BODY LANGUAGE
Body language communicates
much more than words. Body
language signals are called
‘leakages’ because you may try to
tell something, but the truth will
leak out visually.
Aspects of Body Language
Territory
• Personal
– Close -1½ to 2½ feet
– Far - 2½ to 4 ½ feet
• Intimate
– Touching
– 6-18”
• Social
– Close 4-7 feet
– Far - 7-12 feet
• Public
– Close - 12-25 feet
– Far - 25 feet or
greater
Cultures
• A crowded
culture
• What is your
private space?
When you invade my space
• Reactions to an
invasion of your
space
– Feel troubled
– Get defensive
– Become aggressive
– Retaliate
Masks We Wear
• Public Masks
– Public smile
– Clothing
– Putting on my face
• Extended territory
– On the road
– At work
• Can we drop masks?
Jockeying for position
• Inclusive - Non-inclusive
– How you include/exclude others in a group
• Parallel body positions
– Will position yourselves to relate to each other
– Side by side are neutral
– Facing means people are involved
• Congruence-incongruence
– Groups that imitate each other
Looking
• How long do you look?
– Staring- dehumanizes or challenges
– Glances - socially acceptable timing
– Appraisal- may indicate interest
• Do you look when you talk?
• Do you look when you listen?
‘What often happens in any relationship is that
language itself becomes a mask and a means of
clouding and confusing the relationship. If the
spoken language is stripped away and the only
communication left is body language, the truth
will find some way of poling through. Spoken
language itself is a great obscurer”
Body Language, Julius Fast, MJF books, 1970.
Actions Speak Louder than Words?
Misinterpretation = Trouble??
• Lost business
– Lack of animation = lack of
interest?
– US tendency to get right to
business
Troubles
• Conflict with peers
• Different work styles
• Wrong assumptions
Trouble….
• Misinterpretation of
signals
– Can be BIG trouble
– Legal trouble
– Do you know how to
act or are you
confused?
Do you know what you are saying?
Zones
Intimate
Personal
Social
Public
Shows that a person does not
know or understand what you are
talking about
Means
"All correct"
It is an OK signal normally, but,
when it is jerked sharply
upwards it becomes an insult
signal
Submissive palm position
Dominant palm position
Aggressive palm position
Taking control
handshake
Giving control handshake
Glove handshake
Positive
expectation
Lowered steeple Raised steeple
High clenched hands indicate people who are difficult to decipher
Gripping hands
Confidence Frustration
&
Thumb
displays
Negative & superior attitude
Dominant or aggressive
Suppress the deceitful words
Catch a lie..
Sometimes indicates thinking hard
Indicates anger & frustration
Collar pull
Evaluation
Boredom
Standard arm cross gesture
Defensive
Or
negative attitude
Arm Gripping Gesture
Show that the user is 'cool’
and
to make his superiority felt
Partial Arm-Cross Barrier Gesture
lacking in
self-confidence
‘Readiness' which in the right
context is correct,
but the basic meaning is
aggression
Closed formation
Shows intimacy and signals for privacy
Shows nervous,
reserved or defensive
attitude
The 4 Leg Lock Position
Sign of the
tough-minded,
stubborn individual
Territorial gesture
Indicates pride of ownership
Ownership
gesture
Reflects an easygoing, relaxed and carefree attitude
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