4. quality of code
contribution in meetings
results
personal goals
high self-standards
wants to be the best
visible things (symptoms)
invisible things (reasons)
5. The steps
before
Step 1: Analyze the situation
Step 2: Prepare your pitch
during
Step 3: Deliver your pitch
Step 4: Feedback to feedback
Step 5: Agree clear goals
7. Cost of avoiding or delaying the conversation
● To you
● To the person
● To other managers
● To the company
8. Step 1: Analyze the situation
Visible things (numbers, facts, feedback)
Invisible things (your best guess)
9. Step 2: Prepare your pitch
1. Write down the problem in one sentence (your opening line).
2. List your main 1 or 2 messages.
3. Think about how you expect the person to react.
4. Write down your desired outcome of the meeting.
10. Step 3: Deliver your pitch
1. Get straight to the point.
2. Even if it’s emotional - deliver the content that you prepared.
11. Step 4: Feedback to feedback
1. Shut Down: “shock” – almost no conversation
2. Avoiding through agreement: wants to end the meeting fast
3. Defensive: debates the feedback, can become aggressive
4. Emotional: crying, unable to discuss rationally
5. Rejecting: does not accept responsibility, blames others or
circumstances