This document discusses how to identify "safe people" versus "unsafe people" in relationships. It identifies three main categories of unsafe people: abandoners, critics, and irresponsibles. Abandoners struggle with commitment and closeness. Critics are overly judgmental and focus on faults. Irresponsibles fail to consider consequences and follow through on commitments. The document provides descriptions of each type and discusses why people may feel drawn to them, as well as questions for discerning relationships and setting healthy boundaries.
Various ways to help your husband with his angerTajinder Singh
In this fast pacing life the man of the family is having lot to deal with. This pressure of work often leads to anger and disappointment among the men. It is the duty of his wife to support him in such times and be with hi https://weddingdoers.com
Relationships often involve two highly charged figures (individuals) fused in an endless moment of curiosity and glossy artificiality of romance. But a good relationship start helps set the scene, straighten out serious differences of expectations, differences in race, religion, social class and supposedly values, friends and family approval or disapproval ratings.
Various ways to help your husband with his angerTajinder Singh
In this fast pacing life the man of the family is having lot to deal with. This pressure of work often leads to anger and disappointment among the men. It is the duty of his wife to support him in such times and be with hi https://weddingdoers.com
Relationships often involve two highly charged figures (individuals) fused in an endless moment of curiosity and glossy artificiality of romance. But a good relationship start helps set the scene, straighten out serious differences of expectations, differences in race, religion, social class and supposedly values, friends and family approval or disapproval ratings.
To Everything There Is a Season, Part 2 (LDS)Mike Fitzgerald
This presentation is the second part of a three-part presentation focusing on LDS standards in dating for youth. It also discussed the importance of love and respect as the foundation for love.
This was used on our report (or should I say symposium) in our Guidance and Counseling subject. This tackles about crushes, love (different types of love and how to love yourself), courtship (in the Philippines), and marriage (rights and obligations of a wedded couple, the stages of marriage, the common marital problems) and there are also some additional pictures to make the topic easier to understand.
Reporters:
Cindy Asence
Madel Austria
Kitz Bajao
John Kevin Benigno
Marie Buena Bunsoy
Aser Canta
Instructor:
Mrs. Jesselyn Mortejo
Kill Approach Anxiety Once and For All With This Crazy Mind TrickGeorge Hutton
http://mindpersuasion.com
If you didn't have ANY approach anxiety, how many girls would you approach? Well, after you learn this crazy trick, you'll find out. Learn more: http://mindpersuasion.com/frame-control/
Relationships 101 Dating - is it Biblical?cebrooks50
In our day, dating arrangements are made entirely by young people apart from their parent’s involvement. The date is planned by young people with an expectation of physical intimacy. The couple knows that intimacy is going to happen; all that is not known is the measure, or the regularity of physical intimacy. Our young women are left very vulnerable. Without her father's protection, she alone must determine how far she and the boy goes, and that determination is most often made in the heat of the moment. Furthermore, there is no commitment beyond the next date. The focus is on the “now” and immediate, mutual gratification. Most of the time there is sex with no commitment. In our next installment of the series, Relationships 101 we will be searching the Scriptures to answer the question, “Dating…Is it Biblical?”
As we enter in marriage we come with great expectations which are either met or not. The attitude we maintain in the marriage will either make our marriage work or not work. Healthy attitude is key in having a happy marriage.
Romans 12:9: Jesus instructs us to transform our love. Feigned love is normal in the world, but we must beware of the danger of holding on to that way of loving. Our love must be genuine, like the love of Jesus. Thanks to Darrel Yontz. Still.
Anger! Anger! Anger! The Major Marital KillerKIGUME Karuri
Don’t be a part of the statistics of those that destroyed their marriages because of anger. You can overcome these situations.
Appreciate your spouse.
This is the best gift you have in your life.
In my mother tongue there is a saying: ‘ What you couldn’t get in your home is what you came for in your spouse’s life.’
How To Stop Feeling Nervous When Talking To GirlsGeorge Hutton
http://mindpersuasion.com/
If you only felt completely comfortable when talking to cute girls, everything would be easier. Here's how to make it so. http://mindpersuasion.com/products/
To Everything There Is a Season, Part 2 (LDS)Mike Fitzgerald
This presentation is the second part of a three-part presentation focusing on LDS standards in dating for youth. It also discussed the importance of love and respect as the foundation for love.
