for the ride,
Make yourself an opportunity she can’t pass up,
As you can see, Keeping a girl interested in you after you have attracted her, is
much more of an internal thing,
You can fake a girl out in a bar. You can fake her out for a few dates, But if
you’re not the total package internally, you can bet your last penny that she’s
going to realize it sooner rather than later.
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Chapter 10. What makes a girl fall in love
Every day I get an email similar to this:
“There is this girl I’m talking to. I really want her to be my girlfriend. What can I
say to her?”
Here is my answer: Nothing you can “say” will make her fall in love with you.
In fact, you will usually “blow it” if you attempt to let a girl know how you feel
(especially if it’s early on.)
Here’s the problem most guys run into –
Once they like a girl they think they need to express this to her – they think that
“if she knows how much I like her” she’ll want to be my girlfriend.
WRONG.
Love is psychological.
Women (and men) fall in love due to a psychological process that occurs in our
own mind.
Women don’t fall in love while they are with you –
She falls in love while she is away from you thinking about you –
And the more you can get her thinking about you -. The more she will begin to
convince herself that
she is in love with you.
In the “Seduction Weapons” portion of The Scrambler I teach 12 weapons of
seduction –
These are 12 things that will keep her thoughts focused on YOU when you’re
not around.
12 Weapons of Seduction
The first and easiest of the 12 weapons is ambiguity –
Women love drama (how else do you think there would be 5 different
Housewives of (insert city) shows
on TV?)
If you want to keep her attention – you’ve got to provide her that drama she
craves.
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Ambiguity is a great way to do this. You are sending her mixed signals. You are
showing her multiple sides of your personality –
Sometimes you make her feel like she excites you –
Sometimes you make her feel like you are losing interest and she bores you –
Sound cruel?
Well, if you think back on the girls you fell in love with – Chances are she made
you feel this exact way. Chances are she sent a lot of mixed signals.
Am I correct?
I didn’t invent the game. But I play to win.
There are 11 more seduction weapons in Unlock Her Legs (some much sneakier
than this.)
Remember “attention” is a commodity. We only have so much of it. He who
occupies the most of her attention wins.
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Conclusion
As we reach the conclusion of "Unlocking Attraction: Mastering the Art of
Dating and Captivating Women," I want to extend my sincerest gratitude to
you, the reader, for embarking on this journey with me. Throughout this book,
we've explored the intricate dynamics of attraction, delving into the depths of
human psychology and offering practical strategies to navigate the
complexities of romantic pursuit.
Remember, mastery in the realm of dating is not about manipulation or deceit,
but rather about genuine connection and understanding. By embracing
authenticity, confidence, and empathy, you can forge meaningful connections
that transcend superficiality and stand the test of time.
As you close this book, I encourage you to continue your journey of self-
discovery and growth. Approach every interaction with curiosity and
compassion, and never underestimate the power of vulnerability and honesty
in fostering genuine connections.
Thank you once again for entrusting me with your pursuit of love and
companionship. May your future endeavors be filled with fulfillment, joy, and
meaningful connections.
Warm regards,
[Chu Nam]
BE YOUR OWN LIFE COACH 2improveyourself.com
25
Introduction to "Unlock Her Legs"
Now that you've gained insights into the intricacies of attraction and dating, I'd
like to introduce you to a program that complements the principles discussed
in this book: "Unlock Her Legs."
Created for men seeking to capture the attention of that elusive woman,
"Unlock Her Legs" offers a unique approach to winning over the object of your
desire. Whether you're looking to ignite passion, inspire devotion, or foster a
deep emotional connection, this program provides invaluable tools and
techniques to achieve your goals.
At the heart of "Unlock Her Legs" lies "THE SCRAMBLER" – a series of
psychological mind games designed to unlock a woman's desires and make her
irresistibly drawn to you. Through strategic application of these techniques,
you'll learn to navigate the intricacies of female psychology and cultivate a
connection that transcends mere attraction.
