Factors to Consider in Choosing a Lifetime Partner
Factors to Consider in Choosing a Lifetimes Partner• Selecting a lifetime partner can sometimes be planned or it can happen suddenly.• It requires a lot of knowing, accepting or respecting will he/she finds that special someone.
In the process of selecting one’s mate, several factors must be considered.• Physical attractiveness• Propinquity or nearness• Basic similarities• Common interest• Reciprocal feelings• practicality
Physical attractiveness• To some, this is the first to be considered.
Propinquity or nearness• People who are always together because they do things together gets attracted to each other.
Basic similarities• Similarity of religion, ethnic groups or social status can be a factor in selecting a certain individual whom you may consider to be your future mate.
Common interest• People get attracted to each other because of common set of values or interest or are able to enjoy common activities.
Reciprocal feelings• Young people have the notion that because a certain individual is attracted to him/her he or she also gets attracted to the same person.
Practicality• When a person is preferred by another because of his/her looks, age and his/her family background.
Engagement• A more lasting relationship constitute the last phase of mate selection which is called engagement.• In the Philippines setting and in other countries of the world, engagement is the formal acceptance of the offer to marry.• Can be one of the happiest moment in one’s life.
Ring• Which symbolizes the acceptance is presented to the girl and is worn on the third finger of the left hand.
Filipinos engagement• Is a commitment to be honored.• If something untoward happens, it’s the entire family who is at stake.
The length of the engagement is determined by the following factor:1. Emotional and physical readiness2. Maturity3. Adaptability4. Length of friendship
There are also problems during engagement and they are also follow1. Jealousy2. Disagreement over in-laws3. Money matters4. Values and philosophy in life5. Methods of dealing of each family
Agreement to marry• Is not absolute and does not bring legal sanction to the one breaking the engagement.