The Art of Listening
What is active listening?• It’s a communication skill that involves both the  speaker and the receiver.• In active listeni...
Why is it important to listen?Failure to listen brings unfortunate  results!Human beings want to express  themselves, to b...
People can hear four times fasterthan others can talk, which givesa skilled listener time to sortmatters
What Interferes with Listening?• Sheer laziness and/or just not caring• Noise and or physical discomfort• Turing the speak...
“We were given two ears butonly one mouth. This is becauseGod knew that listening wastwice as hard as talking.”           ...
In active listening you will:• listen for the content of the message,• listen for the feelings of the speaker,• listen wit...
Active Listening Techniques•   Encouraging•   Restating•   Reflecting•   Summarizing
Encouragement• The purpose is to convey interest and to  keep the person talking.• To do this don’t agree or disagree. Use...
Restating• The purpose is to show that you are  listening and understanding.• To do this, restate the other’s basic ideas ...
Reflecting• The purpose is to show that you are  listening and understand what they are  feeling.• To do this restate the ...
Summarizing• The purpose is to pull important ideas,  facts, etc. together, to establish a basis for  further discussion a...
When the Emotion is Directed atYOU….• Hearing the speaker out diffuses the  emotion
If you really want to listen, youwill act like a good listener.Good listeners are like goodcatchers because they give thei...
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Active listening

  1. 1. The Art of Listening
  2. 2. What is active listening?• It’s a communication skill that involves both the speaker and the receiver.• In active listening, the receiver tries to understand what feelings, thoughts, & beliefs are being communicated and accepts it as the person’s own.• The listener feeds back only what they believe the sender’s message meant - nothing more, nothing less. It involves feedback and verification that the receiver correctly understood the senders message.• The active listener avoids getting stuck in another person’s “helpless” feelings.
  3. 3. Why is it important to listen?Failure to listen brings unfortunate results!Human beings want to express themselves, to be heard.Listening can de-escalate situations.
  4. 4. People can hear four times fasterthan others can talk, which givesa skilled listener time to sortmatters
  5. 5. What Interferes with Listening?• Sheer laziness and/or just not caring• Noise and or physical discomfort• Turing the speaker off and dwelling on the plethora of internal distractions• Letting a remark of the speaker (with which we disagree) develop a prejudice which clouds or puts a stop to any further listening• Boredom - remember, we hear four times faster that we speak• Developing your own rebuttal or listening mainly to find an opening to state what you have to say (competitive or combative listening)• Allowing personal characteristics of the speaker or his poor delivery to prevent understanding
  6. 6. “We were given two ears butonly one mouth. This is becauseGod knew that listening wastwice as hard as talking.” unknown
  7. 7. In active listening you will:• listen for the content of the message,• listen for the feelings of the speaker,• listen without making judgment,• respond to the feelings of the speakers,• note the speakers cues, both verbal and nonverbal,• ask open-ended questions, and• reflect back to the speaker what you think you are hearing.
  8. 8. Active Listening Techniques• Encouraging• Restating• Reflecting• Summarizing
  9. 9. Encouragement• The purpose is to convey interest and to keep the person talking.• To do this don’t agree or disagree. Use noncommittal words in a positive tone of voice.• “I see…” “uh-huh…” “That’s interesting” “What did you say then?” “What did he say when you said that?”• Be aware of your body language!
  10. 10. Restating• The purpose is to show that you are listening and understanding.• To do this, restate the other’s basic ideas using your own words.• “If I understand you, you are saying…” “In other words, your decision is…”• Be aware of your body language!
  11. 11. Reflecting• The purpose is to show that you are listening and understand what they are feeling.• To do this restate the other’s basic feeling.• “You feel that…” “You were pretty disturbed by this…”• Be aware of your body language!
  12. 12. Summarizing• The purpose is to pull important ideas, facts, etc. together, to establish a basis for further discussion and to review progress.• To do this restate, reflect and summarize major ideas and feelings.• “These seem to be the key ideas you have expressed…” “If I understand you, you feel this way about the situation…”• Be aware of your body language!
  13. 13. When the Emotion is Directed atYOU….• Hearing the speaker out diffuses the emotion
  14. 14. If you really want to listen, youwill act like a good listener.Good listeners are like goodcatchers because they give theirspeakers a target and then movethat target to capture theinformation that is being sent.

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