The document discusses the science of respect and how it impacts individuals and societies. It argues that respect is not well understood despite its significant influence on human behavior. It also suggests that women often prioritize being liked over being respected, while men prioritize respect, and this dynamic has societal impacts. Finally, it discusses how lack of respect for certain groups, such as minorities and teenagers, can lead to feelings of resentment and retaliation, negatively impacting social cohesion.

1. SCIENCE OF RESPECT
Shades Of Psychologies Of ‘Socio-Metric Status’ And
How It Affects Nations & People…!

2. Somebody said it very right. The anatomy of respect is complex; therefore there is
little interest among people about the ‘Science of Respect’. Despite the range and
power of its influence, the norm of respect itself receives too little respect, in that
people commonly underestimate its impact on human behavior.
It is a wider perception that anatomy of respect has been studied less than that of
disrespect. This has happened despite the fact that even common men and women
know it very well that ‘Respect’ is the platform, which stages worst forms of
hypocrisies – People can go long ways to GET Respect but devise all possible foolish
and even catastrophic excuses to NOT GIVE Respect in lieu or otherwise. Then, the
business of respect is a cyclic calamity. When we don’t give, we don’t get back…!
The importance of the various shades of psychologies of respect can be understood
from a small example, which we probably see all around us. Psychologists maintain
that usually women in work settings, in public domains or even inside homes,
primarily want to be LIKED. In order to achieve this, they may forego being
respected. Men, on the other hand, may more likely opt for RESPECT, even at the
cost of being disliked or hated.
Now, there is no need to sit on a judgment as this reality is not absolute and as we
said, it has shades of realism. Moreover, there are loads of histogenetic factors and
archetypes in women’s perception, worldviews and preferences, subconscious as
well as conscious, which are responsible for why average women prioritize
‘Likeability’ over ‘Respectability’, if it is deemed true and a generic reality. There are
still loads of vestiges of cultural mind training among women which makes them
root for such preferences that make them inclined more to their ‘beauty’ aspects,
‘desirability’ viewpoint and ‘congeniality’. This probably sometimes compromise on
their ‘respectability’, which they deserve but get sidelined…

3. In modern milieus, there are many women, especially many of those who have
ventured out in working milieus, do have this what many men call ‘Obsession’ with
demanding/getting RESPECT, at all possible costs. This is not easy as traditionally,
even men in working places and in public domain have this mindset to look at
women as something as ‘desirable’ and ‘likeable’ realism, rather than something to
respect. It is only natural that getting respect for women in public domain or even in
home milieus is a demand that meets with traditional mindset that has still not
evolved for that. It is only natural that his has led to a situation of major battle of
attitudes and psychologies between men and women, with both men and women
mouthing extremities for each other. This surely has had its debilitating impact on
everything – workplace efficiency to collapsing marriages.
… It is primarily all about Science of Respect, which has not yet found enough
time/space of deliberation and study. It should…!
We sure have to give the issue of ‘respect’ its due place in our lives. New research
suggests that overall happiness in life is more related to how much you are
Respected and Admired by those around you, not to the status that comes from how
much money you have stashed in your bank account. It has been proved that higher
‘Socio-Metric Status’ – respect and admiration in your friendship network,
workplace, home, neighborhood, society, cultures –make big difference in your
overall happiness. This, your money and job status may not replenish or refurbish…
We all need to understand and accept as how the science of the psychologies of
‘respect’ plays out its subtle and embedded constructs in making and unmaking of
personalities. This has huge impact on a person’s overall wellness and normal life-
living. This in turn causes its commensurate ‘ripples’ in societies and nations. There
is a great example of that in Indian context, which we can take into account…

4. In India, we currently have a top politician, whose personality and traits are being
discussed and even feared in intellectual circles. Psychologists say, respect is
intrinsic to all persons. All over the globe, from early days, everyone seeks to be
respected and if they do not get respect, this results into a personality disorder of
sorts, which wreak havoc not only on the person but the whole society. The best
example is the behavior of teenagers all over the world and in all times. The
teenagers are new to the world and their primary instinct is to get their roots in the
huge world they have just entered. However, they are never treated with respect;
rather hey face the worst disrespects from societies, which label them in line with
fixed stereotypes that they are into drugs and sex misadventures. This results in
teenagers taking revenge and unleashing disrespectful behavior towards all…
The same happens with young men and women, who join a workforce. The
newcomers are seldom respected by their bosses and companies they join. Global
researches have confirmed now that most young men and women leave their jobs
not because of lure for moneys and better prospects but because of the nasty and
disrespectful bosses and seniors in the workplace. In India, we have a very powerful
example of how science of respect plays out havoc in offices, workplaces, home
milieus and societies…
We have in India a top political leader, who rose from almost non-entity to ladders
of power and remained in seat of power for long in state politics. Later, he moved
successfully to national scene and emerged as probably the most politically
successful leader in many decades. Yet, since his early days in politics, he was
credited with a ‘Blemish’ on his personal character and despite his best efforts, he
failed to get the ‘respect’ of intellectuals and top media persons, who mattered and
still matter. He kept rising in power and status but those who withdrew ‘respect’
from him, for that alleged ‘Blot’, remained reluctant, even mounting more
disrespectful attacks on his personal ways.