If you're ready to take your dating game to the next level and unlock the
potential of your romantic pursuits, consider exploring "Unlock Her Legs" and
discover the power of "THE SCRAMBLER" for yourself.

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Unlocking Attraction: Mastering the Art of Dating and Captivating Women

  • 1. BE YOUR OWN LIFE COACH 2improveyourself.com 1
  • 2. BE YOUR OWN LIFE COACH 2improveyourself.com 2 Unlocking Attraction: Mastering the Art of Dating and Captivating Women Contents Introduction.......................................................................................................3 Part 1: Understanding Women's Behavior........................................................4 Chapter 1. Passing a Woman’s Tests ..................................................................4 Chapter 2. These 3 Deadly Seduction Sins..........................................................6 Chapter 3. 5 Weird Ways Girls Test a Guy to See How Desperate or Needy He Acts ....................................................................................................................8 Part 2: Building Attraction...............................................................................10 Chapter 4. Avoid THESE attraction killers .........................................................10 Chapter 5. 8 Common behaviors that make you look needy............................11 Chapter 6. 4 Attraction building benefits of the pull back ................................ 13 Part 3: Gaining Control and Confidence ..........................................................15 Chapter 7. 2 Ways to Gain the Upper Hand with a Girl ....................................15 Chapter 8. Engineering Love.............................................................................17 Part 4: Navigating Relationships .....................................................................19 Chapter 9. 3 Reasons a Girl will Go Cold...........................................................19 Chapter 10. What makes a girl fall in love ........................................................22 Conclusion .......................................................................................................24 Introduction to "Unlock Her Legs" ..................................................................25
  • 3. BE YOUR OWN LIFE COACH 2improveyourself.com 3 Introduction In the intricate dance of dating, understanding the dynamics of attraction is akin to possessing a master key. Welcome to "Unlocking Attraction: Mastering the Art of Dating and Captivating Women." This book is your guide through the labyrinth of romantic pursuit, offering insights, strategies, and techniques to navigate the complexities of the male-female dynamic. Every interaction between a man and a woman is imbued with nuances, subtleties, and unspoken signals. Whether you're embarking on a new romantic journey or seeking to enhance your existing relationships, this book aims to equip you with the tools to decipher these subtleties and leverage them to your advantage. Throughout the chapters that follow, we will delve into the psychology of attraction, exploring the intricate mechanisms that govern how men and women perceive each other, communicate, and form connections. From decoding the enigmatic tests women employ to evaluate a man's character to mastering the art of seduction without succumbing to common pitfalls, each chapter offers practical advice rooted in psychological principles and real-world experiences. Whether you're aiming to reignite the spark in a long-term relationship or captivating the attention of someone new, "Unlocking Attraction" empowers you to approach dating with confidence, authenticity, and finesse. Join me on this journey as we unravel the mysteries of attraction and embark on the path to mastering the art of dating and captivating women. Introducing the author Chu Nam is the author of this book and the creator of 2improveyourself.com, a comprehensive personal development blog. Beyond his expertise in personal growth, Chu Nam is also known for sharing insights on dating and attracting women, drawing from the teachings of renowned expert Bobby Rio. Through this book, he brings forth a wealth of knowledge and practical advice to help readers navigate the complexities of relationships and self-improvement.
