God has made us responsible for certain aspects of ourselves and our lives. It is important to understand what is "me" and what is not, and what we are responsible for versus what we are not. Boundaries help with this by defining our responsibilities and protecting our well-being. Some key aspects we are responsible for include our feelings, attitudes, beliefs, behaviors, choices, thoughts, desires, abilities to give and receive love. Boundaries should allow in what nourishes us while keeping out what harms us. God sets a good example of maintaining boundaries in a loving way.
In order to have healthy intimate relationships with others, it helps to have a healthy intimate relationship with God. With God, there is absence of judgment and unconditional acceptance, unlike with a human partner. Through reference to biblical concepts and teachings from the Catholic Catechism, this presentation explains how to form a healthy intimacy with God.
This is a talk for parents on how to talk to your kids about their sexuality starting at aged 3 all the way up to 18. This talk focuses on Theology of the Body and gives resources and so much more. The recorded talk that goes with it can be accessed here: http://archive.org/details/BeyondTheBirdsAndTheBeesRaisingPureChildren
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I do give these talks around the country. To contact me;
EmbracingYourGreatness@gmail.com
http://EmbracingYourGreatness.org
Ever wonder why people are always speaking to us as if there is a magical formula to life? Well there is'nt. Our life has purpose and that purpose is all in JESUS; HE is our key to a fulfilling life. JESUS is the only formula any of us will ever need.
In order to have healthy intimate relationships with others, it helps to have a healthy intimate relationship with God. With God, there is absence of judgment and unconditional acceptance, unlike with a human partner. Through reference to biblical concepts and teachings from the Catholic Catechism, this presentation explains how to form a healthy intimacy with God.
This is a talk for parents on how to talk to your kids about their sexuality starting at aged 3 all the way up to 18. This talk focuses on Theology of the Body and gives resources and so much more. The recorded talk that goes with it can be accessed here: http://archive.org/details/BeyondTheBirdsAndTheBeesRaisingPureChildren
You must click the link in blue that says; 41.2 MB
Then forward to the 3 min mark to skip the intro
I do give these talks around the country. To contact me;
EmbracingYourGreatness@gmail.com
http://EmbracingYourGreatness.org
Ever wonder why people are always speaking to us as if there is a magical formula to life? Well there is'nt. Our life has purpose and that purpose is all in JESUS; HE is our key to a fulfilling life. JESUS is the only formula any of us will ever need.
What is a Christian Struggler?
For our purposes it is a person who struggles with same sex attraction. This includes one who has never acted on these thoughts to transgender. Struggler, means that you feel a sense of guilt, shame or wrong about these things. You are not alone. We know that God has a plan and a purpose for your life.
More than anything we want you to know that the Bible does NOT require you to change into something else before Jesus accepts you. In fact, God came to earth (in the life of Jesus) nearly 2000 years ago, suffered, died and rose again for your redemption. Your sins are already forgiven. All you have to do is receive this forgiveness and live forever with Him.
Not sure how all this works? Ask us and we will show you the way.
Jesus said, "I am the truth the life and the way". We can show you to him he will do everything else!
Christ came to restore our relationship with God and give us victory. It is yours for the taking. He leaves the choice up to us. I would like to challenge you to willingly accept His gift to you.
Raising children brings incredible joy and fulfillment, as well as frustration, uncertainty, and stress. Fortunately, God gives us guidance on how to be godly parents. This 21-day reading plan helps you bring God and His Word into your parenting. Devotions are selected from the Once-a-Day: Nurturing Great Kids Devotional by Zondervan.
Pastor Brent encourages us and challenges us to surrender our will to the leading of God's Spirit instead of settling for judgments, disconnections, and addictions (living from the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil). Slides for a talk given Jan 30, 2021.
What is a Christian Struggler?
For our purposes it is a person who struggles with same sex attraction. This includes one who has never acted on these thoughts to transgender. Struggler, means that you feel a sense of guilt, shame or wrong about these things. You are not alone. We know that God has a plan and a purpose for your life.