5. Psychologists now say that at a certain point of time, when this top politician
accepted that he cannot get ‘RESPECT’ from that quarter, which he sought and
mattered, he also acquired this ‘Teen-Syndrome’, which makes a person be
revengeful and unleash more disrespect and ridicule on others. This top leader is
said to use this newly-acquired ‘Power of Disrespect and Ridicule’ to demolish his
opponent. This, as psychologists warn, has had a cyclic syndrome. More disrespect
breads greater disrespect in return. Now, the situation is, it is very difficult to say,
whether the top leader is being overly disrespectful or those intellectuals and media
people, who have not accepted his ‘Innocence’. This is the teenager syndrome.
Everyone hates teenagers for their fixed stereotypes and teenagers in return hate all
to put the score at level.
Interestingly, this issue of ‘respect’ is also linked to a shade of ‘behavioral disorder’,
which has caused big trouble to not only India but the whole world. Psychologists
say that though a minority community in India was always on the receiving end of
‘Distrust and Disrespect’ since long but at a certain stage of Indian politics, this
minority community got pushed up so hard against the wall, in the name of their
religion, that it began to react the way that we have defined as ‘Teenager-Syndrome’,
or what this top leader is doing. The minority community label of disrespect became
so big and overwhelming that many, especially the young ones in this community
began to take revengeful reaction by asserting their ‘larger-than-real’ religious
identities and pay back the disrespect in the coin of different shades of expressions.
Psychologists insist and many intellectuals from this minority community have
accepted the ‘fundamentalism’ of religiosity that is now playing out in India and
world over, may well be read and studied from the perspective of ‘Science of
Respect’. It is like, “Well, if you cannot show respect to my identity, I shall show
what true disrespect is…!” Unfortunately, nobody has the inclination to spare a
hought on such issues of societal and national importance…

6. There is a very good example about how small things matter, when it comes to
getting respect. Researchers say, there is a billionaire in USA, who has remained as
the wealthiest man of world for many years, has had a very great psychological trick
at his hands. In all his annual general meetings or in big public interfaces, he would
start his speech by accepting some small or probably not so big shortcomings of his
own personality or his company’s policies and then would declare with solemnity
that he would do all possible things to correct the shortcomings and make things
better…
Researchers say, this very idea that this top wealthy businessman was accepting his
mistakes and fallibility, made him look so very believable and honest that all his
stake holders and larger public investing in his companies trust him and respect him
more and more. They took this humility and innocence as something, which
garnered deep and lasting RESPECT for the top businessman and his enterprises…
If we apply the above mentioned situation with our own top political leader in India,
it is very clear that he has failed hugely on his front. Probably, all that his big league
of opponents and disrespectful group wished him to do was be true, be honest and
be respectful about his personality and show up his small humility to accept that he
had ‘erred’, or at least he can err as he is human too. This element of fallibility is
somehow a great benchmark of ‘sincerity and innocence’, which people want to see
in a person, who wishes to be respected. This, probably, he has never done. Rather,
he aggressively plays his ‘impeccable’ card and ‘dismisses’ any fallibility that
intellectuals and media keep associating and labeling with his working…
Surely, nobody can sit on judgment because, only this top leader knows his reasons
for whatever he does. Some analysts also say that if he accepts ‘mistake’, he may win
some of his opponents and get their ‘respect’ but this probably would cause huge
loss of support that he has among millions, who like him just because he is
disrespectful to ‘those’ and annihilates them with his ridicule and contempt. In

7. India, there is a huge crowd of men and women, who have faced similar situations –
they have the feeling that they have not been respected enough and for millions of
them, this top leader, disrespecting all his opponents is something, they enjoy and
that is probably why they root for him…
There are endless examples of how this element of ‘respect’ is so powerful entity in
making and unmaking of persons, societies and nations, yet, there has been a
general neglect of any research or deep study about the ‘Science Of Respect’. Not
only in India, rather globally, this widespread anger among average men and
women, emanating because of their deep-seated feeling that they are not being
respected the way they deserve, has caused massively destructive ripples in
societies and cultures. Most vivid cases are India and USA, witnessing similar
situations…!
… We need to respect the issue of RESPECT… we all need to respect everyone… we
need to stop and ensure, nobody feels disrespected – at home, at workplace or even
on the road… Don’t we…?