The pastor reflects on discerning when to say "yes" and when to say "no" to commitments based on their experience recruiting confirmation mentors. While initially disappointed by receiving "no's", the pastor came to see the "no's" as part of a larger "yes" to community as people's responses revealed thoughtful discernment. The pastor was then inspired to restructure the mentoring program to foster community over individual pairings. Saying "yes" and "no" requires discernment with God and others about honoring one's self and priorities.