1. BE PROACTIVE
I A M T H E F O R C E
Personal Growth and Development

2. Introduction
Teenagers are the product of their environment,
upbringing, and choices. Are their choices proactive
or reactive? They need to choose how they act. They
need to take responsibility
for their choices
and their life.

3. Reactive
Sometimes things go wrong, and we
feel shaken up. As a result, we might
EXPLODE on someone or something.
This is called being REACTIVE. Has
this ever happened to you? Explain
what happened and why. Was this a
good way to let go of all of your
feelings? Why or why not?

4. Proactive
When you are PROACTIVE,
you make a choice about how
you react to the things that
happen in your life. You act like
a water bottle. You might get
shaken up or mad, but you stay
calm and don’t explode!

5. Listen to Your Language
Reactive language
 I’ll try
 That’s just the way I am
 There’s nothing I can do
 I have to
Proactive language
 I’ll do it
 I can do better than that
 Let’s look at all our option
 I choose to

6. The Victimitis Virus
Reactive people
 Are easily offended
 Blame other
 Get angry
Proactive people
 Are not easily offended
 Take responsibility for
choices
 Think before they act

7. What We Can and Cannot Control
CIRCLE OF NO
CONTROL
Birthplace
Weather
Parents
What other
people say
and do
CIRCLE OF
CONTROL
Ourselves Attitudes
Choices &
Responses
• We cannot control
EVERYTHING that
happens to us
• One thing we can
control…how we
respond to what
happens to us!!!

8. Turning Setbacks Into Triumphs
Life often deals us a bad hand and it is up to us to
control how we respond. Every time we have a setback,
it’s an opportunity for us to turn into a triumph.

9. Can-Do
• Being PROACTIVE really means two things—
1. You take responsibility for your life
2. You have a “can-do” attitude
Take initiative
to make it
happen
Think about
solutions and
options
Act
Wait for
something
to happen to
them
Think about
problems and
barriers
Are acted
upon
Can-Do
Non-
Can-Do

10. Just Push Pause
• When someone is rude to you, where do you get the
power to resist being rude back?
• Suggestion…JUST HIT PAUSE!!!
• Sometimes life moves so fast that we
INSTANTLY react to everything out of shear
habit
• Learn to pause-you will make smarter
decisions

11. Power Tools
• SELF-AWARENESS: I can stand apart from
myself and observe my thoughts and actions
• CONSCIENCE: I can listen to my inner voice to
know right from wrong (the one we tend to ignore)
• IMAGINATION: I can envision new
possibilities
• WILLPOWER: I have the power to choose

12. Conclusion
 Be Proactive with your study
 Be Proactive with physical health
 Be Proactive with mental health
 Be Proactive with your time
 Be Proactive with work
 Be Proactive with words
 Be Proactive with friends
 Be always ready for everything you do!!!

13. Be
Proactive

14. The End

18. BEGIN WITH THE END IN
MINDC O N T R O L Y O U R O W N D E S T I N Y O R S O M E O N E E L S E W I L L
Instructor: Dr. Kol Pheng
Personal Growth and Development

19. Begin with the End in Mind
Control your own destiny
Or it means developing a clear picture of where you
want to go with your life.
Or it means deciding what your values are and setting
goals.
 Is a powerful way to help turn your dreams in to
realities ,so you should set your own blueprint before
doing something all the time

20. The Crossroads of Life
 What about friends?
 Take your choice friends that need to be accepted and
be part of a group is powerful.
 Wrong group of friends: it lead you down all kinds of
paths you really don’t want to be on.
 Right group of friends : lead you go on the right way.

21. The Crossroads of Life
 What about Sex?
 We are free to choose our paths, but we can’t choose the
consequences that come with them.
 The path you chose will affect your health, your reputation,
your future children, and so much more.

22. Who’s in the lead?
Make you own decision don’t led someone else will do
it for you, and you have to control your own destiny.
 Don’t have in the moment part: Look for ahead or future.

23. A Personal Mission Statement ( PMS)
A Personal Mission Statement ( PMS)
 Is like a personal credo or motto that motivate yourself what
your life is about, it is like the blueprint
 You should write your PMS and read it every day to inspire
yourself.

24. Three things to watch for
 Negative Labels
 “it’s all over” syndrome
 Wrong direction

25. GO FOR THE GOAL
 Go for the goal
 If you have mission, then you set goals
 Key to set goals
 Count the cost
 Put it in pen
 Just do it
 Use momentous moment
 Rape up

26. Conclusion
Develop a clear picture of where you want to
go in your life.
 Help to think beyond today and take charge of
your life.
Set reachable goals.
 Believe in yourself and your faith, you can
accomplish anything you desire.
 Avoid the Law of Self-Fulfilling Prophecy.

27. Conclusion
 Never loose sight of these goals.
 Strive each day to reach interdependence.
 Have a confidence in yourself and everyone else
around you.
 Read your goals daily.
 You are the master of your own destiny.