28. Identify Goals
What will make you
happy?
What you want to
continue happening?
What you want to stop
happening?
What you want more of?
What you want less of?
34. Steps to Brainstorming
Say whatever idea
comes into your mind
Avoid filtering out or
dismissing any ideas
Say at least one
unique, wild, far-out
idea
40. Comparing and Contrasting a
Solution
Win-Lose Situation
Analyze the costs for
each partner
Analyze the rewards for
each partner
Determine if the costs for
any partner are not
proportionate to the costs
for the other partner
41. Comparing and Contrasting a
Solution
Win-Win Situation
Do the rewards
outweigh the costs of
any solutions for both
partners?
Are the costs and
rewards that are evenly
shared by each partner?
42. Comparing and Contrasting a
Solution
Compare the list of
possible solutions to
your list of common
goals
Determine which
solutions meet the
most common goals
44. Criteria for an Action Plan
Timeline for actions to start
Plan to evaluate effectiveness and emotional states
Direct language such as “I will…” and “My partner shall…”
Concrete language
Behavioral Actions that the
Solution Requires…
You to do
You not to do
Your partner to do
Your partner not to do