Equally Yoked Unions - Liberal Arts and Humanities

1. Equally Yoked CouplesEqually Yoked Couples
Premarital, Marital, and
Nuclear Family Issues
Social
Psycholog
y
WebinarWebinar
Liberal Arts and Humanities

2. Equallyoked: & Social Psychology
• “Equallyoked” is the dyadic union of
couples pairing off - related to sameness
(or similarity) of ‘civil identity’.
• Social Psychology is the scientific study of
the what information, moral-values, and
emotions are significantly exchanged
within and across such social groups.
• Civil Identity: …age, etc.
Liberal Arts and Humanities
Dyadi
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PsychologyPsychology

3. Equally Yoked: SomeEqually Yoked: Some QuotesQuotes
• “…a more meaningful relationship for marriage,
family life, childbearing, and childrearing.”
SocPsy200
• “…a widely prescribed relationship to meet the
expectations of a true society.”
SocPsy333
• “..a more fair and balanced relationship in both
structure - to aspire to and maintain.”
SocPsy404
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4. Equallyoked:Equallyoked: Cost-Benefit RatioCost-Benefit Ratio
• “…‘equally-yoked’ is the optimally configured
and constructed interpersonal coupleship.”
• “…in socialism, generally all people are
considered equal, …in an equallyoked society,
…true equality is valued in premarital, marital,
and extended families.”
• “…the cost-benefit ratio of intimate sexual
partners who are of the same/or a similar ‘civil
identity’ fair better.”
Liberal Arts and Humanities

5. Equally Yoked:Equally Yoked: IndifferencesIndifferences
Unequally Yoked - Traits
• Fake/ Deceitful /
Distracting
• Reactive/Cruel
• Narcissistic/
Destructive/Conflicting
• Irresponsible/
Distressful
• Sex: Painful/Dirty
• Negative Self-Esteem
• Mismanagement of Money
Equallyoked – Features
• Positive Self-Image
• Cooperative
• Altruistic/ Kind/ Tender
• Truthful/Honest
• Love & Affection
• Responsible
• Sex: Healthful/
Pleasureable
• Wise management of money
for extended family future
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6. Equally Yoked:Equally Yoked: Mutual OrgasmsMutual Orgasms
Unequally Yoked
• Orgasms (as a goal):
41% Yes
• Selfless (mutual consent
to achieve an orgasm):
64.3% Yes
• Satisfaction:
No: 16.4% OK: ~59% Yes: 24%
Equally Yoked
• Mutual Orgasm:
as a mutual OBJECTIVE-
99.7% YES
• Simultaneous (orgasms)
76.9% YES
• Mutual Satisfaction
99.69% YES
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1957 Consensus
2007 Data

7. Equally Yoked:Equally Yoked: AdjustmentAdjustment
Equally Yoked vs Unequally Yoked
• Vast conflicting results related to whether
a couple is ‘better adapted’ socially or not.
Factors:
• It depends largely on the Individual Couple
– The Nation/Language/Customs/Society
– The Specific Subculture/or Cultural Area
– The Community/or Neighbourhood
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8. Equally Yoked:Equally Yoked: ConcernsConcerns
• Overemphasis on ‘Looks”
– A pair of ‘look alikes’
• Categorization of Couples:
– Equally Yoked vs Unequally yoked
Overimportance of Cultural backgrounds
– Orphans – Unequallyoked becoming equallyoked
• Marriage, Family, and Child Psychology
– Research – Statistical Data – Clinical Proof
Liberal Arts and Humanities
(other than social mores)

9. Equallyoked:Equallyoked: AuthenicityAuthenicity
• Translations (International publications)
– Attitudes, findings, and terminology
– ‘Similarity’ as culturally defined
• Regional Beliefs vs Mainstream Data
– Surveys indicate differences
• Social Scientist’s Reality
– Hypothesis verses actual evidence
– reported significance vs actual clinical proof
Liberal Arts and Humanities

10. Equallyoked:Equallyoked: in Multiculturalismin Multiculturalism
• Arts, Languages, Customs
• Beliefs and Philosophies
• Relationships
– Mutual Attraction
– Pairing Off – Coupling Up
– Socially “Approved” Unions
• Marriage and Family
– Love, romance, and consummation
Liberal Arts and Humanities

11. Equallyoked:Equallyoked: PartnershipsPartnerships
• Greetings, Touch, and Folkways
– folk dancing, e.g., round or square dancing
• Varying expression of affection
– hands, arm, shoulder, ribs, back…etc
• Features that embody the ‘ideal’ intimacy
– Face-to-face (the cheek/or forehead touch)
• no kissing – yes social kissing – romantic kissing
– Sitting together – shoulders/thighs touching
– Hand-holding (smell of the breath)
Liberal Arts and Humanities

12. Equallyoked:Equallyoked: Fact vs FictionFact vs Fiction
• The most significant of findings
– Disillusion/Myths – rigorous sexual harmony
– Very similar ‘civil identity’ vs ‘the same’…
• Equallyoked Couples: Bliss vs despair
– High level: ecstatic lovemaking events
• Spontaneous – Special times – Planned for
• Difficult – disparate episodes
• Complexity – childhood trauma – self distortion
Liberal Arts and Humanities

13. Equally Yoked:Equally Yoked: DistinctionsDistinctions
• Equally Yoked self-sufficiency
– Do it yourself as a couple orientation to living
• Develop of individuality as a Couple
– Special – Unique – Tremendous Variation
• Needs, feelings, Hopes/dreams
– Similarities/Differences
– Superficial/Forthright/Outright Honest
– Power/Strengths/Limitations
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14. College StudiesCollege Studies
Some Suggested Schools:
SociologySociology
Oakwood University, Grinnell College, Occidental College, Shaw
University, Gallaudet University, Central State University,
Social PsychologySocial Psychology
Kentucky State University, Livingstone College, Claremont McKenna
College, Reed College, Swarthmore College, Cheyney University of
Pennsylvania,
Civil Rights and/or Community HealthCivil Rights and/or Community Health
East Texas Baptist University, Presbyterian College, Franklin College,
Sewanee-University of the South, Inter American University of Puerto
Rico-Barranquit, Benedict College,
Marriage Family and Child PsychologyMarriage Family and Child Psychology
Hampshire College, Pomona College, Hiram College, Oregon Health &
Science University, Wilmington College, Saint Augustine’s University,
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15. Equallyoked DyadsEquallyoked Dyads
Premarital, Marital, and
Nuclear Family Issues
Social
Psycholog
yLiberal Arts and Humanities
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