A workplace Safe Space Tool...it's how we behave!

1. GOSSIPPING
OBSEQUIOUS
…why?
Why do organizations look like this?
ACQUIESENCE
ASSENTING to authority
CONFORMITY
Politically Correct
Compromising
SYCOPHANTS
WALKING ON EGGSHELLS
discomfort
FAILURE to ask
“dumb questions”
__________________________
disingenuous compliance

2. UNCERTAINTY! Eh! You can’t
be serious??
1. …when I’ve OFFENDED you?
2. …when you’ve OFFENDED me?
How do we BEHAVE…

3. 1. The Offender’s use of STOP-GAPS…
Browbeating
DOGMA
Blaming Rhetorical Questions
Volume
Tone
Implicit Intimidation
Steamrolling
MISLEADING
Sulking
HumiliatingIgnoring
SARCASM
Coercion
Threatening
DEADLINES
When I’m angry no one
has really objected to my
behavior before.
swearing
nagging
ACCUSING
______ ________

4. SNOWFLAKE
Go with the flow
Let SLEEPING DOGS lie
Don’t ROCK the BOAT!
Don’t make WAVES!
Don’t upset the applecart
Suck it up BUTTERCUP
Have a THICK SKIN
Get OVER IT!
Don’t be a SNITCH!
2. The Offended’s use of STOP-GAPS….
I’m too SENSITIVE!
When I’m offended
I’ve let it go, thinking it’s
just not worth it
STICKS & STONES..
Implicit Submission______ _______

6. Use a STOP-BUTTON not STOP-GAPS
When one feels offended simply…

7. First: Split a disagreement in to 2
1.We disagree
with the content
as usual
2.We
OBJECT to HOW
we disagree
(misbehave)
in real-time

8. When one feels offended simply…
…the offender
!

9. When one feels offended simply…
…the offender
! !

10. When one feels offended simply…
…the offender
! ! !

11. If still unresolved our peers decide...NOT HR!
Sack him
Sack her
Sack him Sack him Sack him

12. Adding safety can be exhausting…
or…to remember….
Too much….
reading…. workshops….

13. “Want to teach??
Don’t bother…
Give them a tool…
which leads to new
ways of thinking”
Buckminster Fuller
Or use a tool to stop misbehavior!

14. What people are saying…
“
”
Very interesting point, Desmond.
Democratize organizational power as we do
political power, so (we) can vote people out
Timothy R. Clark Author of The 4 Stages of Psychological Safety

15. When we know how to behave…
the sky’s the limit
…no more walking on eggshells