2. Is Anger Good or Bad
Bad Good
Can motivate and
energize us to do better
Can give us a direction to
work towards
Can give strength to work
against injustice
Can lead to aggression
and destruction
Can lead to impulsive
decisions we regret later
Can create hostility
between people
3. Anger Vs. Aggression
Anger
Is an emotion
Can be good or bad
Need not be directed at
others
Is normal and natural
Aggression
Is a behaviour
Is always harmful
Directed at others
Can be controlled
Everybody gets angry. That is okay. You’re going
to feel how you feel. BUT: how you act is up to
you. And that matters, because how you act leads
to consequences.
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CONSEQUENCES OF
AGGRESSION
9. Consequences for the Victim
Emotional - sadness, fear, guilt, low self-esteem
Physical – injury, frequent illnesses
Social – isolation, inability to make friends
Academic – inability to concentrate, dropout
Behavioural – smoking, drinking, eating too much/too
little, school refusal
Being a victim of bullying can affect every part
of our lives
16. Watch your thoughts
• You did that on purpose…
• You wanted to hurt me…
• You deserve this…
• You never even asked me…
• You’re being unreasonable…
• You think you’re so good…
• I’ll show you…
• You started it…
• That’s not fair…
17. Catch it at the Right time
• Stomach gets tight/upset
• Heart is beating faster
• Clenching fists
• Feel myself getting flushed
• Pressure on my temples
• Sweaty palms
• Clenched jaw
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STEP 2: CHANNELIZE YOUR
ANGER
19. Express Yourself
Write a diary
Talk to a friend
Paint
Channelize Your Energy
Go for a jog
Dance
Play a sport
Regularize Breathing
Problem Solve
Try to look at situation
objectively
Look at alternatives
Evaluate various options.
Be sporty to “try” a new one
Be Regular with
Sleep
Appetite
Recreation
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STEP 3: BUILD EMPATHY
21. Stop the Blame Game
Stop Blame
Don’t blame yourself
or others
Blaming does not give
solutions
Consider situational
factors
Talk to the “Culprit”
Put yourself in other’s
shoes
Give your point of view
Listen to the other’s
view
Reason
Try to ‘forgive’
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STEP 4: BECOME ASSERTIVE
24. Styles of Communication
Aggressive: Being a…. Bulldozer!! Passive: Being a… Door Mat!!
Passive Aggressive - Being
a… Sniper!!
Assertive:
Being a… Sign
Board!!
25.
26. How To Be Assertive?
Do
Be aware of your emotions and
triggers
Look for mutually acceptable
alternatives.
Be specific and clear
Express your reasons and
feelings
Listen to the other
Use “I” statements
Give feedback about behaviour
Accept and Apologize when
you make a mistake
Include positive messages
Talk one on one
Don’t
Make excuses
Apologize for asking
Always give in
Put yourself down
Blame yourself or others
Criticise the person
Interrupt
Be sarcastic
Shout
Use physical force
Use threats
27. Saying NO
Use assertive body language
Decide on your position before speaking
Don’t apologise when it’s not necessary
Don’t make excuses when not necessary
Don’t ask permission to say no
Don’t wait for acceptance – accept the consequences
The Broken Record Technique
30. If you see someone being bullied
Get help from an adult
Be a friend to the person being bullied
Help the person get away from the situation
Don’t give bullying an audience
Set a positive example
31. If you walk away and
get help, you’re part of
the solution.
If you stay and watch,
you’re part of the
problem.