A pattern of assaultive and coercive behaviors in which an individual establishes and maintains power and control over another with whom he/she has an intimate, romantic, marital, or family relationship. Abusers often use threats, intimidation, isolations, violent acts and other behaviors to establish and maintain power and control which is the root of domestic violence.
1. Domestic violence occurs when a person commits one of thefollowing acts against or upon his spouse, former spouse, any otherperson to whom he is related by blood or marriage, a person withwhom he is or was actually residing, a person with whom he hashad or is having a dating relationship, a person with whom he has achild in common, the minor child of any of those persons, his minorchild or any person who has been appointed the custodian or legalguardian for his minor child:(a) A battery.(b) An assault.(c) Compelling the other by force or threat of force to perform anact from which he has the right to refrain or to refrain from an actwhich he has the right to perform.(d) A sexual assault.Cont’d
(e) A knowing, purposeful or reckless course of conduct intended to harassthe other. Such conduct may include, but is not limited to: (1) Stalking. (2) Arson. (3) Trespassing. (4) Larceny. (5) Destruction of private property. (6) Carrying a concealed weapon without a permit. (7) Injuring or killing an animal.(f) A false imprisonment.(g) Unlawful entry of the others residence, or forcible entry against theothers will if there is a reasonably foreseeable risk of harm to the otherfrom the entry.2. As used in this section, "dating relationship" means frequent, intimateassociations primarily characterized by the expectation of affectionate orsexual involvement. The term does not include a casual relationship or anordinary association between persons in a business or social context.Added by Laws 1985, p. 2283. Amended by Laws 1995, p. 902; Laws1997, p. 1808; Laws 2007, c. 40, § 1; Laws 2007, c. 318, § 5.
Emotional or Psychological Abuse:• Undermining a person’s sense of self-worth•Causing fear by: intimidation, threatening physical harm toself, partner/children, destruction of pets and property, mind games, orforcing isolation from friends, family, school and/or workPhysical Abuse•Use of force against someone in a way that injures or endangers thatperson.•Denying medical care of forcing alcohol and/or drug use.Sexual Abuse• Any situation in which partner is forced to participate inunwanted, unsafe, or degrading sexual activity.Economic or Financial Abuse• Making or attempting to make a person financially dependent.
Despite what many people believe, domestic violence is not due to the abuser’s loss of control over his/her behavior. In fact, violence is a deliberate choice made by the abuser in order to take control over his/her partner. Power and Control
-The victim realistically fears that the batterer willbecome more violent and even fatal if she attempts toleave.-Their friends and family may not support themleaving.-They knows the difficulties of single parenting inreduced financial circumstances.-There is a mix of good times, love and hope alongwith the manipulation, intimidation, and fear.-They may not know about or have access to safetyand support.
A Victim is the best expert at determining their ownlevel of safety, and therefore are the best expert at determining how to survive a violent relationship, even if that means staying in the relationship
•FEAR•Lack of Resources • Financial Dependence • Isolation/lack of support•Institutional Responses•Traditional Ideology
•Leaving is not an event • Each time victims leave they learn a new part of the process so that when they know its time to leave for good- they know the systems they need to access in order to be successful•Leaving also means breaking free from someone who hasestablished power over you in many ways•Leaving will require strategic planning and legalintervention to avert separation violence and to safeguardsurvivors and their children
Effects of DV on Children • Children who witness domestic violence are affected in ways similar to children who are physically abused. • They are at a greater risk for abuse and neglect if they live in a violent home. • Children exposed to family violence are more likely to develop social, emotional, psychological and/or behavioral problems than those who are not. • Some children show no negative impact from witnessing domestic violence.
• Children who witness domestic violence areaffected inways similar to children who are physically abused.• They are at a greater risk for abuse and neglect if theylive in a violent home.• Children exposed to family violence are more likely todevelop social, emotional, psychological and/orbehavioral problems than those who are not.• Some children show no negative impact from witnessingdomestic violence.