This was used on our report (or should I say symposium) in our Guidance and Counseling subject. This tackles about crushes, love (different types of love and how to love yourself), courtship (in the Philippines), and marriage (rights and obligations of a wedded couple, the stages of marriage, the common marital problems) and there are also some additional pictures to make the topic easier to understand.
Reporters:
Cindy Asence
Madel Austria
Kitz Bajao
John Kevin Benigno
Marie Buena Bunsoy
Aser Canta
Instructor:
Mrs. Jesselyn Mortejo
Kill Approach Anxiety Once and For All With This Crazy Mind TrickGeorge Hutton
http://mindpersuasion.com
If you didn't have ANY approach anxiety, how many girls would you approach? Well, after you learn this crazy trick, you'll find out. Learn more: http://mindpersuasion.com/frame-control/
Relationships 101 Dating - is it Biblical?cebrooks50
In our day, dating arrangements are made entirely by young people apart from their parent’s involvement. The date is planned by young people with an expectation of physical intimacy. The couple knows that intimacy is going to happen; all that is not known is the measure, or the regularity of physical intimacy. Our young women are left very vulnerable. Without her father's protection, she alone must determine how far she and the boy goes, and that determination is most often made in the heat of the moment. Furthermore, there is no commitment beyond the next date. The focus is on the “now” and immediate, mutual gratification. Most of the time there is sex with no commitment. In our next installment of the series, Relationships 101 we will be searching the Scriptures to answer the question, “Dating…Is it Biblical?”
As we enter in marriage we come with great expectations which are either met or not. The attitude we maintain in the marriage will either make our marriage work or not work. Healthy attitude is key in having a happy marriage.
Romans 12:9: Jesus instructs us to transform our love. Feigned love is normal in the world, but we must beware of the danger of holding on to that way of loving. Our love must be genuine, like the love of Jesus. Thanks to Darrel Yontz. Still.
Anger! Anger! Anger! The Major Marital KillerKIGUME Karuri
Don’t be a part of the statistics of those that destroyed their marriages because of anger. You can overcome these situations.
Appreciate your spouse.
This is the best gift you have in your life.
In my mother tongue there is a saying: ‘ What you couldn’t get in your home is what you came for in your spouse’s life.’
How To Stop Feeling Nervous When Talking To GirlsGeorge Hutton
http://mindpersuasion.com/
If you only felt completely comfortable when talking to cute girls, everything would be easier. Here's how to make it so. http://mindpersuasion.com/products/
Dating locales like Bumble.com Reviews will organize you with potential assistants as demonstrated by likeness, which suggests less issue for you endeavoring to find ‘the one’.
Why You Will Marry the Wrong PersonBy ALAIN de BOTTON MAY 28, 2.docxambersalomon88660
Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person
By ALAIN de BOTTON MAY 28, 2016
It’s one of the things we are most afraid might happen to us. We go to great lengths to avoid it. And yet we do it all the same: We marry the wrong person.
Partly, it’s because we have a bewildering array of problems that emerge when we try to get close to others. We seem normal only to those who don’t know us very well. In a wiser, more self-aware society than our own, a standard question on any early dinner date would be: “And how are you crazy?”
Perhaps we have a latent tendency to get furious when someone disagrees with us or can relax only when we are working; perhaps we’re tricky about intimacy after sex or clam up in response to humiliation. Nobody’s perfect. The problem is that before marriage, we rarely delve into our complexities. Whenever casual relationships threaten to reveal our flaws, we blame our partners and call it a day. As for our friends, they don’t care enough to do the hard work of enlightening us. One of the privileges of being on our own is therefore the sincere impression that we are really quite easy to live with.
Our partners are no more self-aware. Naturally, we make a stab at trying to understand them. We visit their families. We look at their photos, we meet their college friends. All this contributes to a sense that we’ve done our homework. We haven’t. Marriage ends up as a hopeful, generous, infinitely kind gamble taken by two people who don’t know yet who they are or who the other might be, binding themselves to a future they cannot conceive of and have carefully avoided investigating.
For most of recorded history, people married for logical sorts of reasons: because her parcel of land adjoined yours, his family had a flourishing business, her father was the magistrate in town, there was a castle to keep up, or both sets of parents subscribed to the same interpretation of a holy text. And from such reasonable marriages, there flowed loneliness, infidelity, abuse, hardness of heart and screams heard through the nursery doors. The marriage of reason was not, in hindsight, reasonable at all; it was often expedient, narrow-minded, snobbish and exploitative. That is why what has replaced it — the marriage of feeling — has largely been spared the need to account for itself.