  • 4. BE YOUR OWN LIFE COACH 2improveyourself.com 4 Part 1: Understanding Women's Behavior Chapter 1. Passing a Woman’s Tests In the article below, we wanted to discuss one of the most critical elements to seducing that one girl you really want- your emotions. Unfortunately, most guys emotions DO NOT act in their best interest when it comes to getting a girl (especially when you really like her.) You’re emotions cause all kinds of mischief like making you act insecure, needy, clingy, and predictable – All things that MURDER attraction. The reality is that when these “emotions” take over – its like it disengages your logical brain. And you start doing all the things you know you SHOULD NOT be doing… Signs You’re Acting “Needy” – feeling a compulsion to call or text her – Unable to “play it cool” – blurting out your feelings too soon – making yourself too available – showing noticeable jealousy when she mentions other guys – showing too much disappointment when she can’t hang out Here’s the worse part – She is going to TEST YOU to see how “needy” she can make you – (she does this subconsciously of course) – Its her way of screening out weak guys. She’ll cancel plans and pay close attention to how you react – She’ll “forget” to text you back to see how you handle it – She’ll challenge you on stuff to see how quickly you back down – Here’s a very simple example of a “test” – If you’re listening to a certain type of music that you like she might say “Do you like that?” in a tone that expresses that she definitely doesn’t. How do you respond? Do you lie and say “not really”? Or “It’s ok”
  • 5. BE YOUR OWN LIFE COACH 2improveyourself.com 5 If so, you’re TRYING HARDER. And the pendulum of power is tipped in her favor. – And she doesn’t want that. She would much rather you look at her and say “yea, this song kicks ass.” No girl wants a guy who won’t defend himself. Even against her. Here’s the good news: You can correct this imbalance, and rather easily when you know exactly what to do.
  • 6. BE YOUR OWN LIFE COACH 2improveyourself.com 6 Chapter 2. These 3 Deadly Seduction Sins I call these the “deadly seduction sins”, and if you ever had a girl you though liked you go ICE COLD and lose interest, or if the girls you fall for never seem to like you back, you’re probably making at least one of these mistakes. Seduction Sin #1: – Letting Her Know How You Feel Too Soon Sure it feels good to release all those bottled up feelings and blurt out “I love you” or tell her how special she is. And man, if Hollywood doesn’t make that look like the key to her heart. But once the “challenge” disappears, usually so does SHE. If a girl suddenly goes cold on you, loses interest or pulls away, I can almost guarantee its because she figured you out to soon. And that bores her. And with girls boredom = death. Bottom line? Once a girl knows she has you, It’s OVER and you can never have her. Seduction Sin # 2: – Being Too “Agreeable” When you have a lot in common with a girl, share the same sense of humor, get along like peanut butter and jelly, you probably start thinking “girlfriend material” or “she’s the one”, and decide, “I better not mess this up.” Once that thought goes through your mind your like a sitting duck, Because you go into “perfect guy” mode, And start acting like a super nice, watered down, Rated PG version of yourself, afraid to offend or upset her. Big mistake. You’re forgetting one fat fact: Girls LOVE DRAMA That’s why most “nice guys” lose the girls they really like. Girls get bored. She wants some good old-fashioned drama. Bottom line, if you’re not occasionally disappointing her, pissing her off, or confusing the shit out of her, She’s probably not thinking about you at all. Seduction Sin #3: -Trying Too Hard In every relationship one person tries harder. And the person who tries harder holds less power. Once she recognizes that she has the power, game over, you lose, collect your things and go home.
  • 7. BE YOUR OWN LIFE COACH 2improveyourself.com 7 On the other hand, girls are POWER HUNGRY. When a cool, hot girl senses YOU have the upper hand, Her mind literally can’t handle it. It FORCES her to chase after you. (This is especially true if you’re not her usual type) Want to know something else? Girls are constantly testing you to see how much power they hold. It could be something as simple as playing with her phone while you’re talking to her, fishing for a compliment, or using her sexuality to see what she can get from you, How you react to these tests lets her know how much power she has over you, (Most guys completely miss these tests, and when you’re able to spot them you have a huge advantange over other guys). The Strange Thing About These Sins, So, here’s the strange thing about these sins. And what makes them so dangerous, They feel like the right move. Sending a girl you like flowers at work feels natural. Responding to her texts right away feels natural. Trying hard to impress her and show her you’d make the perfect boyfriend feels natural. Yet, everyone of these things is more likely to scare her away then make her want you. C’mon it feels so natural can it really be that bad? The short answer is yes. Because it feel so natural it’s what every guy does, and it’s exactly what she expects, and makes you completely predictable. And remember, one a girl figures you out it over, and you can never have her.
