5. 1.What is the Goal you would like to achieve ? 10 Questions a.What solutions have you attempted so far? b.What was it about these attempts that didn’t work? 2.What is your feeling about the situation? 3.What is your attitude regarding the situation? 4. What benefits do you receive from having this situation? 5.What is the reality of the situation?
6. 10. What one thing are you willing to change to make this be what you would like it to be? 9. How would your life be different if this situation changed? 8. What do you need to do at this time? 7. What else would you like to see happen? 6.What would you like to see happen?
15. Approximately 84% of custodial parents are mothers Of The 84%, 44% are currently divorced or separated 33% have never been married 79% are gainfully employed 29% work part-time or part-year 74% work full time, year round
16. 16% of custodial parents are fathers Of those fathers: 57% are divorced or separated 18% have never married
17. According to Custodial Mothers and Fathers and Their Child Support: 2005, released by the U.S. Census Bureau in August, 2007, there are approximately 13.6 million single parents in the United States today, and those parents are responsible for raising 21.2 million children (approximately 26% of children under 21 in the U.S. today).
18. 13.6 million 21.2 million Single Parents Children
20. Four Parenting Styles 1. Authoritarian 2. Authoritative Strict Rules Do As I Say, Not As I Do Why ? Because I Said So High Demand, Low Response Rules & Guidelines Highly Responsive Nurturing & Forgiving Assertive, Forgiving, & Supportive
21. 3. Permissive 4. Uninvolved Very Few Demands Rarely Discipline Lenient, Avoid Confrontation More of a Friend than Parent Few Demands Low Responsiveness Little Communication Detached From The Child’s Life
22. Impact of Styles on Children Children Children Children Children Authoritarian obedient low self-esteem Authoritative capable supportive Permissive authority issues low academic performance Uninvolved lack self-control low self-esteem
28. The Family’s Role Educational Research has demonstrated that parent involvement in a child’s education is the most important factor for a child’s academic success Lawrence Hall of Science Berkeley
31. If you think one year ahead . . . plant a seed. If you think ten years ahead . . . plant a tree. If you think one hundred years ahead . . . Educate the People. ~ Chinese Proverb
32. Education woes: Parents get most blame, not teachers By Alan - Posted on December 13th, 2010
33. Virtually every issue that we deal with, be it education… be it human services, gang problems or drugs, we find ENGAGED FAMILIES the ultimate solution. ~ unknown
39. Orientation Orientation is more than a physical context and placement. In its deeper meanings it is about mindset, ways of thinking and knowing, origins of communication and sense of direction. It is about how the human spirit manifests itself. It is also a way of learning and understanding where you are, your place, and your relative level of development
40. CHILDREN TEND TO IMITATE AND IDENTIFY WITH THE BEHAVIOR OF THE PARENT
41. Children tend to identify and imitate the behavior of the parent.
42. If you want to change your child’s behavior, you’ve got to (be willing) to change yours first