What matters in the marriage of feeling is that two people are drawn to each other by an overwhelming instinct and know in their hearts that it is right. Indeed, the more imprudent a marriage appears (perhaps it’s been only six months since they met; one of them has no job or both are barely out of their teens), the safer it can feel. Recklessness is taken as a counterweight to all the errors of reason, that catalyst of misery, that accountant’s demand. The prestige of instinct is the traumatized reaction against too many centuries of unreasonable reason.
But though we believe ourselves to be seeking happiness in marriage, it isn’t that simple. What we really seek is familiar.
The PBHP DYC ~ Reflections on The Dhamma (English).pptxOH TEIK BIN
A PowerPoint Presentation based on the Dhamma Reflections for the PBHP DYC for the years 1993 – 2012. To motivate and inspire DYC members to keep on practicing the Dhamma and to do the meritorious deed of Dhammaduta work.
The texts are in English.
For the Video with audio narration, comments and texts in English, please check out the Link:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zF2g_43NEa0
The Book of Joshua is the sixth book in the Hebrew Bible and the Old Testament, and is the first book of the Deuteronomistic history, the story of Israel from the conquest of Canaan to the Babylonian exile.
The Good News, newsletter for June 2024 is hereNoHo FUMC
Our monthly newsletter is available to read online. We hope you will join us each Sunday in person for our worship service. Make sure to subscribe and follow us on YouTube and social media.
Homily: The Solemnity of the Most Holy Trinity Sunday 2024.docxJames Knipper
Countless volumes have been written trying to explain the mystery of three persons in one true God, leaving us to resort to metaphors such as the three-leaf clover to try to comprehend the Divinity. Many of us grew up with the quintessential pyramidal Trinity structure of God at the top and Son and Spirit in opposite corners. But what if we looked at this ‘mystery’ from a different perspective? What if we shifted our language of God as a being towards the concept of God as love? What if we focused more on the relationship within the Trinity versus the persons of the Trinity? What if stopped looking at God as a noun…and instead considered God as a verb? Check it out…
What Should be the Christian View of Anime?Joe Muraguri
We will learn what Anime is and see what a Christian should consider before watching anime movies? We will also learn a little bit of Shintoism religion and hentai (the craze of internet pornography today).
The Chakra System in our body - A Portal to Interdimensional Consciousness.pptxBharat Technology
each chakra is studied in greater detail, several steps have been included to
strengthen your personal intention to open each chakra more fully. These are designed
to draw forth the highest benefit for your spiritual growth.
In Jude 17-23 Jude shifts from piling up examples of false teachers from the Old Testament to a series of practical exhortations that flow from apostolic instruction. He preserves for us what may well have been part of the apostolic catechism for the first generation of Christ-followers. In these instructions Jude exhorts the believer to deal with 3 different groups of people: scoffers who are "devoid of the Spirit", believers who have come under the influence of scoffers and believers who are so entrenched in false teaching that they need rescue and pose some real spiritual risk for the rescuer. In all of this Jude emphasizes Jesus' call to rescue straying sheep, leaving the 99 safely behind and pursuing the 1.
Lesson 9 - Resisting Temptation Along the Way.pptxCelso Napoleon
Lesson 9 - Resisting Temptation Along the Way
SBs – Sunday Bible School
Adult Bible Lessons 2nd quarter 2024 CPAD
MAGAZINE: THE CAREER THAT IS PROPOSED TO US: The Path of Salvation, Holiness and Perseverance to Reach Heaven
Commentator: Pastor Osiel Gomes
Presentation: Missionary Celso Napoleon
Renewed in Grace
2. THOUGHTS - LOVE AND
FREEDOM
It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and
do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery. Gal
5:1
The women represent two covenants. One covenant is from
Mount Sinai and bears children who are to be slaves:This is
Hagar. Now Hagar stands for Mount Sinai in Arabia and
corresponds to the present city of Jerusalem, because she is in
slavery with her children. But the Jerusalem that is above is free,
and she is our mother. Gal 4:24-26
3. HAVEYOU EVER ASKED?
How can I learn to pick better friends?
Why do I choose people who let me
down?
How did I end up with this critical
boss?
How do I attract irresponsible people?
Why did I invest money with that
unscrupulous person?
What is it about me that draws the
wrong types to me?
