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  • Physiological - food, air, warmth, sleep, sex Safety - security, law, order, protection, stability Belong - family, friends, peer groups, work groups Esteem - status, responsibility, reputation, achievement Self-actualisation - persoanl growth, fulfilment Live our life to the max in the moment without regret for the past or calculation for the future. Investing heart and soul in the moment Rich person may be unhappy Poor man maybe happy if well intgrated personality
  • Learn self control - baby anytime, anywhere, anyhow Potty trained Eat - If I don’t eat NOW will I die? No. Learn time, place, manners, self-limitation Sleep - If I don’t sleep NOW will I die? No. Learn time, place, clothing, rituals, Is it easy?
  • There are universal sense of wrong. Taboo
  • Not just emotion but living for that person wholeheartedly Emotion Intellect will
  • Unique - love a person as they are, not as you think they should be. Warts and all. Not as a black, white, christian etc. You don't love a woman because she is beautiful, but she is beautiful because you love her. Absolute - absolute vodka. Single minded. Pure. No ulterior motivation. Unchanging - not affected by moods. Stable. Constant. Reliable. Sickness and health Eternal- lasts forever. Don’t change mind. Next world too
  • Love oneself. ‘I love you because you make me happy’. Don’t take time or care to find a gift for a ‘person’ but just give anything Mixed motivation Moody
  • 1. Intensity -preach love but don't practice=intensity zero -willing to give one's life for another=high intensity -spectrum in between 2. Duration -Soldier may rush into enemy fire to save comrade but few hours later may be his selfish old self again. Dustin Hoffman in Hero -Love between married couples which lasts forever, through sickness and health, good times and bad times. 3. Extension -love broad is your love? Self—family—neighbour—different race/nationality/ religion/class etc. 4. Purity -do we love a person for who he is or what he can do or what he has? -a person should not be treated as a means to an end 5. Adequacy -how appropriate is our love? -poor parental love —> pampered and spoilt child -'tough love' or discipline needed too
  • Children - worship parents Sibling, friendship - choose friends, like to have a lot. Sibling - blood relation. Don’t necessarily like Conjugal - only want 1 wife/husband. Don’t want to share with others. Sexual Patental - unconditional - doesn’t need/expect to receive anything back. Take care of disbabled child
  • Sex love marriage powerpoint

    1. 2. Sex, love and marriage
    2. 3. Who am I and what kind of person do I want to become? <ul><li>Why do we study? </li></ul><ul><ul><li>To learn </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Inheriting knowledge and accomplishments of earlier generations </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Initiated into a tradition </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Learn the art of loving </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Learn the art of living a good life </li></ul></ul>
    3. 4. A learner needs a teacher <ul><li>In the past parents knew more than their children and could teach them and advise them about the world </li></ul><ul><li>Today children know more than their parents about technology etc. </li></ul><ul><li>Everything is changing so what is the use of old-fashioned morality? </li></ul>
    4. 5. Do we have anything in common? <ul><li>We are all human beings </li></ul><ul><li>We have similar emotions </li></ul><ul><ul><li>We grieve when a person we love dies </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>We feel sympathy for a person who is grieving </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>We want to be happy and live in peace </li></ul></ul>
    5. 6. What makes us happy? <ul><li>Happiness comes when a desire is fulfilled </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Hungry man finds food -> happy </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Different levels of desire </li></ul><ul><ul><li>To live -> Physiological desires </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>To be safe -> Desire to be safe </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>To belong -> Desire for love and community </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>To live a worthwhile life -> Desire for self-esteem </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>To realise potential -> Desire for self-actualisation </li></ul></ul>
    6. 7. Are all desires good? <ul><li>Excessive desire </li></ul><ul><li>Premature desire </li></ul><ul><li>Unrealistic desire </li></ul><ul><li>Growing up involves understanding which desires are appropriate and which are not </li></ul><ul><li>There are right and wrong ways to satisfy desires </li></ul>
    7. 8. How about sexual desire? <ul><li>If we don’t have sex will we die? </li></ul><ul><li>Are there right and wrong about sex? </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Rape - universally condemned </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Incest - universal taboos </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Adultery - who wants? </li></ul></ul><ul><li>All societies have rules about who can have sex with whom, when and where </li></ul><ul><li>Customs represent cumulative wisdom </li></ul><ul><li>All teach wrong to have sex outside marriage </li></ul>
    8. 9. Are they all as good as each other? <ul><li>Polygamy versus monogamy </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Approximately same number of men and women -> not fair to have more than one </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Extenuating circumstances </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Monogamy better than polygamy </li></ul><ul><li>Polgamy better than free sex </li></ul>
    9. 10. What is love? <ul><li>Love is unselfish desire for good of another person and unity with that person on some level </li></ul>
    10. 11. What are the qualities of true love? <ul><li>Unique </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Love a person as they are </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Absolute </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Wholeheartedly: intellect, emotion and will </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Unchanging </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Constant, stable </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Eternal </li></ul><ul><ul><li>‘ Till death us do part’ and beyond </li></ul></ul>
    11. 12. What are the qualities of selfish love? <ul><li>Self-centred </li></ul><ul><li>General </li></ul><ul><li>Impure </li></ul><ul><li>Changeable </li></ul><ul><li>Temporary </li></ul>
    12. 13. How good am I at loving? <ul><li>Intensity - how strong </li></ul><ul><li>Duration - how long </li></ul><ul><li>Extent - how widely </li></ul><ul><li>Purity - motivation </li></ul><ul><li>Adequacy - how appropriate </li></ul>
    13. 14. What are the different kinds of love? <ul><li>Children’s love </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Filial piety </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Sibling, friendship </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Many is good </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Conjugal </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Unique </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Fidelity </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Parental </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Unconditional </li></ul></ul>
    14. 15. What is sex?
