This document discusses evaluating relationships and identifying healthy relationships. It provides examples of different types of relationships and what relationships provide, such as emotional and social needs. It then evaluates how a relationship affects one's life in areas like school, work, physical and emotional health, substance use, family and friends, and independence. A healthy relationship balances focusing on oneself, the other person, and the relationship as a whole. The document provides questions to help determine the health of a relationship.

1. RELATIONSHIPSRELATIONSHIPS
Evaluating and Identifying Healthy
Relationships

2. Some Examples ofSome Examples of
Relationships:Relationships:
 Friendship
 Parent-child
 Boss-worker
 Boyfriend-girlfriend
 Sibling
 Acquaintance
 Roommate

3. What Relationships ProvideWhat Relationships Provide
Emotional needs
Social satisfactions
Basic needs like shelter and food

4. EVALUATINGEVALUATING
 How does your relationship affect your life?
 In school
 At work
 My physical health
 My emotional health
 My use of drugs or alcohol
 My family and friends
 My ability to function independently

5. In SchoolIn School
How does this person encourage me?
Have my grades improved or fallen?
Have I missed school because of this
person?
Have I limited my extracurricular activities
so I can spend time with this person?

6. At WorkAt Work
 Have I ever missed
work because of this
person?
 Has this person ever
come to my place of
work to check up on
me or embarrass me?
 Does this person give
me any support in my
career?

7. My Physical HealthMy Physical Health
 Have I had any physical injuries due to a fight
with this individual?
 Have I gained or lost weight?
 Have I contracted any sexually transmitted
diseases from this person?
 Have I become physically upset because of
confrontation with this individual?
 Have I been coerced into having sex?
 Have I had any unplanned pregnancy from this
relationship?

8. My Emotional HealthMy Emotional Health
 Do I feel better or
worse about myself
since entering this
relationship?
 Am I more stressed,
anxious, depressed?
 Do I have trouble
sleeping?

9. Use of Drugs & AlcoholUse of Drugs & Alcohol
 Have I increased my use
of alcohol, drugs, smoking
in this relationship?
 Has this person pressured
me into using?
 Do I drink or use to feel
more comfortable around
this person/friends?

10. My Family and FriendshipsMy Family and Friendships
 How do my family and friends feel about this
person?
 How does this person feel about them?
 Have I grown apart from family and friends since
forming this relationship?
 Does this person ever act jealous of my
family/friends?
 Do I lie to my family and friends to cover up for
this person?
 Do we spend time separately with others we
know?

11. Ability to FunctionAbility to Function
IndependentlyIndependently
Do I have control over my own money?
Have I become dependent on this person for
my living arrangements?
Do I feel that I just couldn’t make it on my
own without this person?

12. A Balancing ActA Balancing Act
Healthy
relationships
maintain a
balance between
the individuals
involved in the
relationship.

13. A Balancing ActA Balancing Act
me you
us

14. A Balancing ActA Balancing Act
If the relationship is all about ME, then I am
focusing on getting my needs met and
expect you to make my needs your priority
as well—and your needs suffer.
me
you

15. A Balancing ActA Balancing Act
If the relationship is all about YOU, then I
am focusing on getting your needs met at
the expense of my own.
you
me

16. A Balancing ActA Balancing Act
If the relationship is about US, then we are
both focused on the relationship that we
lose our individuality.
us

17. A Balancing ActA Balancing Act
In a healthy relationship, YOU, ME and US
are in balance most of the time.
However, sometimes YOU or ME may
need more attention…and that’s ok.
usme you

18. Healthy RelationshipsHealthy Relationships
 How healthy is your
relationship?
 The next few slides
contain questions that
may help you
determine the health of
your relationships.

19. Healthy RelationshipsHealthy Relationships
1. Can you name 2-4 things about this
person you really like?
2. Can your name 2-4 things about this
person you really dislike?
3. Can you name 3 things this person is
interested in besides you?
4. Can you name 3 activities you can be
involved in without this person?

20. Healthy RelationshipsHealthy Relationships
5. Do you both have equal decision-making
power in the relationship?
6. How do you handle conflicts?
7. Do you think this person’s relationships
with family/friends are healthy?
8. Since forming this relationship, do you
generally feel worse, better, or the same
about yourself?

21. Healthy RelationshipsHealthy Relationships
 If you’re confused
about your
relationship and where
it’s going and what it’s
doing for you, please
get help from the
appropriate counseling
services.