This document outlines an agenda for a youth leadership retreat focusing on leadership style and conflict style. Attendees will discuss their own conflict styles in small groups, considering strengths and weaknesses of different approaches. They will also discuss how to build effective teams by combining styles. Additionally, the retreat will cover balancing issues with relationships as a leader, handling emotions, and setting personal leadership goals.
4. Discuss as a group
1. List some great qualities related to having this
conflict style
2. When is this approach helpful as a leader?
3. When could this approach be less helpful as a
leader?
4. What important leadership roles and/or opportunities
match well with this skillset?
5. Which of the other styles might you need in your
group in order to build an effective team?
In what ways does this picture reflect leadership? (collective voice – in step with one another – on the same page)
In what ways does it not reflect leadership? (leaders don’t always use a megaphone)
Ask youth: Can conflict be avoided? Why or why not?
Ask youth: What kind of things cause conflict?
Conflict can be caused by: (a.) misunderstandings, (b.) differences in values, beliefs and interests, (c.) feelings and emotions
“Conflict is unavoidable – but combat is optional
Post signs and have youth go to different corners of room
Post signs and have youth go to different corners of room
We’ve talked about the other person’s feelings – but what about your feelings
Our natural reactions to conflict are based in our biology: when confronted with danger, our innate biological response is either to attack or run away – the famous Fight or Flight syndrome. Fight reaction = confronting, arguing, yelling, shoving, hitting
Flight = AWOL discussion – and/or quickly giving in to others
Flip Chart – Quote: “At the core of anger, is a need that is not being fulfilled” – Marshal B. Rosenberg
Flip Chart – What are ways that you use to calm down?
Make bookmark: (a.) take deep breaths, (b.) count to 10, (c.) relax your body and stay calm, (d.) get away from the situation or person for a brief while, (e.) exercise, (f.) consider the best way to respond, (g.) keep a journal and write things down, (h.) tell yourself you are all right, (i.) talk to someone
We’ve talked about the other person’s feelings – but what about your feelings
Our natural reactions to conflict are based in our biology: when confronted with danger, our innate biological response is either to attack or run away – the famous Fight or Flight syndrome. Fight reaction = confronting, arguing, yelling, shoving, hitting
Flight = AWOL discussion – and/or quickly giving in to others
Flip Chart – Quote: “At the core of anger, is a need that is not being fulfilled” – Marshal B. Rosenberg
Flip Chart – What are ways that you use to calm down?
Make bookmark: (a.) take deep breaths, (b.) count to 10, (c.) relax your body and stay calm, (d.) get away from the situation or person for a brief while, (e.) exercise, (f.) consider the best way to respond, (g.) keep a journal and write things down, (h.) tell yourself you are all right, (i.) talk to someone