The document outlines the biblical perspective on a woman's role as a helper to her husband, emphasizing that this role is a divine call from God meant to bring happiness. It details how a wife should support, encourage, and assist her husband, prioritize her efforts towards him, and actively manage the home under his authority. Practical advice is provided for wives to improve their roles, including communication of respect, spiritual growth, and enlisting support from other godly women.

1. BEING A HELPER
God’s desire for woman is to
be a Godly helper to her
husband.
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2. From a biblical point of view your role
as a woman is a divine call from God.
Your calling of God is what will bring
you the greatest happiness.
Fulfilling your God given role is the
secret to your happiness. Not clothes,
money, or material things.
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3. Genesis 2:18
The LORD God said, "It is not good for
the man to be alone. I will make a
helper suitable for him.“ (NIV)
Genesis 2:20
So the man gave names to all the
livestock, the birds of the air and all
the beasts of the field. But for Adam
no suitable helper was found. (NIV)
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4. God knew that Adam needed a
companion in order to be fruitful
and multiply and fill the earth.
So God defined helper and gave the
helper a particular purpose and
mission in life.
Let me give you what God wants the
woman to do when she says, “I do”.
There are three parts of the dream.
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5. I. THREE WAYS THE BIBLE USES THE WORD
“HELPER”.
 A. A helper is one who supports
someone.
 B. A helper is one who encourages
someone.
 C. A helper is one who assists
someone. They bring something to the
other person that they need.
A HELPER IS A S.E.A.
S-SUPPORTS
E- ENCOUARAGES
A- ASSISTS
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6. II. BEING A HELPER IS A BIBLICALLY
PROMINENT POSITION.
 Being a helper is a way the wife
can be most like God.
 The number one ultimate helper in
the Bible is God.
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7. III. BIBLICAL PRINCIPLES ON HOW TO BECOME THE
HELPER OF YOUR HUSBAND.
A. God designed the wife to be the
helper of the husband. This was God’s
design. His design and plans are
always perfect.
God’s principle for man and woman is
to share equality of status but diversity
of role.
Both are important to God, but...One of
them had to be the head.
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8. God’s purpose in His design is the
woman is for the man. 1 Corinthians 11:9
neither was man created for woman, but
woman for man. (NIV)
God created the woman for him.
Women have certain things men don’t
have: intuition, sensitivity for others, etc.
God’s perfection in His design is for the
woman to be the completer to the man
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9. God’s primary role for the wife, her
calling, is to come along side of her
husband and be his helper.
Therefore, we can clearly declare by
God’s design, the wife is the helper
of the husband and actively
supports, encourages, and assists
him.
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10. B. The wife should prioritize her energies
to help her husband.
The key priority for the wife is not her
children, her work, or ministry, but her
husband.
The key recipient of the wife’s help is her
husband.
The key evaluator of the effectiveness of
her help is her husband. The wife should
ask the husband how she can help more.
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11. C. The wife has been given the position
as worker of the home.
Titus 2:4-5
Then they can train the younger women
to love their husbands and children, to
be self-controlled and pure, to be busy
at home, to be kind, and to be subject
to their husbands, so that no one will
malign the word of God.(NIV)
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12.  D. The wife is to actively manage the house
under the authority of her husband.
 1 Timothy 5:14
 So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have
children, to manage their homes and to give
the enemy no opportunity for slander. (NIV)
 The wife is in charge of the home. She can
take care of all the finances if she wants to or
delegate it.
 She makes the decisions of the home.
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13. The wife is not a problem giver but a
problem solver. Proverbs 31:26
She speaks with wisdom, and faithful
instruction is on her tongue. (NIV)
E. The wife is to give of her life to her
husband so that he will be known in the
gates.
Proverbs 31:23
Her husband is respected at the city
gate, where he takes his seat among the
elders of the land. (NIV)
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14. Or he will be known for his
greatness, she makes him what he
is.
Behind every great man there is a
greater woman...and a surprised
mother-inlaw.
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15. IV. FOUR PRACTICAL WAYS YOU CAN
IMPROVE YOUR ROLE AS HELPER.
 A. You must practice communicating respect
and admiration for your husband.
Ephesians 5:33
However, each one of you also must love his
wife as he loves himself, and the wife must
respect her husband. (NIV)
 A wife should never criticize her husband in
public or tear him down in private.
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16. A wife should always compliment
her husband in public and build him
up in private.
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17. B. You must pursue your own spiritual
growth.
 This is important even if you husband
is not the spiritual leader he should
be.
 You must not harbor resentment
toward your husband if he is weak in
this area.
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18.  C. You should seek to enlist the help
of godly women for encouragement,
support, and accountability.
 Ask them what they have done to
show respect and encouragement to
their husbands.
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19. D. You should rejoice regularly that
God has called you to be the helper of
your husband.
When you help your husband “do it
heartily, as to the Lord and not to men.”
Colossians 3:23
Whatever you do, work at it with all
your heart, as working for the Lord, not
for men, (NIV)
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20. We may not know exactly what God
wants for your husband, but as the
wife you have the privilege of helping
him achieve God’s goals in his life.
The Proverbs 31 woman is not great
just because of what she did, but
because of what became of her
husband because of what she did.
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21. Proverbs 31:11-12
Her husband has full confidence in
her and lacks nothing of value. She
brings him good, not harm, all the
days of her life. (NIV)
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22. WAYS TO BE A HELPER
1. Pray for Him.
2. Love Him
3. Esteem Him.
4. Serve Him.
5. Aid Him.
6. Protect Him.
7. Do Not Frustrate Him
8. Forgive Him.
9. Affirm Him.
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23. If wives are able to pray for their
husbands, love, esteem, serve, aid,
protect, forgive, affirm and not
frustrate them, I believe they would
have played their roles as helpers.
What else would a man be looking
for?
This is an honorable duty for a wife as
a helper.
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