Anger myths : Males are more angry than female Anger is bad The older you get the more irritable you become Anger is all in the mind Anger is result of human conflicts
Types and levels of anger :Episodic irritationEpisodic angerEpisodic rage Chronic irritation Chronic anger Chronic rage
Drawbacks of ANGERIT IS DETRIMENTAL TO YOUR :1. HEALTH2. PERSONAL LIFE3. PROFESSIONAL LIFE
Benefits of ANGER Although uncontrolled anger can be quite costly, when channeled properly anger can also be very positive.
Redford William’s theory :The 12 GOLDEN steps to CALM DOWN are
Step 1 : Make a ‘Hostile Log’ What made you angry? How did you respond? Was this justified? Use it to monitor what triggers your anger. When you that the source of anger, you can develop strategies to handle the situation.
Step 2 : Acknowledge that youhave a problem managing yourAnger Its an observed truth that you can’t change things which you don’t acknowledge
Step 3 : Use your supportnetwork Let people close to you know, that you are planning to make some changes in your persona. They can be a source of motivation and great support to you.
Step : 4 Use Anger managementtechniques to interrupt the anger cycle Pause Take Deep Breaths Tell yourself, you can handle the situation Stop the negative thoughts
Step 5 : Use Empathy If a person is responsible for your anger, try and understand the situation from his view point Remind yourself to be objective
Step 6 : Laugh at yourself Humor is often the best medicine. Don’t take everything seriously. BUT…
Step : 7 Relax Don’t let little things bother you.
Step 8 : Build Trust Angry people can be cynical They blame others for their short temper You need the understand other people’s stance
Step 9 : Listen When you are angry, your brain STOPS working and so does your ears!! The better you listen to the other side , the better you understand the situation and therefore resolve it
Step 10 : Be assertive notaggressive If you learn to assert yourself and let other people know what your expectations, boundaries, and issues are, you are understood better.