More than anything we want you to know that the Bible does NOT require you to change into something else before Jesus accepts you. In fact, God came to earth (in the life of Jesus) nearly 2000 years ago, suffered, died and rose again for your redemption. Your sins are already forgiven. All you have to do is receive this forgiveness and live forever with Him.
Not sure how all this works? Ask us and we will show you the way.
Jesus said, "I am the truth the life and the way". We can show you to him he will do everything else!
Christ came to restore our relationship with God and give us victory. It is yours for the taking. He leaves the choice up to us. I would like to challenge you to willingly accept His gift to you.
Raising children brings incredible joy and fulfillment, as well as frustration, uncertainty, and stress. Fortunately, God gives us guidance on how to be godly parents. This 21-day reading plan helps you bring God and His Word into your parenting. Devotions are selected from the Once-a-Day: Nurturing Great Kids Devotional by Zondervan.
Pastor Brent encourages us and challenges us to surrender our will to the leading of God's Spirit instead of settling for judgments, disconnections, and addictions (living from the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil). Slides for a talk given Jan 30, 2021.
Learn the basics of addiction and how you can help yourself naturally.
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(1) From an external orientation to an internal orientation
(2) Deconstruction of the false beliefs and stories we hold
(3) Feel to heal
(4) Accept our humanness
(5) Integrate our shadows (the parts we disowned)
(6) Be supported by relationships
And a list of day-to-day things we may want to do more of and less of to live a better life!
What Is Control? Control seems to be a problem in every time of transition from an old wave of God's glory to a new wave, such as we are experiencing today. The power of control affects every circle of Christianity. The abuse of control holds people in unnecessary bondage and hinders them from fulfilling the purpose of God in their lives. There is a natural control that people can exert over others, and there is a self-control that must be exercised within the individual. But there is also a demonic control that can be exercised by one person over another. While this book will deal with the abuse of control, we will also examine the positive side of control, which is called "commitment." This God-given authority is placed on an individual who is committed to fulfill the plan of God in the earth and who looks to the Lord—not to people—for personal security and promotion. Each of us needs to exercise self-control in order to keep ourselves free from sin. We exercise that control by applying the Word of God to our lives. The Word is the balance, and we must all use discipline in our daily experiences. But people who exercise abusive control seek to become the deciding factor in the lives of others. Such individuals replace the Word of God as the balance in the lives of those whom they dominate; they react negatively if they are not the control point of all decisions made. We must realize that what is happening in the spiritual realm is being reflected in the natural realm. There is a great struggle going on in the world today for control of people's minds. This struggle is between the forces of light (Christianity) and the forces of darkness (Satanic powers).
Suffering Lies in Your Perception of the Fact and Not the Fact ItselfEmployment Crossing
Our perceptions are often clouded by a set of assumptions, which most often are not true at all. Our lives are typically controlled by a massive number of assumptions about this or that and our happiness is determined by the nature of these assumptions. The vast array of assumptions that control each of our lives is incredible.
Christian Spirituality and Recovery from Addiction - January 2014Dawn Farm
“Recovery From Addiction and Christian Spirituality” was presented on Tuesday January 21, 2014; by Brother Edward Conlin, BSEd, CADC; Addiction Counselor, Detroit Capuchin Service System. Spirituality often plays an important role in recovery initiation, recovery maintenance, and quality of life in recovery from chemical dependency. This program will describe a Christian perspective of how spirituality relates to recovery from chemical dependency, explore personal spiritual needs and life choices, and discuss the Twelve Steps as a spiritual program. This program is part of the Dawn Farm Education Series, a FREE, annual workshop series developed to provide accurate, helpful, hopeful, practical, current information about chemical dependency, recovery, family and related issues. The Education Series is organized by Dawn Farm, a non-profit community of programs providing a continuum of chemical dependency services. For information, please see http://www.dawnfarm.org/programs/education-series.