• Numerous somatic complaints• Nervous, anxious, short attention span• Tired, lethargic and frequently ill• Poor personal hygiene• Regressed behaviors or high risk play• Shame, guilt and self blame• Fears of abandonment• Anger• Depression and feelings of helplessness• Confusion about conflicting feelings towards theirparents.
• More aggressive/more passive• Behavior problems at school• Acting out or withdrawing• “Parentified” or overly mature behavior• Rigid Defenses• Excessive attention seeking• Lying to avoid confrontation• Out of control behavior• Hypersensitivity – to sound, movement• Bedwetting and nightmares
•Withdrawl from school•Becoming secretive, ashamed, or hostile toparents, family, or friends•Partner calls, texts, or using social networkingconstantly•Apologizes for partner’s behavior constantly•Stopped hanging out with friends
Victim’s inner thoughts Abuser’s Belittling Behavior…..and feelings….Do you: Does your partner: feel afraid of your partner humiliate, criticize, or yell at much of the time? you? avoid certain topics out of treat you so badly that fear of angering your partner? you’re embarrassed for your feel that you can’t do friends or family to see? anything right for your ignore or put down your partner? opinions or believe that you deserve to be accomplishments? hurt or mistreated? blame you for his own wonder if you’re the one who is crazy? abusive behavior? see you as property or a sex feel emotionally numb or helpless? object, rather than as a person?
Abuser’s Controlling Abuser’s Violence Behavior….. Behavior/Threats….Does your partner: Does your partner: have a bad and act excessively jealous unpredictable temper? and possessive? hurt you, or threaten to control where you go or hurt or kill you? what you do? threaten to take your keep you from seeing children away or harm your friends or family? them? limit your access to threaten to commit money, the phone, or the suicide if you leave? car? force you to have sex? constantly check up on destroy your belongings? you?
•Frequent injuries with the excuse of “accidents”•Frequent and sudden absences from work or school•Frequent, harassing phone calls from the partner•Fear of the partner; references to the partners anger•Personality changes (i.e. outgoing to withdrawn)•Excessive fear of conflict•Submissive behavior; lack of assertiveness•Isolation from friends and family•Insufficient resources to live (money, credit cards, car)• Depression, crying, low self-esteem
•Gently ask direct questions about the situation.•Listen without judging.•Tell your friend the abuse in not his/her fault.•Emphasize help is available.•Explain that relationship abuse is a crime andprotection is available.•Work with your friend to identify resources that canprovide assistance and support.
What protection does the order provide?By issuing a temporary protection order, the court may:Prohibit the adverse party from threatening, physically injuring, or harassing theapplicant or minor children, either directly or through an agent.Exclude the adverse party from the applicants place of residence.Prohibit the adverse party from entering the residence, school or place of employmentof the applicant or minor children and order him/her to stay away from any specifiedplace frequented regularly by them.Prohibit the adverse party from having any contact with the applicant: In person By phone By mail (written or electronic) Through a third partyOrder such other relief as it deems necessary in an emergency situation.
An Emergency Temporary A Temporary Protection Order (ETPO) may be issued if adverse party is Protection Order (TPO) arrested for domestic battery or related charges and still in may be issued for 30 custody. days. An extension hearing This process MUST be started immediately upon the adverse may be requested to partys arrest. If the request extend the Order up to is delayed, the judge may not consider it an emergency. A one year thereafter. hearing will be scheduled within seven calendar days. The applicant must attend this hearing. Emergency Temporary
•Theapplicant will be required to complete an application, describing theneed for a Protection Order.•Criminal charges do not have to be filed.•Policeor medical reports of current or previous incidents may be includedwith the application.•Photos of any visible injuries may be taken in the Protection Order office.•Photo identification of the applicant is required for notarization of theapplication.•Theapplication must contain specific information about recentphysical, sexual and/or emotional abuse or threats of abuse that causeconcern for the applicants safety.•An advocate will review the application, discuss safety options and offerreferrals to other services as needed.•The application process may take one to two hours.
The applicant MUST have a least one of the following relationshipswith the person against whom the Order may be issued:Related by blood (i.e. son/daughter, father/mother, brother/sister)Related by marriage (i.e. spouse, ex-spouse, or current in-law)Current or former roommatePast or present dating relationshipHave children togetherNOTE: The applicant’s, or any of the person’s listed above, minorchild may also be entitled to protection.