  • 8. BE YOUR OWN LIFE COACH 2improveyourself.com 8 Chapter 3. 5 Weird Ways Girls Test a Guy to See How Desperate or Needy He Acts When it comes to dating, both men and women have their ways of assessing potential partners. Girls, in particular, may resort to unconventional methods to gauge a guy’s level of desperation or neediness. These subtle tests can reveal valuable insights into a man’s emotional stability, confidence, and independence. In this article, we will explore five peculiar ways in which girls evaluate a guy’s demeanor to determine his level of desperation or neediness. Understanding these tests can help men gain a better understanding of themselves and improve their dating experiences. Delayed Text Responses Test: In this digital age, text messages have become an integral part of dating communication. A common test girls may employ is to intentionally delay their responses to text messages. By doing so, they gauge how a guy reacts to the delay. If he becomes anxious, repeatedly checks his phone, or bombards her with follow-up messages, it may indicate a higher level of desperation or neediness. Conversely, if he remains calm and composed, it demonstrates his confidence and self-assuredness. Social Media Dilemma Test: Social media has transformed the way people interact and share their lives. Girls may observe a guy’s behavior on social media platforms to assess his level of desperation. For instance, if a girl purposely takes longer to respond to his posts or tags, she may monitor how he reacts. Does he become overly concerned about her acknowledgment? Does he comment excessively or inquire about her whereabouts? Such actions might indicate a need for constant validation, potentially signaling desperation or neediness. Busy Schedule Test: A girl might intentionally fill her schedule with various activities and obligations to see how a guy reacts. By presenting herself as busy, she evaluates whether he becomes overly persistent or clingy, or if he respects her space and engages in his own pursuits. A well-adjusted individual will understand the importance of personal boundaries and pursue his own interests rather than fixating solely on the girl’s availability. Impromptu Plans Test:
  • 9. BE YOUR OWN LIFE COACH 2improveyourself.com 9 Girls may also test a guy’s level of desperation by suggesting spontaneous plans or last-minute outings. The purpose is to observe his reaction and assess if he readily drops his own plans or obligations to accommodate her. A guy who alters his entire schedule or cancels pre-existing commitments at the drop of a hat may appear overly eager or needy. Conversely, a man who values his own time and commitments demonstrates independence and self-assurance. Emotional Availability Test: Girls often seek emotional connection and support in relationships. However, they may test a guy’s emotional availability to avoid someone who appears overly needy or desperate for constant validation. To conduct this test, a girl may subtly share personal challenges or express vulnerability. Observing how a guy responds can reveal whether he is genuinely empathetic and supportive or if he displays signs of desperation by trying to solve all her problems immediately. A balanced and secure individual will offer comfort and understanding without overwhelming her. Conclusion: Understanding the unconventional ways girls assess a guy’s level of desperation or neediness can provide valuable insights for men navigating the dating world. These tests, although seemingly peculiar, help girls determine a guy’s emotional stability, confidence, and independence. By recognizing these tests, men can focus on cultivating healthy dating behaviors, such as maintaining their own lives, respecting personal boundaries, and displaying emotional availability without appearing desperate. Ultimately, a balanced approach to dating and relationships will foster healthier connections and enhance personal growth for both individuals involved.
  • 10. BE YOUR OWN LIFE COACH 2improveyourself.com 10 Part 2: Building Attraction Chapter 4. Avoid THESE attraction killers I grew up watching John Cusak movies. I really wanted to believe that standing outside some girl’s window with a boom box blasting a love song was the key to her heart. Unfortunately, it’s not. And even though logically most of us know this, years of “pop song programming” seem to kick in every time we like a girl and lead us to make some very damaging mistakes. Here are 3 of the most toxic killers of attraction: 1. Sending Her Flowers at Work This move REAKS of desperation. It also says “I’m completely Unoriginal.” If you send a girl flowers early into a relationship you trigger her “CLINGY Alarm.” And she’ll begin worrying that if things end you’re going to be one of those guys who gets weird and creepy. Make no mistake, the thoughts that begin flowing through her mind when the flowers arrive are almost never positive. 2. Confessing Your Feelings too Soon As guys when we have all these bottled-up feelings for a girl we want to blurt them out. We think: if only she knew how much I like her she’ll surely want to be my girlfriend. WRONG. The minute you confess your feelings to a girl you’re revealing your hand, and leaving her nothing to work for. Remember, the less she has to work for you, the more bored she becomes. 3. Being too Available There are a few reasons this will kill her attraction towards you. First off, it eliminates some of your mystery. Second, it doesn’t give her time to miss you and anticipate seeing you. And third, we place less value on things that are easy to obtain. Which means if you’re always around she begins to value you less.
