John provides a guide to building effective communities through three steps: 1. Begin with the end in mind by considering what outcomes you want the community to achieve and designing it intentionally around shared values and goals. 2. Think win-win by listening to understand others' perspectives, finding common ground, and solutions that benefit all members of the community. 3. Seek first to understand through empathetic listening so that all voices feel heard and understood, building trust and cooperation.

1. For The
Love
Of Code
John Cleary
@TheRealBifter

2. Warning!

3. Bees

4. Keynote, huh?

5. John’s Two Step Guide to Getting “Keynote”
•Ask
•Don’t submit your talk to the same event
and in the same year as the creator of the
language or framework for which the
conference was created.

7. All About MeCommunities

10. Community

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12. “The mocking of any technology by anyone
is like watching my parents having a fight
every day” Jenny Wong - @miss_jwo

13. What’s the worst the could happen?
•More segregated
•Less diverse
•Echo chambers are formed

14. Where do you fit in?
•Everyone plays a part
•Your words and actions count
•The things you don’t do and
don’t say count too.

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What should I learn?

16. Recommending a Movie
Movies I’ve
seen
Movies I
Like
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17. Recommending a Language
Languages I’ve
used
Languages I
like
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Have a great community

18. What makes a community great?
•Passionate
•Fun
•Exciting
•A Fourth Thing

19. Communities
are made up
of people

20. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
3
•Begin with the end in mind
•Think win-win
•Seek first to understand, then to be
understood.

21. Begin with the end in mind

22. All things are created twice

23. By design or by default?

24. Default Scripting
•Family
•Friends
•Our earlier life
•Colleagues
•Society

25. What ya gonna do?

26. A Personal Philosophy
•Embody your core values
•Contributions
•Achievements

27. Core Values
•Principles or beliefs of central
importance
•Four or Five max
•Test them

28. To have fun in my journey through
life and learn from my mistakes.
Richard Branson

29. Think Win-Win

30. •Win Win
•Win Lose
•Lose Win
•Lose Lose
•Win
•Win Win or No-Deal
Models of Human Interaction

31. Win Win

32. Win Lose

33. Lose Win

34. Lose Lose

35. Win

36. Win Win or No Deal

37. Achieving Win Win
•Courage
•Consideration

38. Which is best?

39. Is Win-Win realistic?

40. Seek first to understand,
then to be understood

41. Listening is a skill
in short supply

42. Most people do not list with the intent to understand;
they listen with the intent to reply.

43. Autobiographical Responses
•Evaluate
•Probe
•Advise
•Interpret

44. Empathetic Listening
•More listening than talking
•Avoid jumping to “solutions”
•Seek clarification
•Reflecting back what you’ve heard

45. Having different opinions is an opportunity to practice
empathetic listening

46. Think Win WinBegin with the end in
mind
Seek first to
understand, then to
be understood
And this relates to communities, how exactly?
…for the good of
all communities
…and planning a
future
Listening to each other

47. Thank You
Dedicated to my family
(I mean it)
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