The document discusses choosing to improve one's marriage through maintaining the promises made in marriage vows. It notes that maintaining a good marriage takes work, as hurt feelings can develop if spouses are careless, mean, or neglectful towards each other. However, if spouses make efforts to solve problems and make each other happy, love and a smooth marriage can be restored. The document encourages spouses to openly communicate their needs and feelings, care for each other, and choose to put effort into their marriage through unconditional love.

1. Choose to Improve Your
Marriage
The marriage vow is the most important
promise that a man and woman will ever make
to each other.
It unites two people into one flesh within the
mutual bond of love, care, and support until
separated by death.
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2. • Do you recall your marriage vows :
•To care, protect, and be faithful?
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3. • A marriage that is working well and moving
along smoothly is difficult to maintain –
relationships take a LOT of work.
• Trouble usually arises when spouses are
careless and mean to each other and hurt
intimacy that leads to neglect, leaving
emotional needs unmet.
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4. • When relationships reach this point, it’s not
uncommon for one or both spouses to seek
satisfaction outside of the marital relationship
to be free of conflict.
• If they agree to do whatever it takes to solve
their problems and put forth the effort to
make each other happy, then hurt feelings can
be healed, love can be restored.
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5. • This will make their marriage flow smoothly
again. And a bright future will be theirs to
enjoy for years to come.
• Love is freedom. Is anything more
exhilarating than being madly in love?
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6. • Who wouldn’t want to be with someone who
cares for and meets their needs — especially
their emotional needs?
• We are all looking for our emotional needs to
be met.
• In marriage is where the greatest emotional
needs are met.
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7. Love sets hearts free.
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8. • The most common causes of
misunderstandings and disagreements within
a marriage are the reactions of each partner
to their spouse’s hurtful words and actions.
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9. • Being demanding and controlling can lead to
domestic violence, emotional abuse, anger
and certainly a loss of respect, which all
result in pain and suffering. And a once warm
and beautiful relationship is ruined, marriage
becomes almost a battlefield.
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10. Marriage Questions That NEEED
ANSWERS.
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11. • How does my spouse make me feel when we
are together?
• Does he or she appreciate me and make me
feel important?
• Does he or she make me feel safe and
secure?
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12. • How much time do you and your spouse
spend caring for each other?
• Remember your vows to care, protect, and
be honest/faithful?
• Are those promises being kept in
your marriage?
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13. • Caring means you seek to meet each other’s
needs. Do you know the emotional needs of
your spouse?
• Do they know yours?
• And what have you done lately to meet
them?
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14. • Protecting means that you try to shield each
other from hurt and pain.
• Do you?
• We are used to blaming each other. Do we
accept our own blames or transfer them to
our spouses?
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15. • And honesty is being able to communicate
openly to each other your deepest joys and
concerns.
• How comfortable are you in being open and
honest with your spouse?
• Can they be open and honest with you?
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16. • Do you really know each other?
• Are you indeed in love or you are there for
the sake of being seen to be in marriage?
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17. •Choose today to put the fireworks
back into your marriage.
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18. • You are not coerced into marriage. You
CHOSE to marry so you have to bear the
consequences of your decision.
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19. • So CHOOSE today to make your marriage
better.
• CHOOSE to move forward and do whatever it
takes to enjoy a passion-filled marriage.
• CHOOSE to set your partner’s heart free
today by loving them with ALL of your heart,
mind, body and soul.
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20. •The key to have in your marriage is
unconditional love.
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21. • No one can do it but you and you alone in
your marriage.
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