  • 11. BE YOUR OWN LIFE COACH 2improveyourself.com 11 Chapter 5. 8 Common behaviors that make you look needy There’s not a day that goes by when a guy doesn’t email us asking for advice on a specific girl confused as to why he’s not “getting physical” with her even though she seems to like him, The truth is most guys confuse “boyfriend behavior” with “get her into bed” behavior. And if you start displaying “boyfriend behavior” BEFORE you’ve gotten her into bed, you come across as needy and TRY HARD, (and will NEVER sleep with her) Here are some examples of “boyfriend behavior” that if displayed too much, too soon, will KILL her attraction towards you. 1. Trying too hard to find commonalities and rapport. 2. Focus on showing her that you have a good job, like to travel, and other “impress her” traits. 3. Taking her side when she bad mouthed players, and act like you’re totally the opposite of those “jerks.” 4. Respecting her too much to make a move. 5. Being too generous towards her. 6. Listening to all her problems and trying to solve them for her. 7. Make a lot of compromises so that you get along better. 8. Paying too much attention to her. If you’ve been dating a girl for a year, it is fine to do all of those things for a girl. And if you want to keep her, you probably have to. But, when you’re first meeting a girl the LAST thing you want to do is demonstrate what a great boyfriend you would be. Why? Because it DOES NOT create attraction in a girl. Each of the traits listed above create more “comfort” than sexual attraction, and will usually land you in the friend zone if you start acting that way BEFORE sleeping with her. Also, when you start acting like her boyfriend before you’ve slept with her, you’ve already handed HER the power. And once she is holding the power, its VERY unlikely you’ll EVER sleep with her.
  • 12. BE YOUR OWN LIFE COACH 2improveyourself.com 12 Here’s the good news: Even if you’ve already displayed some of the traits listed above to a girl, you can still get her into bed.
  • 13. BE YOUR OWN LIFE COACH 2improveyourself.com 13 Chapter 6. 4 Attraction building benefits of the pull back Did you know there is one simple “move” that will boost the attraction of level of any girl you’re dating? This one move (that takes almost no skill to pull off) taps more “psychological” attraction trigger points then just about anything else you can do. This one move is called “The Pull Back.” And its super effective. Calling (a little) less or not calling for a couple of days at a time. Wanting to see her (a little) less than you did in the beginning. Being (a little) cold, distant, or aloof. Acting (a little) less enthusiastic and certain of her Sounds sneaky? It is. But its extremely powerful if done in small doses and strategic times. Here are some of the benefits that make this so powerful: #1- She spends more time thinking about you: You’re sudden change in behavior will have her sitting at home replaying her conversations with you in her mind, (and remember, if you can make a girl think about you when you’re not around, you can make her fall in love with you) (Side Note: Not capturing her attention is the #1 reason she’ll sleep with another guy!) #2- She’ll begin working harder to win you over: When a girl senses you’re losing interest, she’ll begin trying harder to win you back over. And remember, if she’s trying harder, you’re holding the power. #3- She dwells on your good qualities. When think she thinks she’s about to lose you, she’ll only focus on your positive qualities. Its in her nature to want more what she can’t have. #4- It increases her anticipation to see you. If she’s uncertain about if/when she’ll see you again, she’ll begin to strongly desire you. She’ll begin to convince herself that she absolutely has to have you inside her.
