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GOSSIPPING
OBSEQUIOUS
…why?
Why do organizations look like this?
ACQUIESENCE
ASSENTING to authority
CONFORMITY
Politically Correct
Compromising
SYCOPHANTS
Walking on Eggshells
discomfort
NOT asking
“dumb questions”
Power Abuse
FEAR
FEAR…of being ABUSED
Shut UP!of
…of being ABUSIVE
…of getting in TROUBLE
…of being FIRED
The offender’s favorite TOOLS ….
Browbeating
I’m angry &
DOGMA
Blaming Rhetorical Questions
Volume
Tone
Intimidation
Manipulation
Steamrolling
MISLEADING
Sulking
Humiliating
Ignoring
(silent treatment)
SARCASM
Coercion
ThreateningDEADLINES
I’m offensive
swearing
nagging
GASLIGHTING
SNOWFLAKE
Go with the flow
Let SLEEPING DOGS lie
Don’t ROCK the BOAT!
Don’t make WAVES!
Don’t upset the applecart
Suck it up BUTTERCUP
Have a THICK SKIN
Get OVER IT!
Don’t be a SNITCH!
The victim’s escape TOOLS….
I’m too SENSITIVE!
I’m offended
& I’m passive
During a disagreement we agree to..
DISAGREE with
the
…in real-time
content.
OBJECT to the
behavior…
…but
(how we deliver the content)
When one feels offended simply…
The offender.. Or escalate to
like a ref’s Whistle……
“ ”
or escalate to
like a ref’s Whistle……Yellow Card
When one feels offended simply…
“ ” “ ”
The offender..
like a ref’s Whistle……Yellow Card……Red Card
When one feels offended simply…
“ ” “ ” “ ”
The offender..
If still unresolved our peers decide..
...NOT HR!
Sack him
Sack him
Sack him Sack him Sack him
Someday these tools will also
be mandatory.
Occupational Health & Safety
Mandatory tools in the workplace.
Psychological Health & Safety
Adding safety is exhausting…
or…to remember….
Too much….
reading…. workshops….
or use simple tools to stop abuse…
“want to teach…
don’t bother…
give them a tool…
which leads to new
ways of thinking”
Buckminster Fuller
What people are saying…
“
”
Very interesting point, Desmond.
Democratize organizational power as we do
political power, so (we) can vote people out
Timothy R. Clark Author of The 4 Stages of Psychological Safety
What people are saying…
Me:
”
“Amy:
“What is the opposite to psychological
safety?
You’ve said it quite nicely in your slide
share: Walking on eggshells
Amy Edmondson author of The Fearless Organization”
…the sky’s the limit
no more walking on eggshells
When we stop power abuse

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Object123 Simple tools to help stop power abuse

  • 1. GOSSIPPING OBSEQUIOUS …why? Why do organizations look like this? ACQUIESENCE ASSENTING to authority CONFORMITY Politically Correct Compromising SYCOPHANTS Walking on Eggshells discomfort NOT asking “dumb questions”
  • 2. Power Abuse FEAR FEAR…of being ABUSED Shut UP!of …of being ABUSIVE …of getting in TROUBLE …of being FIRED
  • 3. The offender’s favorite TOOLS …. Browbeating I’m angry & DOGMA Blaming Rhetorical Questions Volume Tone Intimidation Manipulation Steamrolling MISLEADING Sulking Humiliating Ignoring (silent treatment) SARCASM Coercion ThreateningDEADLINES I’m offensive swearing nagging GASLIGHTING
  • 4. SNOWFLAKE Go with the flow Let SLEEPING DOGS lie Don’t ROCK the BOAT! Don’t make WAVES! Don’t upset the applecart Suck it up BUTTERCUP Have a THICK SKIN Get OVER IT! Don’t be a SNITCH! The victim’s escape TOOLS…. I’m too SENSITIVE! I’m offended & I’m passive
  • 5.
  • 6. During a disagreement we agree to.. DISAGREE with the …in real-time content. OBJECT to the behavior… …but (how we deliver the content)
  • 7. When one feels offended simply… The offender.. Or escalate to like a ref’s Whistle…… “ ”
  • 8. or escalate to like a ref’s Whistle……Yellow Card When one feels offended simply… “ ” “ ” The offender..
  • 9. like a ref’s Whistle……Yellow Card……Red Card When one feels offended simply… “ ” “ ” “ ” The offender..
  • 10. If still unresolved our peers decide.. ...NOT HR! Sack him Sack him Sack him Sack him Sack him
  • 11. Someday these tools will also be mandatory. Occupational Health & Safety Mandatory tools in the workplace. Psychological Health & Safety
  • 12. Adding safety is exhausting… or…to remember…. Too much…. reading…. workshops….
  • 13. or use simple tools to stop abuse… “want to teach… don’t bother… give them a tool… which leads to new ways of thinking” Buckminster Fuller
  • 14. What people are saying… “ ” Very interesting point, Desmond. Democratize organizational power as we do political power, so (we) can vote people out Timothy R. Clark Author of The 4 Stages of Psychological Safety
  • 15. What people are saying… Me: ” “Amy: “What is the opposite to psychological safety? You’ve said it quite nicely in your slide share: Walking on eggshells Amy Edmondson author of The Fearless Organization”
  • 16. …the sky’s the limit no more walking on eggshells When we stop power abuse