What is the difference between objecting & disagreeing? So, objecting is sort of a meta disagreement ie. we disagree with how we disagree. “I simply object on the grounds that you raised your tone & volume when we disagreed “

1. GOSSIPPING
OBSEQUIOUS
…why?
Why do organizations look like this?
ACQUIESENCE
ASSENTING to authority
CONFORMITY
Politically Correct
Compromising
SYCOPHANTS
discomfort
FAILURE to ask
“dumb questions”
WALKING ON EGGSHELLS

2. Shut the
F#*K UP!
How should you & I behave,
Because of
Uncertainty!
…when I misbehave???

3. 1. The OFFENDERS’S (bullying) Behavior
Absolute Language
DOGMA
Blaming Rhetorical Questions
Volume
Tone
Implicit Intimidation
Steamrolling
MISLEADING
Sulking
HumiliatingIgnoring
SARCASM
Coercion
Threatening
hypocrisy
When I’m angry no
one’s really objected to
my behavior before
SWEARING
nagging
ACCUSING
______ ________

4. SNOWFLAKE
Go with the flow
Let SLEEPING DOGS lie
Don’t ROCK the BOAT!
Don’t make WAVES!
Don’t upset the applecart
Suck it up BUTTERCUP
Have a THICK SKIN
Get OVER IT!
Don’t be a SNITCH!
2. The OFFENDED’S (bullied) Behavior
I’m too SENSITIVE!
When I’m offended
I’ve let it go, thinking it’s
just not worth it
STICKS & STONES..
Implicit Submission______ _______

5. Welcome to
Object123.com
A workplace behavior tool
“it’s how we behave”

6. Split disagreements into two…
1.We disagree
with the content
as usual
2.We OBJECT
(in real-time)
to HOW we disagree
(misbehavior)

7. …the offender’s
behavior
When one’s offended:
ESCALATE

8. …the offender’s
behavior
When one’s offended:
ESCALATE ESCALATE

9. …the offender’s
behavior
When one’s offended:
ESCALATE ESCALATE ESCALATE

10. Sack him
Sack her
Sack him
Sack him
If still unresolved our peers decide...
*NOT HR or Management!
Sack him

11. Adding safety can be exhausting…
or…to remember….
Too much….
reading…. workshops….

12. “Want to teach??
Don’t bother…
Give them a tool…
which leads to new
ways of thinking”
Buckminster Fuller
Or use a tool to stop misbehavior!

13. What people are saying…
“
”
Very interesting point, Desmond.
Democratize organizational power as we do
political power, so (we) can vote people out
Timothy R. Clark Author of The 4 Stages of Psychological Safety

14. Knowing how to behave,
and the sky’s the limit!
…means no more walking on eggshells
when you or I misbehave…