  • 14. BE YOUR OWN LIFE COACH 2improveyourself.com 14 The list actually goes on and on with regard to how effective “The Pull Back” is at increasing her attraction for you, amping up sexual desire, and taking the power in the relationship, Want to know about other techniques that can get a female friend to desire you sexually, have co-workers or classmates fantasizing about you, and makes you look like the MAN to everyone in your social circle?
  • 15. BE YOUR OWN LIFE COACH 2improveyourself.com 15 Part 3: Gaining Control and Confidence Chapter 7. 2 Ways to Gain the Upper Hand with a Girl I bet you didn’t know this, Every time a guy and a girl start talking, one person tries harder, and the person who tries harder holds less power. Once she recognizes that she has the power, game over, you lose, collect your consolation prize and go home. This why you’ve got to immediately establish that you have the upperhand, Here’s one of my favorite “power plays” early on, When you’re out at a bar or restaurant, say, “what do you want to drink?” Then order her something completely different and say, “you’re going to like this much better.” Its playful but it establishes right off the bat that you’re not afraid to call the shots, Get Her to Buy You a Drink Here’s another one, get her to buy you a drink. If she asks for a drink say “you got this round?” Or if you’ve already bought her one, when you finish your drink show her your empty glass and say “your turn.” You’ll be amazed that the simple trick of getting her to pull out her wallet and buy you a drink boosts her attraction towards you, Its like her brain is subconsciously going “I must really like this guy”, Get Her Chasing Your Validation Here’s a story rob (co-creator of Unlock Her Legs) just told me about some 22 year old crossfit instructor he banged last night, “So, the first couple times i tried talking to her she blows me off, One time she was even pretty rude about it. Now since she’s in my social circle, i run into her at parties pretty often,
  • 16. BE YOUR OWN LIFE COACH 2improveyourself.com 16 So i see her at a party and i pull her aside and say, “let me take you on a ‘ game of thrones’ date” (someone told me she’s a big fan.) And she got all excited and was like, “you like game of thrones too?” And i playfully said, “no, that’s for nerds and people who don’t have sex,which are you”, And she told me last night (as she was putting her panties back on) that when i did that she got a little offended but it also made her start paying attention to me, Once i had her attention I used the scrambler to make her earn my respect, I made her jump through a bunch of hoop… I got her addicted to my validation rather than the other way where you’re chasing hers. Even if she doesn’t like you initially (which i don’t think she did), you can actually turn the tables and it becomes more of a challenge to her pride than anything else.”
  • 17. BE YOUR OWN LIFE COACH 2improveyourself.com 17 Chapter 8. Engineering Love In my previous article I talked about how you don’t get a woman to fall in love with you by things you say, Because love actually happens when she’s away from you, when she can’t stop thinking about you, when she finds herself repeating your name in her mind over and over again, And although she doesn’t quite understand why, she wants to see you so bad it HURTS That’s love. And its something you can actually “engineer.” The “Emotion Game” Love is what I call an “Emotions Game.” And its all about getting a woman emotionally addicted to you. So that you can fully capture her attention. You’ve probably already heard the saying “create a roller-coaster of emotions” for her. But my guess is you don’t fully understand the concept. I say this because every day I get emails from guys asking: “How do I talk about emotions” with her?” “What are some emotional topics?” That’s ALL WRONG. Getting a girl “emotionally” addicted to being around you is NOT about talking about specific emotions.. Its about creating them in her. Yes. Your ONLY job is to create full range of emotions in a woman. Most guys stop at the obvious ones like anger, joy, horniness… But the real “Gems”, the ones that create the drama, intrigue, and fascination that captures a woman’s mind are the less obvious ones: anticipation surprise trust
  • 18. BE YOUR OWN LIFE COACH 2improveyourself.com 18 confusion Its the surprise that keeps her on her toes, that holds her interest, that has wondering what’s coming next. Its during the confusion of trying to figure you out , that you begin to occupy a larger and larger space in her mind Its during the anticipation of waiting for your next text that she begins to convince herself she’s in love with you, Love does NOT happen when you’re completely content. This is why most “nice” guys lose girl they really like. Love happens when you start to feel like you’re losing control, Think about the last time you were in love with a girl. I bet you felt a little powerless a little helpless, and had a constant sense of a little anxiety, And the only “fix” was the woman. And that feeling, love, is something you can engineer. In the “Seduction Weapons” portion of Unlock Her Legs I give 12 weapons of seduction. These are 12 ways to induce specific emotions in a woman, These are 12 ways to capture her attention and basically have her thoughts glued on you, Until she begins to think she’s in love with you.