The world is perhaps at the point of the greatest crisis in all human history, and
there seem to be two attitudes we can assume. One is calmness, faith, and
conviction; the other would be despair. And despair is unthinkable. Let each, in
[their] own way, dedicate [their] time, service, hope, and spiritual conviction to
the common cause of liberty and justice for all. And let's work without tiring and
pray without ceasing.
The world is perhaps at the point of the greatest crisis in all human history, and
there seem to be two attitudes we can assume. One is calmness, faith, and
conviction; the other would be despair. And despair is unthinkable. Let each, in
[their] own way, dedicate [their] time, service, hope, and spiritual conviction to
the common cause of liberty and justice for all. And let's work without tiring and
pray without ceasing.
Lesson 9 - Resisting Temptation Along the Way.pptxCelso Napoleon
Lesson 9 - Resisting Temptation Along the Way
SBs – Sunday Bible School
Adult Bible Lessons 2nd quarter 2024 CPAD
MAGAZINE: THE CAREER THAT IS PROPOSED TO US: The Path of Salvation, Holiness and Perseverance to Reach Heaven
Commentator: Pastor Osiel Gomes
Presentation: Missionary Celso Napoleon
Renewed in Grace
In Jude 17-23 Jude shifts from piling up examples of false teachers from the Old Testament to a series of practical exhortations that flow from apostolic instruction. He preserves for us what may well have been part of the apostolic catechism for the first generation of Christ-followers. In these instructions Jude exhorts the believer to deal with 3 different groups of people: scoffers who are "devoid of the Spirit", believers who have come under the influence of scoffers and believers who are so entrenched in false teaching that they need rescue and pose some real spiritual risk for the rescuer. In all of this Jude emphasizes Jesus' call to rescue straying sheep, leaving the 99 safely behind and pursuing the 1.
The Chakra System in our body - A Portal to Interdimensional Consciousness.pptxBharat Technology
each chakra is studied in greater detail, several steps have been included to
strengthen your personal intention to open each chakra more fully. These are designed
to draw forth the highest benefit for your spiritual growth.
Homily: The Solemnity of the Most Holy Trinity Sunday 2024.docxJames Knipper
Countless volumes have been written trying to explain the mystery of three persons in one true God, leaving us to resort to metaphors such as the three-leaf clover to try to comprehend the Divinity. Many of us grew up with the quintessential pyramidal Trinity structure of God at the top and Son and Spirit in opposite corners. But what if we looked at this ‘mystery’ from a different perspective? What if we shifted our language of God as a being towards the concept of God as love? What if we focused more on the relationship within the Trinity versus the persons of the Trinity? What if stopped looking at God as a noun…and instead considered God as a verb? Check it out…
The Book of Joshua is the sixth book in the Hebrew Bible and the Old Testament, and is the first book of the Deuteronomistic history, the story of Israel from the conquest of Canaan to the Babylonian exile.
What Should be the Christian View of Anime?Joe Muraguri
We will learn what Anime is and see what a Christian should consider before watching anime movies? We will also learn a little bit of Shintoism religion and hentai (the craze of internet pornography today).
The Good News, newsletter for June 2024 is hereNoHo FUMC
Our monthly newsletter is available to read online. We hope you will join us each Sunday in person for our worship service. Make sure to subscribe and follow us on YouTube and social media.
The PBHP DYC ~ Reflections on The Dhamma (English).pptxOH TEIK BIN
A PowerPoint Presentation based on the Dhamma Reflections for the PBHP DYC for the years 1993 – 2012. To motivate and inspire DYC members to keep on practicing the Dhamma and to do the meritorious deed of Dhammaduta work.
The texts are in English.
For the Video with audio narration, comments and texts in English, please check out the Link:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zF2g_43NEa0
2. • Recognize what God has
made us responsible for.
• Define what is me and what is
not me.
• Know what I am to own and
responsible for to live in
Freedom.
• Help us to define what is not
on our property and what we
are not responsible for.
Prov 4:13 Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.
