This slide presentation entitled, "Equallyoked" – a social phenomena that has been identified in virtually all multicultural societies around the world. Whether its a Marriage, Family, and Child Psychologist referring to this dyadic archetectural phenomena with respect to the individuals in such a partnership for such reasons as social resilience, assurance of family lineage, and ‘security in self-esteem or as only a description.’ Social Psychologists identify this social phenomena amongst peoples anywhere as the most valued of 'social mores.' Sociologists recognize this social phenomena as perpetual community (psychosocial) health matter - especially amongst various specifically identified areas and groups.

1. ““Equally Yoked”Equally Yoked”
(also, Equallyoked)(also, Equallyoked)
Becoming “Equally Yoked”Becoming “Equally Yoked”
in a Multicultural Societyin a Multicultural Society
Discussion and Class ExerciseDiscussion and Class Exercise
Liberal Arts and Humanities
Social
Psychology

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3. ““Equallyoked” is pronounced..Equallyoked” is pronounced..
• …“Eek quel ee yoak‘d” and is when a couple -
who recognize, identify with, related to, believe
in, bonds with, and marries one other
purposefully related to the same (or nearly the
same) ‘Civil Identity’* - thus are considered in a
multi-cultural society, ‘equallyoked’.
• * ‘Civil Identity’ (a Social Psychology term) -
describes a mosaic of features concerning an
individual’s present: Ethnicity, political party
membership, race, color, religious membership,
disability/ handicap, age/age-group/generation, (proper)
sexual orientation, familial status, and marital status.
- Intro to SocPsy 222

4. ““Equallyoked”Equallyoked”
The term 'Equallyoked' (equally yoked) is derived;
• “Equally” - meaning “alike”, in a “balanced” manner, “the
same” or to “the same” degree of, etc.,
• “Yoked” - means (Latin jungere 'to join‘), …fastened
around the neck to join together, …. burdened with.
• History: May have evolved from synonyms, with such
meanings as: “Equitably, Fairly, Justly.”
Sentence: “They were an ‘equally yoked’ couple of
from families of just ordinary means.”
- SocPsy222/ Etymology

5. ..Equally Yoked”
“Try to Be….
Happy.Happy.Happy.Happy.
Happy.Happy.Happy.Happy.
HappyHappy?
HappyHappy?
Social
Psychology

6. The “Equally Yoked” are HappierThe “Equally Yoked” are Happier
A multiplicity of studies – both formal and casual survey’s
have proven that ‘equally yoked’ couples are happier.
A few of the reasons ‘equally yoked couples are happier
than alternative coupleships were identified as:
1. First, equally yoked couples decided to make a ‘choice’
to be ‘equally yoked’ and then they follow thru with
enjoining themselves together right into it.
2. Second, equaly yoked couples – as individuals, make a
conscious choice to ‘be happy’ within their own preferred
kind of coupleship.
3. Thirdly, equally yoked couples tend to focus on the ‘little
things’ in their coupleship (and life) to ‘be happy.’a
- Social Psychology 222
A College Campus Surveys, Meta-analysis, U.S.A., 2011-2014

7. The term, “Equallyoked”The term, “Equallyoked”
• The term 'Equallyoked' (also, equally yoked)
probable came about from the Bible – wherein
Jews marrying Jews, Muslims marrying Muslims,
Christians marrying Christians, etc, etc, etc.
• It is a social phenomena that exists in all
multicultural societies - peoples of the same de
facto ‘Civil Identity' marrying one another for
reasons of good self-esteem, religious beliefs,
and preserving the integrity of their family
identity – expressly for abiding in social mores
and therefore community (psychosocial) health.
- Sociology 101/ Social Psychology

8. a Social Phenomena..a Social Phenomena..
• “A couple (usually a heterosexual dyadic) who
are of very similar or the same ‘Civil Identity’…
a
• “Any couples who are bonded together and
who are of the ‘same’ or ‘very similar’ Civil
identities…” a,b
• “A marital couple who decided to marry - with
their backgrounds related to their ‘Civil
Identity.’IBID
- SocPsy222

9. Dyadic PsychologyDyadic Psychology
• “Equallyokedtarians are of interest to social
psychologists because they represent a dyadic group
of the same ‘Civil identity.’a
• “Couples who primarily choose to bond and marry
together ‘because’ they are the ‘same’ or ‘very similar’
Civil Identities, among other reasons, may contribute to
marital longevity -staying together for a lifetime as..
evidenced.”IBID
• “The measured ‘self esteem’ of individuals of a marital
couple who marries with backgrounds related to their
own ‘Civil Identities’ are worthy marital satisfaction
studies as well.” IBID
- Marriage, Family, and Child Psychology

10. ““On the Street”On the Street”
A few statements taken by interviewers out on the
street:

“Equally yoked has to do with love, a healthy mind
and healthy relationship.”
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“I adore (giggle) seeing the equally yoked
Couples.”

