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  1. 1. Myths & FactsVictim & Survivor Resources 2009 Jean Nidetch Womens Center P.A.A.V.E. Presentation
  2. 2. Jean Nidetch Women’s CenterWe provide:• Workshops and presentations• Events on campus• Advocacy for violence prevention and breast cancer awareness• Academic involvement
  3. 3. P.A.A.V.E Formerly known as SAFE Team Educators completed 18 hour training on domestic violence and sexual assault Provides UNLV campus with presentations on specific topics in domestic violence and sexual assault Next training in Fall 2009!
  4. 4. Agenda & Topics Agenda  Definitions  Statistics  Myths & Facts  Resources Topics  Domestic Violence  Sexual Assault  LGBTQQI  Stalking  Cultural Awareness and Competency
  5. 5. Definitions Sexual Assault: a broader category that the Justice Department uses to classify rape, attempted rape and other violent felonies that fall short of rape (which is defined as strictly forced vaginal, anal or oral penetration) Assault/Battering: “Physical assault is a behavior that threatens, attempts, or actually inflicts physical harm, ranging from slapping and hitting to using a gun” (US Justice Department)
  6. 6. Definitions Marginalized: We use this term as a blanket term to encompass social identities that are not dominant and central in our society. This includes but is not limited to – race, ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation, citizen status, class, physical and mental ability, age etc. Advocates: Go through extensive training to work directly with victims/survivors every step of the reporting and court processes immediately following experiences of violence.
  7. 7. Definitions Many forms of abuse:  Physical battering – can range from pushing or bruising to murder. Escalates in level of abuse  Sexual abuse – Physical attack that is coupled with forced/unwanted sexual activity  Psychological battering – verbal abuse, harassment, excessive possessiveness, economic resource limiting and destruction of personal property
  8. 8. Defining Physical Assault U.S. Justice Department:  “Physical assault is a behavior that threatens, attempts, or actually inflicts physical harm, ranging from slapping and hitting to using a gun” Nevada Revised Statutes:  Battery that is classified as domestic violence for the first offense within 7 years, is classified as a misdemeanor and is punishable by imprisonment for no less than 2 days and no more than 6 months and includes 48 hours of community service
  9. 9. What is stalking? Stalking is defined differently per state Stalking is used to describe specific kinds of behaviors directed at a particular person and includes forms of harassing and threat. As a general rule, stalking is any unwanted contact between a stalker and victim and often results in fear
  10. 10. LGBTQQI & the alphabet soup  Lesbian  Gay  Bisexual  Transgender  Queer or questioning  Intersexed
  11. 11. Transgender  self-identifying term for someone whose gender identity or expression differs from traditional gender roles  also an umbrella term that refers to everyone who crosses gender roles in one way or another including transsexuals, drag queens/kings, etc •Gwen Araujo •Brandon Teena
  12. 12. Queer  once used to negatively describe a gay man or woman  now used by the gay community as a positive or neutral descriptive of each other  embracing a word that was used to attack or degrade, the gay community has demagnetized the strength of the word, making it a common everyday term, lessening the effect of the word when used against them
  13. 13. Heterosexism  assumption that everyone is, or should be, heterosexual  heterosexuality is the only normal, natural expression of sexuality  heterosexuality is superior and therefore preferable to being gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender or queer
  14. 14. Homophobia First used in print in 1969 in Time Magazine. It was coined by a clinical psychologist, George Weinberg. Irrational fear of, aversion to, or discrimination against gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and queer people Prejudice, discrimination, harassment and acts of violence  To discriminate is to label one group as “less good” or “less deserving”  Discriminatory practices target people who typically occupy devalued groups
  15. 15. Two types of Homophobia  Internalized homophobia  Often refuse to believe their own sexuality  Believes all the bad “what if’s”  Institutionalized homophobia  Systematic oppression forced to maintain the status quo
  16. 16. Relationships are a BASIC NEED Living with rejection or threat of rejection, can be detrimental to a person’s sense of well- being and connection  Maslow’s Basic Hierarchy of Human Needs  Love and Belongingness  We need to feel connected that we fit, that we are valued.  Because of perceived or real threat of rejection, a person may hide his or her sexual identity  What is the cost to their sense of self-esteem?