Why am I drawn to the wrong types?
5. WHAT DO WE WANT IN
Romantic Relationships
Friends
Family
Co Workers
Neighbors
Church and Sunday School
attendees
6. PEOPLE IN REALTROUBLE SAY
THESETHINGS
He doesn’t listen to me.
She is so perfect that she can’t understand my struggles.
He seems so distant that I feel alone.
She always tries to control me.
He makes promises but really doesn’t follow through.
He is condemning and judgmental.
She is always angry at me for something I did or didn’t do.
I tend to be my worst self with him or her. I cannot trust him.
7. DISCERNMENT IS SEPARATING
THE SHEEP AND GOATS
Matthew 25:31-46
How did Jesus determine the
Righteous from the
Unrighteous?
What criteria would you use
for your discernment?
When the Righteous helped
what was the chances that
those helped could return or
do something back?
8. WE CHOOSE PEOPLE BASED ON
OUTWARD APPEARANCE
Then experience the inside of them.
We look at worldly success, charm, looks, humor, status and
education, accomplishments, talents and giftedness, or religious
activity.
But then we experience the pain of being in a real relationship
with them, and come up very empty-handed.
10. THE BAD GUYS
In real life the Bad Guys are not all that easy to spot.
The most dangerous people are those that appear Good, they are often
winsome, Charming and offer the promise of great friends or more.
Their Character Problems are often very Subtle.
There are many kinds of Unsafe People, many of them fall under three
categories
The Abandoners
The Critics
The Irresponsibles
11. ABANDONERS
These people tend to be people who have been abandoned.
Nice guys/gals - Where’d they go? They can start relationships but
they can’t finish it.
Often afraid of true closeness they prefer shallow acquaintances
Or they are looking for perfect friends and leave when the going
gets tough
Being in relationships with this type can destroy our ability to
trust and become afraid of closeness also.
12. They take the parental role with
everyone they know.
Judgmental, speaking the truth
without love and no room for
grace or forgiveness
Critics focus on confronting error
rather than making connections,
often jumping on doctrinal or
ethical bandwagons and
neglecting issue of love,
compassion and forgiveness
Confuses weakness with
sinfulness, therefore condemning
others for simple problems.
Pointing fingers at other but
seldom at themselves.
13. Critics tending to be clear
thinkers with good
information but in
relationship it becomes
poisoned with judgmentalism.
People drawn to critics find
relief in their clarity of
thought but find themselves
ridden with guilt, compliant
and unable to make mistakes
without tremendous anxiety
14. IRRESPONSIBLE
People who don’t take care of
themselves or others.
They have problems with delaying
gratification.
They don’t consider the consequences
of their actions.
They don’t follow through on their
commitments.
They are like grown-up children.
If you depend on them to do what
they say, you can end up in financial,
functional, and emotional trouble.
15. IFYOU ARE DRAWNTO
IRRESPONSIBLE PEOPLE
You pick up after them.
You apologize to others for them.
You make excuses for them.
You give them chance after
chance after chance.
You pay for their sins and
forgetfulness.
You nag them.
You resent them.
16. I LIKE IRRESPONSIBLE PEOPLE
They are often caring, warm
and fun loving people.
Help me notice what’s going
on in life today instead of
worrying about tomorrow. No
place in their head for
tomorrow.
Often empathetic and
understanding
I just don’t trust them.
17. I LIKE IRRESPONSIBLE PEOPLE
The irresponsible’s lack of
dependability can cause us
many problems, ranging from
making us wait for her at a
restaurant to losing a crucial
business deal because he didn’t
get the documentation in on
time.
“Better to meet a bear robbed
of her cubs than a fool in his
folly” Prov (17:12).
18. I LIKE IRRESPONSIBLE PEOPLE
Because the irresponsible has
problems in delaying gratification, he or
she often becomes alcoholic, addicted
to sexual gratification, and in debt.
You may be providing a safety net for
an irresponsible. For some reason, you
end up paying for his or her problems.
We could be talking about a friend, an
adult child, a spouse, or a business
relationship.
For every irresponsible, there is an
enabler, someone who protects them.
19. DISCUSSION QUESTIONS
Can I set limits and still be a loving person?
What are legitimate boundaries?
What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?
How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or
money?
What can I do to pick better friends and people in my life?
How have I ended up with some unsafe people in my life?
What type did you find yourself in the tree types.What type do
you find yourself drawn to.