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Thoughts
Feelings Circ
umstances
Anythingtha
t impacts us at
anymoment
Learner Path
Judger Path
Switch
ingLane
Choice Map
We choose moment by moment
™
What happened?
What do I want?
What are the facts?
Choose
What assumptions
am I making?
What can I learn?
Why am I such a failure?
Why are they so stupid?
Why bother?
Whose
fault is it?
What are they thinking,
feeling, and wanting?
What am I responsible for?
What are my choices?
What’s best to do now?
What’s possible?
LEARNER•	Thoughtful Choices
•	Solution Focused
•	Win-Win Relating
React
What’s wrong
with me?
What’s wrong
with them?START
SWITCHAsk Learner Questions 	to Avoid Judger Pit
JUDGER•	Automatic Reactions•	Blame Focused•	Win-Lose Relation
JUDGER PIT
Marilee Adams, Ph.D.
800-250-7823
www.InquiryInstitute.com
Copyright ©1998 Marilee Goldberg, Ph.D. The Art of the Question,
This material is by permission of John Wiley & Sons, Inc. Copyright © 2009 Marilee Adams, Ph.D. Change Your Questions, Change Your Life
CMpostcard.indd 1 5/24/09 6:46:28 PM
Imagine it’s you who’s standing at the crossroads on the left side of the Choice Map. Something
has just happened. Now you have to solve a problem or make a decision. Maybe it’s related to an
important goal in some area in your life. Perhaps it’s with your business or career. Maybe it’s in
a relationship with family, friends, or colleagues. It’s about your health, finances, or plans
for the future.
Do this experiment while you think about that situation. First, ask yourself Judger questions
(see below) and notice how they affect your mood and confidence. Now, breathe, switch
and instead ask yourself Learner questions (see below). What was it like the second time?
What about your mood and confidence? What solutions and possibilities can you see now?
You really can change your questions and change your life. When you find yourself in Judger and
want to be in Learner instead, ask yourself Switching questions and “reset” to Learner, including:
Am I in Judger? Is this how I want to feel? Where would I rather be? and How else can I think about this?
Judger Questions* include:
What’s wrong with me?•	
Whose fault is it?•	
Why are they so stupid?•	
How can I prove that I’m right?•	
Haven’t we been there, done that?•	
Why bother?•	
Results of Judger Questions:
A mood of pessimism, stress, and limitation•	
A mindset that’s judgmental, reactive, inflexible•	
Relating with “attack or defensive” behaviors•	
Learner Questions* include:
What do I want?•	
What works?•	
What are the facts and what can I learn?•	
What are my choices?•	
What action steps make sense?•	
What’s possible?•	
Results of Learner Questions:
A mood of optimism, hope, and possibilities•	
A mindset that’s thoughtful, understanding, flexible•	
Relating that is connected and collaborative•	
* We all ask both kinds of questions and we have the capacity to choose which ones to ask — moment by moment by moment.
Visit our website to download free copies of the Choice Map; you can also send it to colleagues,
friends, and family. The Choice Map is from the best-selling book, Change Your Questions, Change
Your Life: 7 Powerful Tools for Life and Work by Marilee Adams, Ph.D. She is also president of the
Inquiry Institute. The website is filled with other free resources as well as QuestionThinking™
offerings such as tele-seminars, workshops, executive coaching,
coach training, keynotes, and Q-Storming®
that can make a positive
difference for you—at work and in life.
www.InquiryInstitute.com • Info@InquiryInstitute.com • 800-250-7823
Use the Choice Map™
as a powerful tool for getting better results. It’s simple and it works!
Copyright © 2009 Marilee Adams, Ph.D. Change Your Questions, Change Your Life
This material is by permission of John Wiley & Sons, Inc.
Copyright © 1998 by Marilee Goldberg. Ph.D. Adapted from The Art of the Question
The Choice Map™
and You Am I in Judger?
Is this how I want to feel?
Where would I rather be?
How else can I think about this?
