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The power of complementing
This document discusses the importance and benefits of appreciation and complementing others. It states that appreciation is one of humans' deepest needs and that praising others can boost their confidence and motivate them. The document outlines techniques for effectively complementing others, such as being specific, sincere, and timely with praise. It also addresses difficulties in accepting compliments and provides tips for responding graciously. Workshops are proposed for practicing skills like targeted praise and strength-based compliments. Overall, the document advocates regularly and genuinely appreciating others through words and actions.
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- 1. Next Previous Appreciation Skills (The Powerof Complementing) S. Thilaganathan
- 2. Next Previous INTRODUCTION Similar Meaning Appreciation Complements Praise Commendation Admiration Adoration Recognition
- 3. Next Previous The Urge tobe Important The greatest urge in human nature is the urge to be important - John Dewey • Everyone wants recognition. • Everyone wants to be taken notice • No body likes to be by-passed. The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated. - Williams James
- 4. Next Previous Deepest Human Need Next to food, man’s deepest hunger is for appreciation. People crave for appreciation and encouragement
- 5. Next Previous Appreciating Others is Essential: Appreciation cannot come within. It can come only from outside.Therefore we must appreciable others. Appreciation means rise in value or estimation. When the value of a thing rises the possessor is gratified. The people who are not interested in others have the greatest difficulties in life and provide the greatest injury to others.
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- 7. Next Previous It is Powerful Appreciation is life boosting tonic. It is a language which the deaf can hear. The blind can see.
- 8. Next Previous It is Natural Appreciation is a flower of fine character. Appreciation is a flower of love. Appreciation is the essence of human kindness.
- 9. Next Previous Appreciation Gives Strengths Wordsof praise, encouragement, gratitude, thanks-giving will radiate energy. A weak person can be praised into strong one A fearful heart into poise and power.
- 10. Next Previous Develop the bestin a Man Appreciation develop the best in a man Appreciation gives encouragement. Appreciation stimulate people – Nothing will stimulate a person more than sincere appreciation and praise.
- 11. Next Previous Appreciation Helps you Helps in daily life situations – Family life, Social life, Work life Helps in casual encounters – Give warm compliment to even to a stranger (waiter, cashier). It will work – You can say, • how nice person’s looks, • how beautiful person’s dress • how pleasing person’s voice, • the likes you have not seen before appreciation does not cost you.
- 12. Next Previous Giving Criticism Givingcriticism is easy but giving complements is difficult. Difficulties in giving complements. Ability to give criticism is high. Ability to give complement is low. Mastered expressing criticism but not mastered expressing appreciation. Every one criticism learn to praise 5 complement a day.
- 13. Next Previous Difficulties in Giving Complements It is not very easy. It is not safe. It may work against you. It may be risky. It may be rejected. It may be misunderstood. It may not be welcome by the people or society.
- 14. Next Previous Giving complement isan Ability It is an ability.
- 15. Next Previous Giving Complement isa Behavior It is a learned behavior. – We must be assertive to give complement, We need to practice – It is not natural for all
- 16. Next Previous It is afeeling. To complement we must have feeling
- 17. Next Previous It is anattitude – To give complement we must have positive attitude
- 18. Next Previous It is askill To complement we must learn the skills of praising Giving complement varies from society to society.
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- 20. Next Previous Problems of Accepting Complements We don’t accept complement readily. We give a defensive reaction to complements. Not accepting complement is a sign of put down.
- 21. Next Previous Reasons for notaccepting the complements Childhood education. We were told not to be boastful in our talents. It is embarrassing the people. Not sure about the complement (fair/genuine). It can be annoyment.
- 22. Next Previous Responding to Complements We must learn to accept the complement. Never dismiss complement. Try to smile and say “Thank you.” Learn to receive prize openly. Accept complement without embarrassment.
- 23. Next Previous Do’s and Dont’s Avoid brush-off such as – It was nothing. – It is not my work. – It is only the doctor’s help – It is because of others. – I am not very good really.
- 24. Next Previous Do’s : Acceptcomplement gracefully and assertively. Examples 1/2 –Thank you for your complement. –I have been working really hard …… –I am glad to notice it. –I am glad you liked it.
- 25. Next Previous Accept complementgracefully and assertively Examples 2/2 – I like trying new……… – Yes I wanted to produce …….. – It is nice to know it is succeeded. – Thank you so much, I didn’t even realize. – Thank you, I am pleased to hear ……. Do’s
- 26. Next Previous Accepting Complements Rule Showyour feelings pleasure when receiving complements. By words, facial expressions, smile, etc. Examples – Thanks for telling me. – It is encouraging to know.
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- 28. Next Previous Ways of showingappreciation: Make other person feel important, get elated, highly spirited. Ask for his opinion Show him you respect his ideas and opinion Show interest and value his opinion Show appreciation of others intrinsic qualities. Show what you have: – If you love show that you love. No use of showing “I love you” in tomb-stone.
- 29. Next Previous Four Steps –Specifically tell or link what the person did right – Tell how you feel about what they did – Tell them what its shows about them – Tell them you the type of person of some quality • E.g. – You are perfect; That is why you are successful in life – Your xxxx is xxx; That is why you are xxxx Appreciation Steps
- 30. Next Previous Appreciation Step Ifyou want to get what you want tell the person gently and kindly: – how good he is. – How much you think of him – what a fine person he is – how much others like him – tell the good you know of him.
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- 32. Next Previous Workshop-1 Praising Others Getting their feedback
- 33. Next Previous General Praise VsTarget Praise Goal – General – Specific (Behaviour Praise)
- 34. Next Previous General I wantmy child to be better
- 35. Next Previous Specific (Behaviour Praise) Improve my child’s manners at home Increase my child’s play with other children
- 36. Next Previous Examples of EffectivePraise Nice Work Making your bed Well Done You put away all the toys I Noticed Your helped your sister get a drink. That was kind I’m Glad Good Try
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- 38. Next Previous Developing Specific Behavior Identifypraising goal – Improve grades – Improve manners or skills Identify the specific behavior Praise effectively
- 39. Next Previous Avoid Split Praise Split complement – One part complement other part criticism Comparative complement Negative comparison Using ‘BUT after positive -bad Using ‘BUT after negative -good
- 40. Next Previous Terms Used inAppreciation Recognition, Compliments, Appreciation, Praise, Encouragement, Adoration, Motivation, Admiration, Notice, Commendation, Attention
- 41. Next Previous Ten Tips ForEffective Appreciation Complements must be given immediately Complement must be given regularly Complements must be given frequently Complements must be given consistently Complement must be specific (behaviour achievement) You must make other person feel it and value Give complement assertively Feel good in giving complement It must be natural and spontaneous
- 42. Next Previous Work Situation -Praising Praising is a powerful motivator any company can afford Praising will never break a company’s budget
- 43. Next Previous Work Situation Appreciationfrom the manager is the one of the incentive the workers want most 58% of the workers said they are not praised Managers are busy; no time to praise
- 44. Next Previous Tips Making praiseis part of your habit to do list Be prompt Praising becomes more effective when it comes soon after The desired behaviour is displayed Be sincere. It is not sincere you will only sound manipulative
- 45. Next Previous Tips Be positive,People under at praise with the concluding note of praise – E.g You did a great job but there are few typing errors Post pone the corrective feed back another time
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