  • 19. BE YOUR OWN LIFE COACH 2improveyourself.com 19 Part 4: Navigating Relationships Chapter 9. 3 Reasons a Girl will Go Cold I was working with one of my private coaching clients, Steve (not his real name. And Steve has run into a dilemma that a lot of guys face when they finally get good at attracting women. They have trouble keeping the ones they really want. Steve told me a story of how he had recently met a girl through a mutual friend, “She was hot, smart, and totally into me, We were talking almost every day.” he explained to me. Then then she went cold. “All the sudden I could tell things had changed. I could just feel it in my gut. It was over” And sure enough, a week later she started making excuses why she couldn’t hang out, And finally, she was gone. So what did Steve do wrong? It was three main things, (AND PAY ATTENTION BECAUSE THESE THREE THINGS MIGHT BE HOLDING YOU BACK TOO) 3 Reasons a Girl Loses Interest I had Steve send me some transcripts of his text messages with her, And I also asked some pretty intimate questions about how he felt about her, and how he expressed it to her, 1. He was way too needy Yes. An obvious one. But here’s the thing with neediness. Most guys assume because they feel a certain way towards a girl, that she feels the same way. And they think “Ah,I can finally drop the game.” Unfortunately, you can’t.
  • 20. BE YOUR OWN LIFE COACH 2improveyourself.com 20 As I scanned over Steve’s text chats I noticed he continually sent her things like “what you doing today?” And always seemed to want to be in contact with her, And he NEVER ended the exchanges first. NEVER. He also expressed major disappointment the few times she turned down one of his invites to go out. When a girl is still making up her mind about you, you’ve got to avoid putting any pressure to make a quick decision. This is because almost always she’ll choose the one you don’t like. The best way to do this is NEVER make up YOUR mind about a girl too soon. Be the one holding out to make sure what that she’s the one you really want. And the ironic thing is that when you take this attitude, you’ll find that she becomes the one that gets a little “needy” 2. Insecurity While Steve’s game dramatically improved over the past year, he still had a self image of a guy who got picked on in high school. And was never quite comfortable around “the cool crowd.” What a lot of dating gurus fail to tell you is that once you start scoring hotter chicks, you’re going to have to start socializing with a different crowd. And you’ve got to be comfortable in those situation. Steve wasn’t. And his insecurity was obvious. Steve had what i refer to in my as “Us vs Them” mentality towards hot chicks and alpha guys. He still sort of resented that he wasn’t part of the club. And tried to make himself feel better by criticizing them, and pointing out their deficiency. Which Only served to make HIM come across as petty and insecure to the woman. 3. Lack of ambition lazyYounger guys can get away with lack of ambition. But once you’re over twenty five a woman immediately recognizes where you fit on the totem pole. And MOST women much rather prefer to be with a guy who has the attitude of “I’m going to conquer the world,” On the other hand, Steve worked a job he hated, and bitched about it constantly. Ambition turns women on. Period. A “Poor me” attitude just as quickly turns them off.
  • 21. BE YOUR OWN LIFE COACH 2improveyourself.com 21 If you want a woman to be excited about being with you, You need to be excited about your future, about where you’re going in life, Make her want to come along for the ride, Make yourself an opportunity she can’t pass up, As you can see, Keeping a girl interested in you after you have attracted her, is much more of an internal thing, You can fake a girl out in a bar. You can fake her out for a few dates, But if you’re not the total package internally, you can bet your last penny that she’s going to realize it sooner rather than later.
