Full day presentation on the development of personal erotic capital through social skills, etiquette, body language and communication. Making a lasting impression.

1. Happiness Matters
Art of Indelible Impressions

2. “They won’t tell you when you
misread their signals, you
simply lose opportunities…”
So what are we really saying to people, and
what language are they speaking to us?

3. The Secrets of Social
Fluency and Flirting ….

4. "Would you take offense if I had the gall to plant a kiss on this
beautiful shoulder?“
"You'll figure that out soon enough after the deed."

5. My Name is Zoe Sexton
I am a founder of Maguffin, a strategic consulting firm, and I have
over 25 years experience in the areas of human behavior, cultural
and business communications. I have a Masters Degree in Strategic
Leadership and have focused on helping entrepreneurs and
individuals in developing leadership, partners and strategy in their
personal lives and their businesses.
I’ve been told, that my reach and influence have positively created
change, and instilled a sense of confidence in my clients, students,
colleagues and friends worldwide.
But I’ll let you be the judge of that.

6. What We Will Do
• Discover the secrets and subtle signs of body
language
• Learn to control tone of voice
• Learn non-verbal communication and allowing
• Learn to establish deep rapport quickly.
• Learn to flirt for any occasion with social grace
and eloquence.
• Discover how to expand your vitality at will
• Make an indelible first impression.
• Have fun!

7. Let’s Talk About Erotic Capital
Define it, develop it, apply it
• Beauty • Presentation
• Physical Body • Intimacy Skills
• Social Grace • Fertility of the Mind
• Vitality • Nurture
'Eroticism, unlike simple sexual activity, is a psychological quest...eroticism is
assenting to life even in death'. (Bataille, Eroticism p. 11)

8. Its about Communication
What Your
Communication
Style Says About
You, Why It
Matters, and How
to Manage
Everyone Else’s

9. Social Fluency & Flirting
• A primary combination of social grace, vitality,
presentation
• A secondary combination of intimacy,
creativity, nurture
• A third aspect is of physical body awareness

10. Everyone Has a Story
Our communication style affects how
others’ react to and perceive us.
Knowing your
communication style
and understanding the
communication styles of Expressive Systematic
others can improve your
ability to connect. At
work, it can reduce
Sympathetic Direct
conflict, improve morale
and increase
collaboration.

11. What is Your Style?

12. Presentation
It’s a matter of style, hair, clothing, make-up, look, image,
accessories, shoes, jewelry …
• Body types- clothes that fit
• Ordinary item worn in extra-ordinary way
• One unusual item that stands out from rest
• 85% of men do not notice maniucures, but women do
• Make-up, the right way for your face
• Shoes and bags
• Millions of articles of clothing- just like people-NEXT

13. Flirting
• Speaking and behaving in a way suggesting
MILDLY greater intimacy than the actual
relationship between the parties would justify,
within the rules of social etiquette.
• Involves Body Language
• Involves Tone of Voice
• Defined by Culture and Context

14. Flirting Can Be Used to Develop Rapport
In Any Situation- But how do we know the difference
between a potential mate and a business opportunity?

15. Humor & the Brain
• Key ingredient to a Healthy Human
• Good medicine
• Releases endorphins
• Triggers Immune system

16. Smiling
• Smiling is something that you give and you
receive
• When you engage with a smile you are
providing comfort
• Smiling is not flirting
• Flirting makes smiling fun
Adapt Your Message Your Audience

17. Types of Flirting
• Physical
– Body language, emotional connection
• Traditional
– Passive and often misunderstand non-flirting as flirting
– Holding back
• Polite
– Manner-driven and non-sexual
– Judge flirtatious behavior
• Sincere
– Confident, emotional
– Chemistry
• Playful
– Little sexual interest – fun
– Flirt often and casually
– Open enhances self-esteem

18. Knowing the Right Type
• Eye contact (smile + eye contact = energy)
• From afar, level, direction and length
• In conversation, direct and relaxed
– Eye contact says you are paying attention; do so
– Clarity of eyes is a sign of beauty & fertility
(Darwin)
– Smiling, hair, touching neck (vulnerability), lips,
laughter, nodding, teasing, touching, flexing arms
or elbows (movement)

19. Conversation
• Understand what they are saying
• Look at their body language
• Look straight at them, eyes on theirs
• Stance, posture
• Energy, feel and adjust yours
• Tone, adapt tone of compassion
and attention
• Mouth, jaw, neck

20. Key Body Language Signs
• Body is directed where?
• Feet are directed where?
• Eyes, where are they going?
• Arms, what are they doing?
• Neck, where is it bent?
• Face: lips up or down?
• Face: placid or animated?

21. Vitality - Energy
• Expanding your vitality at will
• Visualization
• Fill body with oxygen
• Exhale fully
• Feel yourself flower, peel open
• Move body to open position, stance,
hands, mouth, eyes, lips, mind
• Open to the possibility

22. Body Awareness
The separation of the brains has to be overcome; the dreamer and doer must become one."
• Breath • Movement
• Stimulation Points • Your Own Behaviors

23. Manners & Etiquette
Dining & Food No neutral movements
• Place settings • Posture
• Food Placement • Sitting down, walking
• Spitting it out • Poise

24. Flirtatious Food
When you chose, eating can be SEXY
When you chose, eating can be REFINED

25. Formal Place Setting

26. Before Any Event
• Keep your eye on the
ball? Well sort of.
• Visualize yourself, at
ease, laughing and fill
yourself with internal
power and energy.
Smile it up.