Me Not Me
Spiritual, Emotional,
and Physical
Boundaries
3. RESPONSIBLE TO OTHER AND FOR
OURSELVES
Gal 6: 2-5 Bear one another's burdens,
and so fulfill the law of Christ. … For
each will have to bear his own load.
We are responsible to others and for
ourselves.
Denying ourselves to do for others
what they cannot do for themselves.
This is being responsible “to.”
We have to take ownership of certain
aspects of life that are our own “load.”
4. GOOD IN, BAD OUT
Boundaries are Fences and not Walls.They have Gates.
We need to keep things that will nurture us inside our fences and
keep things that will harm us outside.
When I have some pain or sin within, I need to open up and
communicate it to God and others, so that I can be healed. Confessing
pain and sin helps to “get it out” so that it does not continue to
poison me on the inside (1 John 1:9; James 5:16; Mark 7:21–23).
And when the good is on the outside, we need to open our gates and
“let it in.” Jesus speaks of this phenomenon in “receiving” him and his
truth (Rev. 3:20; John 1:12).
5. GOOD IN, BAD OUT
2 Cor 6:11-13 We have spoken freely to you, Corinthians, and
opened wide our hearts to you. 12We are not withholding our
affection from you, but you are withholding yours from us. 13As a
fair exchange—I speak as to my children—open wide your hearts
also.
Those who are abused, hurting or broken will often keep out the
Good and take in the Bad.
6. GOD AND BOUNDARIES
God defines himself as a distinct, separate being, and he is responsible
for himself.
defines and takes responsibility for his personality by telling us what
he thinks, feels, plans, allows, will not allow, likes, and dislikes.
confronts sin and allows consequences for behavior
guards his house and will not allow evil things to go on there.
invites people in who will love him, and he lets his love flow outward
to them at the same time.
he gave us personal responsibility within limits.
God Calls us to be responsible stewards over the life he has given us.
7. EXAMPLES OF
BOUNDARIES
Skin
Words - saying,“No, that behavior is not okay. I will not participate in that.”
Truth - To be in touch with God’s truth is to be in touch with reality, and to live
in accord with that reality makes for a better life (Ps. 119:2, 45).
Geographical Distance - Proverbs 22:3 says that “the prudent see danger and
take refuge.”
Time - Taking time off from a person or a project can be a way of regaining
ownership over some out-of-control aspect of your life where boundaries need
to be set.
Emotional Distance Emotional distance is a temporary boundary to give your
heart the space it needs to be safe; it is never a permanent way of living.
8. EXAMPLES OF
BOUNDARIES
Other People -You need to depend on others to help you set and keep
boundaries.
There are two reasons why you need others to help with boundaries.
Your most basic need in life is for relationship - We put up with so
much pain when we need someone, but when we have others to help
us we can find the love and support to say no to those hurting us
We need new input and teaching -
We have been taught or come to believe destructive thoughts.
creating boundaries always involves a support network.
9. EXAMPLES OF
BOUNDARIES
Consequences
The Bible sets consequences for certain behaviors, we need to
back up our boundaries with consequences.
Paul is not kidding in 2 Thessalonians 3:10 when he says that if
anyone will not work, don’t let them eat. Hunger is a
consequence of laziness (Prov. 16:26).
11. ME - FEELINGS
They should neither be ignored nor place in Charge
You are to own you feeling and be aware of them.
Feelings come from your heart and can tell you the state of your
relationships. Good or there are problems.
Your feelings are your responsibility and you must own them and see
them as your problem so you can begin to find an answer to whatever
issue they are pointing to.
Your feelings can often point to bad beliefs.
12. ME- ATTITUDES
AND BELIEFS
Attitudes have to do with your orientation toward something,
the stance you take toward others, God, life, work, and
relationships.
Beliefs are anything that you accept as true.
These things are developed early and we are called to question
them to correct them. It’s your responsibility to correct these.
We are the ones who feel their effect, and the only ones who can
change them.
13. ME - BEHAVIORS
Behaviors have consequences.As Paul says,“A man reaps what he
sows” (Gal. 6:7).
