This document discusses temper tantrums in children from toddlers to school age. It explains that temper tantrums are uncontrolled emotional outbursts that are developmentally normal but can be caused by separation anxiety, frustration over not being able to do something, or a need for attention or competence. While temper tantrums may serve to communicate needs, there are also myths that they lead to bad behavior or parenting when in fact tantrums are not planned or a reflection of parenting skills. The document advocates responding to tantrums patiently to help children regain emotional control rather than punishment.

1. Understanding Temper
TANTRUM

2. CONTENT
What is a temper tantrum?
• An uncontrolled outburst of emotion . Temper
tantrums are sometimes referred to as fits and
meltdowns and are a common behaviour during child
hood
• Include both verbal and physical outburst or both

3. Toddler temper tantrum
Common reasons
• Separation anxiety
• Egocentrism: temper around possession and sharing
• Autonomy
• Lack of language skills

4. Preschool temper tantrum
• Lack of patience: Will have hard time understanding patience and
delaying gratification
• Frustration: He has a need to feel competent and successful and
therefore he experience frustration trying to do as well as the big kids
• Need for attention

5. School age temper tantrum
• Fear as a factor
• Respond with empathy
• Read all about it : share positive stories
• Take action
Preschooler do not yet have the cognitive skills to understand the difference
fact and fantasy, they will often become afraid of irrational or fictional things
eg:

6. Temper tantrum myth
1. Temper tantrum are unhealthy
they also serve healthy purpose .for younger children it is the only way to
communicate their and mush needed outlet to vent
2. A temper tantrum – prone child is a bad child they are not pre planned
events
3. Temper tantrum lead to delinquency there is no evidence to prove it
.most tantrum are a result of development issues
4. You are a bad parent because your child has temper tantrums wrong
5. There is nothing you can do about your child’s tantrum : you can
prevent them

7. 6. All temper tantrum are for manipulation wrong
7. Responding to your child's tantrum spoils him wrong when young children's are out of
control , they need you to patiently help them re-establish emotional control
8. You should always have the full control over your child
You should not try to control or break a child spirit or will .your ultimate goal is to help
him become independent and also regulate his own behaviour
9. There is one right way to cope with temper tantrum
flexibility is key . every child is unique and has their own strategies for coping up with
temper tantrum

8. • Survey shows 68% of parents still approve spanking as an
appropriate discipline technique
• Research shows spanking increase in reactive aggression and
retaliation behaviour

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