  17. 17. Stalking Statistics 1 in 20 women report being stalked annually 13% of female college students reported an incidence of stalking during their first semester 3 in 10 women reported being emotionally or physically hurt by a stalker 93.4% of study participants confided in a friend they were being stalked  From The National College Women’s Sexual Victimization Study, 1997 of 4,446 female college students on 223 campuses
  18. 18. National Stalking Statistics 1 out of every 12 women will be stalked in their lifetime 1 out of every 45 men will be stalked in their lifetime 94% of stalkers defined by female victims were men 60% of stalkers defined by male victims were men 77% of female victims were stalked by someone they knew 31% of stalking victims have expressed suicidal thoughts
  19. 19. Domestic Violence Statistics 25% of women and 7% of men will be victims of domestic violence or partner rape. Six months following an experience of domestic violence, 32% of battered women are victimized again Yearly, 3.3 million children are exposed to interfamily violence against their mothers or female caretakers
  20. 20. Sexual Assault Statistics Only about 42% of rapes sexual assaults were reported to law enforcement in 2007 1 out of 6 American women have been the victims of an attempted or completed rape in their lifetime. About 3% of American men- a total of 2.78 million men – have experienced an attempted or completed rape in their lifetime. 98% of males who raped boys were heterosexual 70% of female rape victims and 74% of male victims knew their assailant. 90% of college women of rape and sexual assault knew their attacker prior to the assault. since 1993 rape/sexual assault has decreased by over 60%
  21. 21. LGBT & Violence Statistics Substantial lack of current research in this area Domestic violence occurs in LGBTQ relationships with the same severity and frequency as in heterosexual relationships  Consistent abuse occurs in as many as 1 in 3 relationships  At least one episode of abuse occurs in 1 in 2 relationships Lesbians are more likely to report sexual violence than gay men 1 in 2 transgender individuals have experienced sexual violence (FORGE)
  22. 22. Rethinking Domestic Violence MYTHS  FACTS 1. Battering occurs 1. Violence occurs in all more frequently in racial and ethnic groups and in all certain ethnic or class levels of society socioeconomic 2. Substances can groups trigger violence but 2. Violence is caused batterers are violent by substance abuse even when sober 3. Women who stay in 3. Many mothers violent situations are choose to stay not good mothers because there’s no where else to go and often, to protect children
  23. 23. Rethinking Domestic Violence MYTHS  FACTS 4. Violence only 4. 25-50% of all affects a small part women are of the population abused. Battering deaths are more common than cancer and car 5. Fights in accidents relationships are combined normal and natural 5. Disagreements occur but “heated” arguments must be analyzed for signs of violence
  24. 24. Same Sex (LGBTQ) Abuse Abuse in relationships is any pattern of behavior that is used to coerce, dominate or isolate the other partner to gain control Abuse knows no boundary concerning race, class, gender, sexual orientation etc. Remember, violence may take a different form in different communities but that does not make one form more important than another
  25. 25. LGBT & Domestic Violence  Remember, DV is about power and control.  May be especially difficult for lesbian victim  Size does not matter  Verbal and emotional abuse can be compounded for the lesbian/gay/trans victim/survivor  Threats to “out” the person  Threats to disclose HIV/AIDS status  Not “easier to leave”  Individuals may be more intertwined with each other’s lives  What happens in DV shelters?
  26. 26. LGBT & Sexual Violence Sexual Violence  By stranger  By known individual  By significant other More judgment on the person’s sexual orientation than on the attacker Heterosexism is at work because it is typically a heterosexual model upon which findings are based.