    15. 16. Sex as gender <ul><li>All the traits, emotional, physical and mental that make a person masculine or feminine </li></ul><ul><li>Men and women are different </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Men are from Mars </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Women are from Venus </li></ul></ul>
    16. 17. Sex as union of the sexes <ul><li>Through the act of sexual intercourse a man and a woman become united into one </li></ul><ul><li>They are joined into one on the physical, emotional and psychic levels. It is spiritual union as much as a physical one </li></ul>
    17. 18. Sexual love <ul><li>Sex should be an expression of love </li></ul><ul><li>The greater the love, the greater the sex </li></ul><ul><li>The deeper the love, the more satisfying the sex </li></ul><ul><li>Sex without love leads to emptiness and is dehumanising </li></ul>
    18. 19. What is the difference between human beings and animals?
    19. 20. The sexual act compared <ul><li>Animals </li></ul><ul><li>Mating season </li></ul><ul><li>Reproduction is the whole meaning </li></ul><ul><li>Mating rituals </li></ul><ul><li>Uncontrollable drive </li></ul><ul><li>Humans </li></ul><ul><li>Sex all year </li></ul><ul><li>Meaning beyond reproduction </li></ul><ul><li>Sex pleasurable </li></ul><ul><li>Sexual drive controllable </li></ul>
    20. 21. What is the meaning of sex? <ul><li>Deep personal encounter with another person </li></ul><ul><li>Many different levels </li></ul><ul><li>Way to express and receive love </li></ul><ul><li>Mystical experience </li></ul>
    21. 22. What is the most appropriate relationship for sexual love?
    22. 23. Marriage <ul><li>A socially recognized lifelong union of a man and woman for </li></ul><ul><ul><li>love, </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>companionship, </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>mutual support </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>procreation </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>upbringing of children </li></ul></ul>
    23. 24. So, what is marriage all about?
    24. 25. Aspects of marriage <ul><li>Social </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Couple </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Partnership </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Emotional </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Sustaining </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Healing </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Growth </li></ul></ul>
    25. 26. Aspects of marriage <ul><li>Sexual - quality of sex depends on quality of love </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Affirmation of personhood </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Affirmation of sexual identity </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Reconciliation, healing </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Act of hope </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Expression of thanks </li></ul></ul>
    26. 27. Aspects of marriage <ul><li>Intellectual </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Enjoy talking to each other </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Spiritual </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Faith </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Values </li></ul></ul>
    27. 28. Why get married? <ul><li>Personal commitment </li></ul><ul><li>Public commitment </li></ul><ul><li>Joining of families </li></ul><ul><li>Change of status </li></ul><ul><li>Celebration </li></ul><ul><li>Children </li></ul>
    28. 29. How about sex before marriage? <ul><li>Devalues self </li></ul><ul><li>Devalues sex </li></ul><ul><li>Break ups </li></ul><ul><li>Stds </li></ul><ul><li>Unwanted pregnacy </li></ul>
    29. 30. Why wait? <ul><li>Practice self-control </li></ul><ul><li>Have self respect </li></ul><ul><li>Time and place </li></ul><ul><li>Beautiful and meaningful </li></ul>