The document discusses building compassionate relationships and communities. It emphasizes listening without judgment, asking open-ended questions, remembering names, following up regularly, and introducing people in mutually beneficial ways. The goal is to help people become their best selves by developing empathy, gratitude, and thoughtful diversity of perspectives through community.

1. Compassionate
Relationships and
Communities
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2. FIRST PRINCIPLES

3. Singular focus on helping people be
their BEST SELVES

4. Takers, Givers, Matchers
Me “first”
May toe line of integrity
Reveal their true intentions
pretty quickly
Takers
“Pragmatic trust”
Genuine and authentic
No expectations
Emotionally invested
Givers
“Quid pro quo”
Reciprocity based
Majority of relationships
Matchers

5. Givers operate from an
Abundance Mindset
Open Source
Pragmatic Trust
Collaboration
Humility

6. Compassion and Empathy
"You never really understand a person until you consider
things from his point of view - until you climb into his skin
and walk around in it.”
Atticus Finch
Ability to listen
Cross-cultural sensitivity
Treat people in harmony with
their emotional mindset
Cultivate self-awareness
Travel
Creative projects
Volunteer work
Gratitude practice
Attributes Developing Compassion

7. BREAKOUT EXERCISE
- Who should you meet?
- How do you find them?
- Should you cold call/email?
- What role does tech play?
- How to approach people who
are more senior?
- Where should you meet?
- What if you’re shy/nervous?
- What are good conversation
starters?
- What are good questions to ask?
- What if you don’t click?
- How do you follow up?
- Via what medium and frequency?
- How do you organize your
relationships?
- What could you share with your
contacts?
All groups: Where does compassion fit in? How to
engineer serendipity?
- Why should you bring people together?
- How should you do it?
- Who should you invite?
- How can you ensure thought diversity?
- How do you “grease” conversations?
THE PREP MEETING
FOLLOW-UP COMMUNITY

8. THE PREP

9. How the heck do I meet
people?
Leverage technology
Warm intros
Events that align with passions

10. What if I have “nothing
to offer”
Everyone has perspective
Play to your passions
Build an online presence

11. Volunteering
#MAJOR🔑
Self-selecting filter
Gratitude -> Happiness
Diversity with participants
Develop empathy/compassion

12. MEETING

13. All begins with
Listening
Talk as LITTLE as possible
Resist temptation to fill blank spaces
Ask Open-ended questions

14. Eye Contact is a Must
Put your phone far away
Direct eye contact builds trust
Creates emotional connection
Eyes reveal other non-linguistic cues

15. Ask Good Questions
“When meeting someone new, try to find out what
formative experience occurred in their lives before they
were seventeen. It is my belief that some important
event in everyone’s youth has an influence on everything
that occurs afterwards.” Byron Wien

16. Remember Names
#MAJOR🔑
People love their kids and dogs
Need to authentically care
Use “memory tricks”
Talk notes in your CRM

17. Not only coffee or drinks
#MAJOR🔑
Walks
Volunteer work
“Sweatworking”
Avoid the prisoner’s dilemma

18. Dinner Table Test
#MAJOR🔑
Curiosity enables breadth of ideas
Breadth enables similar interests
And ability to challenge viewpoints
And it’s just more fun

19. FOLLOW-UP

20. What’s a good follow-up?
Within 24 hours (for first meetings)
Express gratitude, especially if “senior”
Reference part of the conversation
Offer up ways you can be helpful
Open door for next interaction

21. Have a System
Use a spreadsheet or CRM tool
Think about buckets and “superpowers”
Set reminders for follow-ups

22. Share, share, share!
“Nurture your network by sending articles, books and
emails to people to show you’re thinking about them.”
Byron Wien

23. Be Creative
#MAJOR🔑
Birthdays are a unique “excuse” to reach out and
express gratitude

24. Any excuse for a
handwritten note
#MAJOR🔑
Embrace this “dying medium”
More emotional “capacity”
Get to the top of the “queue”

25. COMMUNITY

26. Power of Introductions
MBI: Mutually Beneficial Intro
Always use an opt-in
Deep listening = better connections
Use your CRM “buckets”
Constantly think about your
relationships

27. Organize Events
Dinners, book clubs, volunteering
Create space for authentic sharing
Curate attendees
“Serendipity explosions”

28. Understand Tribes & Weak Ties
#MAJOR🔑
Notice patterns in relationships
Interconnectivity can be a signal

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