  • 22. BE YOUR OWN LIFE COACH 2improveyourself.com 22 Chapter 10. What makes a girl fall in love Every day I get an email similar to this: “There is this girl I’m talking to. I really want her to be my girlfriend. What can I say to her?” Here is my answer: Nothing you can “say” will make her fall in love with you. In fact, you will usually “blow it” if you attempt to let a girl know how you feel (especially if it’s early on.) Here’s the problem most guys run into – Once they like a girl they think they need to express this to her – they think that “if she knows how much I like her” she’ll want to be my girlfriend. WRONG. Love is psychological. Women (and men) fall in love due to a psychological process that occurs in our own mind. Women don’t fall in love while they are with you – She falls in love while she is away from you thinking about you – And the more you can get her thinking about you -. The more she will begin to convince herself that she is in love with you. In the “Seduction Weapons” portion of The Scrambler I teach 12 weapons of seduction – These are 12 things that will keep her thoughts focused on YOU when you’re not around. 12 Weapons of Seduction The first and easiest of the 12 weapons is ambiguity – Women love drama (how else do you think there would be 5 different Housewives of (insert city) shows on TV?) If you want to keep her attention – you’ve got to provide her that drama she craves.
  • 23. BE YOUR OWN LIFE COACH 2improveyourself.com 23 Ambiguity is a great way to do this. You are sending her mixed signals. You are showing her multiple sides of your personality – Sometimes you make her feel like she excites you – Sometimes you make her feel like you are losing interest and she bores you – Sound cruel? Well, if you think back on the girls you fell in love with – Chances are she made you feel this exact way. Chances are she sent a lot of mixed signals. Am I correct? I didn’t invent the game. But I play to win. There are 11 more seduction weapons in Unlock Her Legs (some much sneakier than this.) Remember “attention” is a commodity. We only have so much of it. He who occupies the most of her attention wins.
  • 24. BE YOUR OWN LIFE COACH 2improveyourself.com 24 Conclusion As we reach the conclusion of "Unlocking Attraction: Mastering the Art of Dating and Captivating Women," I want to extend my sincerest gratitude to you, the reader, for embarking on this journey with me. Throughout this book, we've explored the intricate dynamics of attraction, delving into the depths of human psychology and offering practical strategies to navigate the complexities of romantic pursuit. Remember, mastery in the realm of dating is not about manipulation or deceit, but rather about genuine connection and understanding. By embracing authenticity, confidence, and empathy, you can forge meaningful connections that transcend superficiality and stand the test of time. As you close this book, I encourage you to continue your journey of self- discovery and growth. Approach every interaction with curiosity and compassion, and never underestimate the power of vulnerability and honesty in fostering genuine connections. Thank you once again for entrusting me with your pursuit of love and companionship. May your future endeavors be filled with fulfillment, joy, and meaningful connections. Warm regards, [Chu Nam]
  • 25. BE YOUR OWN LIFE COACH 2improveyourself.com 25 Introduction to "Unlock Her Legs" Now that you've gained insights into the intricacies of attraction and dating, I'd like to introduce you to a program that complements the principles discussed in this book: "Unlock Her Legs." Created for men seeking to capture the attention of that elusive woman, "Unlock Her Legs" offers a unique approach to winning over the object of your desire. Whether you're looking to ignite passion, inspire devotion, or foster a deep emotional connection, this program provides invaluable tools and techniques to achieve your goals. At the heart of "Unlock Her Legs" lies "THE SCRAMBLER" – a series of psychological mind games designed to unlock a woman's desires and make her irresistibly drawn to you. Through strategic application of these techniques, you'll learn to navigate the intricacies of female psychology and cultivate a connection that transcends mere attraction. If you're ready to take your dating game to the next level and unlock the potential of your romantic pursuits, consider exploring "Unlock Her Legs" and discover the power of "THE SCRAMBLER" for yourself.