This document discusses developing as a change leader by moving from a pleasing approach to being a collaborator. It provides a general framework that involves shifting from pleasing others to focusing on win-win relationships. It discusses the challenges of being a pleaser and compares it to being a collaborator using the lens of positive intelligence and its five sage powers. It also covers developing more creative competencies like relating and provides leadership containers to support the psychological safety needed for the shift from pleasing to collaborating.