SWITCHAsk Learner Questions 	to Avoid Judger Pit
CMpostcard.indd 2 5/24/09 6:46:28 PM

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Choice map - change your Qs change your life

  • 1. Thoughts Feelings Circ umstances Anythingtha t impacts us at anymoment Learner Path Judger Path Switch ingLane Choice Map We choose moment by moment ™ What happened? What do I want? What are the facts? Choose What assumptions am I making? What can I learn? Why am I such a failure? Why are they so stupid? Why bother? Whose fault is it? What are they thinking, feeling, and wanting? What am I responsible for? What are my choices? What’s best to do now? What’s possible? LEARNER• Thoughtful Choices • Solution Focused • Win-Win Relating React What’s wrong with me? What’s wrong with them?START SWITCHAsk Learner Questions to Avoid Judger Pit JUDGER• Automatic Reactions• Blame Focused• Win-Lose Relation JUDGER PIT Marilee Adams, Ph.D. 800-250-7823 www.InquiryInstitute.com Copyright ©1998 Marilee Goldberg, Ph.D. The Art of the Question, This material is by permission of John Wiley & Sons, Inc. Copyright © 2009 Marilee Adams, Ph.D. Change Your Questions, Change Your Life CMpostcard.indd 1 5/24/09 6:46:28 PM
  • 2. Imagine it’s you who’s standing at the crossroads on the left side of the Choice Map. Something has just happened. Now you have to solve a problem or make a decision. Maybe it’s related to an important goal in some area in your life. Perhaps it’s with your business or career. Maybe it’s in a relationship with family, friends, or colleagues. It’s about your health, finances, or plans for the future. Do this experiment while you think about that situation. First, ask yourself Judger questions (see below) and notice how they affect your mood and confidence. Now, breathe, switch and instead ask yourself Learner questions (see below). What was it like the second time? What about your mood and confidence? What solutions and possibilities can you see now? You really can change your questions and change your life. When you find yourself in Judger and want to be in Learner instead, ask yourself Switching questions and “reset” to Learner, including: Am I in Judger? Is this how I want to feel? Where would I rather be? and How else can I think about this? Judger Questions* include: What’s wrong with me?• Whose fault is it?• Why are they so stupid?• How can I prove that I’m right?• Haven’t we been there, done that?• Why bother?• Results of Judger Questions: A mood of pessimism, stress, and limitation• A mindset that’s judgmental, reactive, inflexible• Relating with “attack or defensive” behaviors• Learner Questions* include: What do I want?• What works?• What are the facts and what can I learn?• What are my choices?• What action steps make sense?• What’s possible?• Results of Learner Questions: A mood of optimism, hope, and possibilities• A mindset that’s thoughtful, understanding, flexible• Relating that is connected and collaborative• * We all ask both kinds of questions and we have the capacity to choose which ones to ask — moment by moment by moment. Visit our website to download free copies of the Choice Map; you can also send it to colleagues, friends, and family. The Choice Map is from the best-selling book, Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 7 Powerful Tools for Life and Work by Marilee Adams, Ph.D. She is also president of the Inquiry Institute. The website is filled with other free resources as well as QuestionThinking™ offerings such as tele-seminars, workshops, executive coaching, coach training, keynotes, and Q-Storming® that can make a positive difference for you—at work and in life. www.InquiryInstitute.com • Info@InquiryInstitute.com • 800-250-7823 Use the Choice Map™ as a powerful tool for getting better results. It’s simple and it works! Copyright © 2009 Marilee Adams, Ph.D. Change Your Questions, Change Your Life This material is by permission of John Wiley & Sons, Inc. Copyright © 1998 by Marilee Goldberg. Ph.D. Adapted from The Art of the Question The Choice Map™ and You Am I in Judger? Is this how I want to feel? Where would I rather be? How else can I think about this? SWITCHAsk Learner Questions to Avoid Judger Pit CMpostcard.indd 2 5/24/09 6:46:28 PM