Women and Selfesteem, learning to be your own coach,

1. An ongoing process of self awareness and healing

3. Week 8

5.  Quiet time
 Check-in Mini Check-in
 Self-esteem and self-efficacy
 Polluting Messages & Low self-esteem
feed addiction
 Compliments Activity
Recovery tool - affirmations

6.  Name
 Feeling
 Last use
 12 step meetings?
 What happened?
 Success with last week’s recovery
tool (HALT)

7. Webster’s dictionary defines it as
simply a "confidence and satisfaction
in oneself."
However one chooses to define it, self-esteem
is based on
 Understanding
 Accepting
 Liking oneself

8. How competent you believe
you are
 A person's judgments of their
own capabilities to follow
through with reaching
personal goals

10.  Many of the messages we
have heard were lies
 People in our lives
sometimes criticized and
blamed us –
so they wouldn’t have to be
responsible
 We heard them so many
times that we began to believe
them…
 At this point in our lives,
these dishonest messages
may seem like the truth!
An important part of
RECOVERY is
Learning to recognize
these “old tapes” and

11. Response
Format
1 = Not at all true
2 = Hardly true
3 = Moderately true
4 = Exactly true
1
I can always manage to solve difficult 1 problems if I
try hard enough
2 If someone opposes me, I can find the means and ways
to get what I want
3 It is easy for me to stick to my aims and accomplish
my goals.
4 I am confident that I could deal efficiently with
unexpected events.
5 Thanks to my resourcefulness, I know how to handle
unforeseen situations.
6 I can solve most problems if I invest the necessary
effort.
7 I can remain calm when facing difficulties because I
can rely on my coping abilities.
8 When I am confronted with a problem, I can usually
find several solutions.
9 If I am in trouble, I can usually think of a solution.
10
I can usually handle whatever comes my way.

12.  Low Self-Esteem is a self-fulfilling
prophecy
 If you think you can, you’re right
 If you think you can’t, you’re right
--Individuals with low self-esteem may not expect to do well.
--They sometimes avoid trying to accomplish things because they are
sure they will fail
They may not give themselves a chance to
experience success
 • As a result, their self-esteem remains low.

13.  Individuals with low self-esteem Do not expect to
do well
 Sometimes avoid doing new things because of
fear of failure
 Do not give themselves a
experience
 Keeping their self-esteem lower

14. ….
How you think and feel, and your body’s
response…

15.  Have you ever heard of “fear
of success”?
Have you ever experienced
it?

18.  Each participant gets
 Piece of paper
 Markers
 Tape
Draw a
frame

19.  Help each other tape picture frames
on your backs
 Write a positive word or sentence
on the paper that describes what you
know or think about each woman in
the group

20.  Read your paper aloud, using “I
statements”
 I am ______________
 How did it feel writing on another
person’s back?
 How did it feel to have others write
on your back?
 How is it for you to accept
compliments from other women?

21.  Recording NEW tapes Must be
 In present tense
 Positive vision
 No-no’s - Absence of
negative terms
 Write these on the Post-its so that
they are easily accessible
Write these on the sticky notes so
That they are easily accessible