2. by: Rose Ann Ratone
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3. What is ANGER?
a strong feeling of displeasure and belligerence aroused by a wrong;
a general term for a sudden violent displeasure;
an emotion of displeasure or antagonism
excited by a real supposed injury or insult to one's self or others
a emotional state that can range from minor irritation to intense rage
It occurs as a defensive response to a perceive attacked or treat or our
well-being
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4. Origin of Anger
- comes from personal injust that have happen all our lives (ignorance; tolerance ;ego )
-come from deep within you, it can be anything. it
Samples:
maybe perhaps your co-worker or employee didn’t do their work
maybe perhaps you broke something that make other angry
maybe perhaps you promised something and you do it
Relation conflict with someone- excessive anger
maybe you tripped on a path and makes you hurt
Maybe you lost / misplace your car key
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5. Managing Anger- The 5 Points of Origin
1. You believe you are right about something
2. You believe your image is under attacked
3. A sense of loss or grief
4. Feeling of inadequate / inferior to other
5. Anger is the only repose we know
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6. Myths about anger
Anger is dangerous
We should not express our anger
Anger is bad
Anger is good
Anger is sin
Male are more anger
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7. Causes of anger
High expectation
Faulty perception and thinking
Personality factor
Poor communication skills
Poor emotional control
“Anger will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are
cherished in the mind. Anger will disappear just as soon as thoughts of
resentment are forgotten.”
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8. What do you think?
Judgmental
Hate
Blame
Preoccupied
Take revenge
Distrust
“Anger and intolerance are the enemies of correct
understanding.”
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9. How do you feel?
Frustration
Jealous
Disappointment
Irritability
“When you are offended at any man's fault, turn to
yourself and study your own failings. Then you will
forget your anger.” -Epictetus
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10. How to deal with
angry feelings
effectively
1) Identify the emotional baggage from
childhood
issues.
4) Take steps to establish
real communication skills.
2) Identify stressors and learn stress-
management techniques
and relaxation skills 5) Learn to recognize your
body’s reactions to anger.
3) Learn
to
state your
true feelings 6) Attempt to see things from the
other person’s perspective
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11. Learn skills to deal
•Assertiveness
•Communication
•Relaxation
•Listening
•Empathy
•Self regulation
•Emotional regulation
•Cognitive reappraisal
•Stress management
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12. Tips to control your anger
a. Learn more about your triggering event
b. Reduce your expectation
c. Learn self-control- delay your response
d. Check the way you think, feel
e. Forgive and accept others mistakes
f. Exercise regularly
g. Reduce alcohol, smoking, caffeine
h. Talk to someone you love
i. Get adequate sleep
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13. Get Rid of Different form of anger
• Fighting/ aggression
• Argument/ objection/howling/ roaring
• conflict
Forgive and forget
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14. Remember
Understand not all anger is bad
Do not suppress your anger
There is another way to express your
anger
Any one can learn to handle or cope up
with anger, don’t feel bad about you
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15. When you are ANGRY and UPSET
remember…
1-2-3 TURTLE
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16. 1 – Go inside your shell
THINK before you ACT
Take a “Time Out”
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17. 2 – Take 3 Deep Breaths
Time to RELAX
Calm yourself
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18. 3–Walk Away
Think of a
good solution
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19. Control Your Anger Before it controls you Since…
Anger is one letter
short of
D..A..N..G..E..R!
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