Don’t Feel may be modeled by parents who themselves bottle up their feelings. Sometimes, there is an embargo on any show of feeling in the family.

1. Don’t Feel Injunction

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Manu Melwin Joy
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School of Management Studies
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3. Don’t Feel
Don’t Feel may be
modeled by parents who
themselves bottle up
their feelings.
Sometimes, there is an
embargo on any show of
feeling in the family.

4. Don’t Feel
More often, particular
feelings are prohibited
while others are allowed.
Thus the Don’t feel
injunction may be
interpreted as “Don’t
feel anger”, “Don’t feel
fear” and so on.

5. Don’t Feel
Sometimes the message
is read as “experience the
feeling but don’t show it”.
Other children receive
more extreme version
which enjoins them not
even to experience a
particular emotion.

6. Don’t Feel
Little boys, for instance are
often instructed time and
time again by their fathers:
“ Big boys don’t cry” or “Be
a brave soldier”. These
mottoes translate to “Don’t
experience sadness” and
“Don’t experience fear.”

7. Don’t Feel
In some families, the Don’t
feel message implies “Don’t
experience physical
sensations”. This injunction
is often given in early
infancy, if given powerfully,
it can be the source of
some severe problems in
adulthood.

8. Don’t Feel
For instance, a child
enjoined against feeling
hunger may later develop
an eating disorder. In the
opinion of some TA
therapist, the Don’t feel
sensations message lies at
the root of certain kind of
psychosis.

9. Don’t Feel
Some parents covey a
version that goes : “Don’t
feel what you feel, feel
what I feel.” Mother say to
young son: “ I am hungry.
What do you want to eat?”
or “ I am cold, go put on
your sweater.”

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