•A stalking order that is issued by a Justice of the Peace may do thefollowing:•Order the adverse party to stay away from thehome, school, business, or place of employment of the victim andany other location specifically named by the court.•Order the adverse party to refrain fromcontacting, intimidating, threatening or otherwise interfering withthe victim and any other person, including a member of the familyor the household of the victim, specifically named by the court.
The applicant must fill out an affidavit that describes in detail the actions or behavior of theadverse party that causes the applicant to believe his/her physical or mental well-being is atrisk. The affidavit must be LEGIBLE, and it should include all relevant dates and times so thata proper foundation will be presented to the reviewing judge.In the affidavit, the applicant must show that the adverse party is acting in a pattern or"course of conduct” consisting of a series of acts over time that shows evidence of acontinuity of purpose directed at a specific person.The applicant may include any supporting documents such as:Documentation of phone callsNotes left by the adverse partyPictures of property damage etc.Answering machine tapes.The applicant will be contacted by a court clerk and informed of the judges decision. Ifgranted, the Order will be in effect for 30 days and may be extended up to one yearthereafter.
Think of a safe place to go if an argument occurs - avoid rooms with noexits (bathroom) or rooms with weapons (kitchen).Keep a bag packed in a safe place until you are ready to leave or if you needto leave suddenly.Important items to have:IdentificationPersonal papers (i.e. medical, school, and legal papers)FundsKeysPhone and ContactsMedicationsThings to help cope (i.e. pictures, keepsakes)Change of clothesThink about and make a list of safe people to contact and places to go.
Know the resources in your community for emergency shelter, informationand support.Carry phone numbers with you at all times. Memorize all importantnumbers.Inform friends, neighbors, school and co-workers so they can be aware ofthe situation.Keeping the abuse a secret could be dangerous for you and others.Establish a "code word" or "sign" so that family, friends, teachers or co-workers know when to call for help.Keep a written log, including date, time and witnesses, of anycontact, harassment or abuse.Save written or electronic (voicemail, e-mail, text) messages, caller IDrecords and call traces.Keep a copy of your protection order on your person as well as at all placeslisted.Give a copy to close friends, family, neighbors and co-workers too.
Get a new, unlisted phone number and screen incoming calls.Use a post office box rather than your home address.Change locks if you choose to stay in the same residence. Keep theoutside clear of foliage and well lit.Avoid staying alone.Vary your routine. Don’t make it easy to be followed.Plan how to get away if confronted by your abuser.DO NOT meet with the adverse party, even if he/she promises toreturn belongings or to resolve differences. Always ask for a policeescort to retrieve belongs or return property.
Go to a safe place Seek medical attention immediately. University Medical Center (UMC) is the only hospital that will do a rape kit. You may be injured more seriously than you realize. Medical evidence will be needed, if you decide to press charges. Call University Police (895-3668) or CALL 911. Reporting is not the same as pressing charges. Call the Counseling and Psychological Services (895-3627). Do not blame yourself-you are the victim of a crime. Do NOT bathe, shower, douche, or change clothes until you have talked with the police or nurse. However, if you have already done these things, please do not let his stop you from seeking medical care. If you’ve changed clothes , place the clothes you were wearing in a paper bag and them to the hospital with you. Remember you may have an advocate to help every step of the way
Las Vegas Metro Police Department 311 or (702) 828-3111Domestic Violence Unit (702) 828-4451Henderson Police Department (702) 267-5000Victim/Witness Advocate (702) 267-4727National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)Nevada Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-500-1556SAFE House Hotline www.safehousenv.org (702) 564-3227Office (702) 451-4203Safe Nest Hotline www.safenest.org (702) 646-4981Office (702) 877-0133Child Abuse and Neglect Hotline (702) 399-0081Senior Protective Services (702) 455-8672Emergency Protective Orders (702) 646-4981Temporary Protective Orders (702) 455-3400Stalking/Harassment Orders (702) 671-3165