  27. 27. ‘Unique Victimization’ Hate Crimes  Difficult at times to ascertain whether the crime was, in fact, motivated by the person’s sexual orientation.  14th Amendment: Every citizen has equal protection under the law
  28. 28. ‘Unique considerations’ Threat of being “outed” when an LGBTQ person is abused Concerned about betraying the LGBTQ community when reporting Homophobia intersects with possible sexism and racism for LGBTQ victims/survivors Institutionalized homophobia affects the support services victims/survivors receive Shelters are often not available to men, while women may not feel safe if their abuser has access Victims of same-sex sexual violence are not necessarily LGBTQ Lack of knowledge about LGBTQ sexual violence affects victims/survivors, educators, and support services
  29. 29. LGBTQ Abuse Similarities 1. Abuse is always the responsibility of the abuser. It is their choice. 2. Victims are often blamed for the abuse by their partner. 3. It is difficult for victims to leave their relationship. 4. Victims often feel responsible for their abuse. 5. Abuse escalates over time. 6. The abuser is often apologetic after abusing, giving false hope that the abuse will stop.
  30. 30. LGBTQ Abuse Differences 1. There are limited resources available for abused and abusive LGBTQ people. 2. Homophobia in society denies the reality of some same sex relationships, including their very existence, let alone abuse. 3. Shelters for women may not be sensitive to a victim of same sex assault. 4. Gay/Bi/Trans men have even fewer options for help. 5. Reporting may result in a feeling or experience of being excluded from the LGBTQ community.
  31. 31. Everyday Occurrences Invisibility/Isolation Qualifiers Subject to gay jokes/degrading comments Presumption of heterosexuality Threats to “disown” by family Partner Exclusion Perceived danger to children Name calling Forced sexual acts (rape) to “make” them straight
  32. 32. LGBTQ Myths and Facts MYTH: Women can not be abusive, only men can  Fact: Anyone can choose to be abusive or not MYTH: LGBTQ people are always equal in relationships. It’s not abuse, it’s a relationship struggle  Fact: Same sex or gender in a relationship does not guarantee equality MYTH: Abuse in LGBTQ relationships is sexual behavior. It’s a version of S&M and they usually like it.  If consent is NOT there, the sexual act is not consensual, no matter what the nature of the act is.
  33. 33.  Sexual assault & domesticMyth 1 violence do occur in LGBTQ relationships Sexual assault & domestic  Domestic violence occurs in violence dont occur in LGBTQ relationships as LGBTQ relationships frequently and as severely as (denial) it does in heterosexual relationships  Level of trauma of sexual violence is not defined by whether or not the weapon was a penis  LGBTQ survivors also need support in healing  Some key dynamics of domestic violence are the same in all relationships (violence is about power & control, violence occurs in a cycle, violence escalates over time, etc.
  34. 34. Myth 2 Sexual & domestic  There is nothing inherently violence occurs in LGBTQ unhealthy about these relationships because relationships there is something  People do not abuse inherently unhealthy with because they are LGBTQ (or heterosexual). People abuse these relationships to have power & control over another person.  LGBTQ people can have healthy relationships
  35. 35. Myth 3 The bigger, more  Size, masculinity/femi masculine or ninity and gender masculine identified identity are not person is always the causes of abuse and abusive partner in a do not determine domestic violence who is the abusive relationship partner  Sexual and domestic violence does not occur in butch/femme relationships more frequently
  36. 36. Myths 4 & 5 Sexual and domestic  In all relationships, both violence in LGBTQ partners can have unhealthy relationships is "mutual" (both behavior. But in domestic partners are abusive to each violence relationships, mutual other) abuse rarely happens.  The reasons why it is difficult Its easier for an LGBTQ to leave an abusive person to leave an abusive relationship are similar for all relationship abusive relationships. Homo/bi/transphobic & heterosexism also contribute to difficulties leaving an abusive relationship
  37. 37. Myth 6 Sexual & domestic violence occurs in LGBTQ relationships  Sexual & domestic violence that engage in SM play more does not occur in LGBTQ frequently relationships that engage in SM play more frequently SM play is sexual and domestic violence  SM play is consensual so it is not abuse Children are never an issue in LGBTQ relationships  LGBTQ people have children in their lives
  38. 38. Relevance to sexual violence prevention We cannot afford, nor would want, to alienate LGBTQI victims/survivors. Within the field of sexual violence prevention, heterosexism can serve to reinforce homophobia (be it societal or internalized).