“Whatever the age - ‘equally yoked’ applies.”
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“Hey, I was born to be ‘equally yoked’.”

“Yeah, I like being ‘equally yoked’.”

“Indeed, I do love and cherish my ‘equally yoked
help meet’”

“It was just how I was raised, …to be ‘equally
yoked’.”
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“It’s (being equally yoked) for me.”
New York, 2001
Psychology Student

11. ““Civil Identity”Civil Identity”
- Ethnicity:
- Politics:
- Religion:
- Race:
- Color:
- Age:
- Sex:Sex:
- Sex preference:
- Marital status:
- Ethnicity:
- Politics:
- Religion:
- Race:
- Color:
- Age:
- Sex:Sex:
- Sex preference:
- Marital status:
- Sociology: 101
‘de facto’ (in fact, in reality)
personalitypersonalitypersonalitypersonality
Exercise: Try to write down the elements of two individuals’ ‘civil
identity of a couple who you know – do not write names

12. Different Point-of-ViewsDifferent Point-of-Views
“Equallyokedtarians” are those couples - who are
‘equally yoked’ - yet having varying points of
views* about their marital relationship:
* Liberals – “..a couple … sharing in vague
beliefs, i.e., explained as the same ‘spirit’ or an
attitude about some issue.” a
* Moderates – “..marrying one another r/t ‘very
similar’ civil identities-close enough for them.” b
* Conservatives – “..marriage between two
people who share the same or at least fairly
‘equal’ ‘Civil Identities’.” IBID
- Marriage, Family, and Child Psychology

13. Coupling up….Coupling up….
• Nonequallyoked – “Couples who do recognize
equallyokedtarianism as a social mores and yet for
their own ulterior motives still choose to violate social
mores as an rash option.” a
• Unequallyoked – “Couples who are naïve, thus
inadvertently demonstrate opposition to equallyoked-
tarianism, as a social mores.” IBID
• Anti-equallyoked – “Couples who are a bit mentally/
emotionally disturbed and are deliberately active
against proper socialization, contrary to equallyoked-
tarianism and social mores,” IBID
- SocPsy222/Terminology
……in a ‘hook up’ culturein a ‘hook up’ culture

14. WhyWhy “Equallyoked”?“Equallyoked”?
• Motives - a couple who are ‘equallyoked’ may
do so for a variety of reasons-some of which include:
– Beliefs about life, self-image, truth and God, death, etc.
– Bonding for long term love, romance, and sex.
– Marriage, family/children, and financial goals.
• Self esteem – individuals with a clear sense of self-
marrying someone of a ‘like’ civil identity.
• Family identity – to maintain the integrity and the
longevity of the extended family identity.
• Social mores – a preserved cultural standard in a
multicultural society for the sake of community health.
- Marriage, Family, and Child Psychology

15. An Example of “Equally Yoked”An Example of “Equally Yoked”
• Ethnicity: Euro-American
• Political Party: Republican
• Race: Anglo, Color: Light
• Religion: Christian
• Disability: None
• Age: 25
• Sex: FemaleFemale
• Preference: Heterosexual
• Marital Status: Single
• Ethnicity: Euro-American
• Political Party: Republican
• Race: Anglo, Color: Light
• Religion: Christian
• Disability: None
• Age: 25 ½
• Sex: MaleMale
• Preference: Heterosexual
• Marital Status: Single
Individual - 1Individual - 1 Individual - 2Individual - 2
- Intro to SocPsy 222

16. No one has a “perfect” coupleshipNo one has a “perfect” coupleship

“The time spent out in society acquiring a
realistic perspective on ‘normal’ relationships
can be a challenge. The more aware of our
relationships, for example, our coupleship
archetecture, the more likely we are to care
about it. …No one has a “perfect” coupleship
and couples come in a variety of different and
diverse ‘civil identities’ matched and
mismatched.”
South Africa, 2001
- Liberal Arts and Humanities -

17. • Be ye not unequally yoked together...
II Corinthians 6:14
- Marriage, Family, and Child Psychology

18. Pop QUIZPop QUIZ
1.) What do believe about is the origin of the term
“Equally Yoked?” How is it significantly related
to the Sociology? Social Psychology?
2.) Which of the medical sciences stand to gain
by valuable research by studying such ‘social
mores’ in courtship and marriage, (i.e., clinical
research of ‘dyadic’ groups who are considered
‘equally yoked’?)
3.) Why do you think de facto ‘civil Identities’ are
pertinent to ‘reference couples’ mental health?
- Due Next Class
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