The problem comes when someone interrupts the law of sowing
and reaping in another’s life.To rescue people from the natural
consequences of their behavior is to render them powerless.
14. ME - CHOICES
We need to take responsibility for our choices.This leads to the fruit of “self-
control” (Gal. 5:23).
A common boundary problem is disowning our choices and trying to lay the
responsibility for them on someone else.
the phrases “I had to” or “She (he) made me” when explaining
if we choose to live by the Spirit, we will live; if we choose to follow our sinful nature,
we will die (Rom. 8:13).
Compulsion or Guilt driven behavior leads to resentment.
You are the one who makes them.
You are the one who must live with their consequences.
You are the one who may be keeping yourself from making the choices you could be
happy with.
15. ME - LIMIT
Setting limits on others, not really.
What we can do is set limits on our own exposure to people who are
behaving poorly; we can’t change them or make them behave right.
Our Model is God, you can do as you wish but you can not come into my
house with out repentance.What we can do is set limits on our own
exposure to people who are behaving poorly; we can’t change them or
make them behave right.
Setting our own internal limits. - We need to be able to say no to ourselves.
We say no to destructive behavior and even good behavior but not wise at
the time
16. ME - RESOURCES
AND GIFTS
“Well done, good and faithful servant!You have been faithful with a
few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share
your master’s happiness!” “You wicked, lazy servant! So you knew
that I harvest where I have not sown and gather where I have not
scattered seed? Well then, you should have put my money on
deposit with the bankers, so that when I returned I would have
received it back with interest.“So take the bag of gold from him
and give it to the one who has the ten bags.” (Matt. 25:23, 26–28)
Not confronting our fear denies the grace of God and insults both
his giving of the gift and his grace to sustain us as we are learning.
17. ME -THOUGHTS
We must own our own thoughts. - They are mechanically thinking the
thoughts of others without ever examining them.
We must grow in knowledge and expand our minds. - Whether we are
doing brain surgery, balancing our checkbook, or raising children, we are to
use our brains to have better lives and glorify God.
We must clarify distorted thinking. - Taking ownership of our thinking in
relationships requires being active in checking out where we may be wrong.
We have our own thoughts, and if we want others to know them, we must
tell them.
18. ME - DESIRES
Each of us has different desires and wants, dreams and
wishes, goals and plans, hungers and thirsts.
We can’t define who the real “me” is and what we truly
desire. Many desires masquerade as the real thing.They are
lusts that come out of not owning our real desires. For
example, many sex addicts are looking for sexual
experiences, but what they really desire is love and affection.
We often do not actively seek our desires from God, and
those desires are mixed up with things that we do not really
need.
God loves to give gifts to his children, but he is a wise parent.
We are also commanded to play an active role in seeking our
desires (Phil. 2:12–13; Eccl. 11:9; Matt. 7:7–11).We need to
own our desires and pursue them to find fulfillment in life.
19. ME - LOVE
Our ability to give and respond to love is our greatest gift.
Its abilities to open up to love and to allow love to flow outward are
crucial to life.
Many people have difficulty giving and receiving love because of hurt and
fear. Having closed their heart to others, they feel empty and meaningless.
The Bible says the function of the human heart is the receiving of grace
and love inward and the flow outward.
We need to take responsibility for this loving function of ourselves and
use it. Both love concealed and love rejected can kill us.
Are you sowing Love and Nurturing?
20. FINALTHOUGHTS - LOVE AND
FREEDOM
It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and
do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery. Gal
5:1
The women represent two covenants. One covenant is from
Mount Sinai and bears children who are to be slaves:This is
Hagar. Now Hagar stands for Mount Sinai in Arabia and
corresponds to the present city of Jerusalem, because she is in
slavery with her children. But the Jerusalem that is above is free,
and she is our mother. Gal 4:24-26
21. DISCUSSION QUESTIONS
Can I set limits and still be a loving person?
What are legitimate boundaries?
What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?
How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or
money?
Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?
How do boundaries relate to mutual submission within marriage?
Aren’t boundaries selfish?