  39. 39. Cyberstalking Growing in the anonymity of the Internet Social networking sites like Myspace and Facebook make it easier to “keep tabs” on others Technology creates a barrier between the stalker and victim Many people may not know they are being stalked
  40. 40. What to do… Save all communication evidence You can contact the harasser’s Internet Service Provider (ISP) and many ISP’s respond with suspension or closing of account belonging to abusers Call the police or local domestic violence hotlines, get help from local violence centers
  41. 41. UNLV Police ServicesReports of Forcible Sex Offenses on Campus 2005 – 4 2006 – 0 2007 – 3*Often times these crimes occur and are reported outside of the jurisdiction of UNLV.
  42. 42. The Rape Crisis Center of Southern Nevada  Gender:  Female – 97%  Male – 3%  Race/Ethnicity:  White – 58%  Latino/Hispanic – 18%  Black – 16%  Asian – 3%  Bi-racial – 2%  Native – <1%  Unknown/Other – <1% 43% of the total 833 reported victims in 2007 were between the ages of 19-29.
  43. 43. Protocol for Victims on Campus Go to a safe place Seek medical attention immediately. University Medical Center (UMC) is the only hospital that will do a rape kit. You may be injured more seriously than you realize. Medical evidence will be needed, if you decide to press charges. Call University Police (895-3668) or CALL 911. Reporting is not the same as pressing charges. Call the Counseling and Psychological Services (895-3627). Do not blame yourself-you are the victim of a crime. Do NOT bathe, shower, douche, or change clothes until you have talked with the police or nurse. However, if you have already done these things, please do not let his stop you from seeking medical care. If you’ve changed clothes , place the clothes you were wearing in a paper bag and them to the hospital with you. Remember you may have an advocate to help every step of the way
  44. 44. Cultural Competency The Rape Crisis Center – “Problemas dos Todos” PAAVE – All trainings included an entire session on cultural competency Jean Nidetch Women’s Center – programming on sexual assault and domestic violence infused into racial identity months (and LGBT pride and Women’s history months, as well!)
  45. 45. The Jean Nidetch Women’s Center The only on campus resource for referrals to community organizations One on-staff, certified advocate (Christina Hernandez, Outreach & Awareness Coordinator) Member of ASSERTAV task force Oversees all violence prevention programming on campus Provides twice a year peer education training (PAAVE) on domestic violence and sexual assault
  46. 46. ASERTAV Advocacy. Support. Educate. & Response Team Against Violence (ASERTAV) ASERTAV strives to coordinate a collaborative response to student, staff, and faculty members of our community who may have been affected by violence. Our goal is to communicate to survivors that they are not alone during their recovery by providing resources, advocacy and education. Members of the task force include campus and community organizations and local law enforcement
  47. 47. Nevada Network Against Domestic Violence Resource hub to advocacy, prevention programs and legislative lobbying Provides referrals to shelter services, including SafeNest and SAFE House Part of the ASERTAV task force A member of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
  48. 48. The Rape Crisis Center of Southern Nevada Las Vegas’ main resource for sexual assault victim advocacy Implements community programming (Nina’s Night Out) to raise awareness Trains victim advocates in conjunction with UMC Provides referrals to UMC for sexual assault examinations (aka: rape kits) Represented on ASSERTAV task force
  49. 49. Stalking Resources CyberAngels: Support group/resource center  Working to Half Online Abuse (WHOA)  International Association of Computer Investigative Specialists: 
  50. 50. LGBTQQI Resources Community United Against Violence (CUAV)  24 hr crisis line: 415-333-HELP (4357) Matthew’s Place  Trevor Helpline: 1-866-4-U-TREVOR GLBT National Youth Talkline: 1-800-246-PRIDE (7743) National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs  212-714-1184 FORGE: For Ourselves: Reworking Gender Expression 
  51. 51. More Local Resources Safe House (Domestic Violence Support)  702.451.4203 Abuse Crisis Center / DV Hotline  702.646.4981 Nevada Division of Child and Family Services  702.486.7800 More information available at:  The Jean Nidetch Women’s Center, UNLV SSC A, 255 – 702.895.4475
  52. 52. Even more Local Resources Nevada Network Against Domestic Violence:  The Rape Crisis Center of Southern Nevada:  The Jean Nidetch Women’s Center at UNLV: 