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What makes you different from
Animals ??
THAT LEADS TO
• Evaluate and learn from other’s experience,
• Make and break out habits,
• Enables us to stand apart and examine even
the way we see ourselves our “SELF
PARADIGM” …
What happen when you see yourself
from the current social paradigm !!
• “You are never on time”
• “Why can’t you ever keep things in order”
• “you must be an artist”
• “You eat like a horse”
• “I can’t believe you won”
• “This is so simple, why can’t you understand
it”
Our view of ourselves becomes like the
reflection in the crazy mirror room at
the carnival !
“Projections Rather Than Reflections”
Projecting the concerns and character weakness
of people rather than accurately reflecting
what we are….
These social mirrors creates social maps in
mind which leads to theories of
determinism, on which human resides
his/her responses, which may be…
1. My Grand parents Did this to me (GENETIC
DETERMINISM)
2. My Parents Did this to me (PSYCHIC DETERMINISM)
3. My boss, spouse, bratty teenager, economic
situations, national policies Did this to me
(ENVIROMENTAL DETERMINISM) …
These maps decide your Response to
some specific Stimuli !!
STIMULUS
RESPONSE
Look at the word
‘responsibility’___”response-ability” ,
The ability to choose your response !!
Reactive people are driven by feelings
while proactive people are driven by
values….
There are 3 central values in life,
1. The experiential : “that happens to us”
2. The creative : “that we bring into existence”
3. The Attitudinal : “that is our response in
difficult circumstances”
According to Stephen R.covey , what matters
most is how we respond to what we
experience in life !!
What We Focus on~Expands.
The Circle of Influence
Circle of
concern
Things we are concerned
and worried about
Circle of
concern
But have no control over
it
Circle of
concern
Who will be getting the
promotion?
Circle of
concern
Who will be getting the
promotion?
Who will the clients be
purchasing the items
From?
Circle of
concern
Who will be getting the
promotion?
Who will the clients be
purchasing the items
From?
Will my future in laws
like me?
Circle of
concern
Who will be getting the
promotion?
Who will the clients be
purchasing the items
From?
Will my future in laws
like me?
Will my friends be loyal
to me always?
Proactive people
focus their efforts
inthe circle of
influence .They work
on the things they
can do something
about.
Circle
of
Influenc
e
What are the things I
could do to ensure
that promotion?
Circle
of
Influenc
e
What are the things I
could do to ensure
that promotion?
How can I built trust
so that the clients
would purchase
from me?
Circle
of
Influenc
e
Circle
of
Influenc
e
What are the things I
could do to ensure
that promotion?
How can I built trust
so that the clients
would purchase
from me?
What are the
paradigms of my
future in laws of
good choice in a
person?
Circle
of
Influenc
e
What are the things I
could do to ensure
that promotion?
How can I built trust
so that the clients
would purchase
from me?
What are the
paradigms of my
future in laws of
good choice in a
person?Have I been keeping
the promises I made
to my friends?
Reactive people focus on the outer circle.
Circle of
concern
The circle where they could do nothing much
about
Other than
Complaining
Judging
Criticizing
Wanting to be
understood first
Withdrawing from
the emotional
bank account
That cause their circle of influence to shrink .
Proactive people focus on the inner circle .The
circle which they have influence over
Circle
of
Influenc
e
This is also where we are to focus all our
energies on .
If we carry on working on the inner circle
,inevitably , this circle will only get larger and
larger over time.
Which also means we would have more and
more control over the things we are concerned
about.
And it will change in.....
C
Circle
of
concer
ns
Circle of influence
Direct
Indirect and
No control
All the problems we face are falling in one of
three areas
1 .Direct control
2. Indirect control
3. No control
l Problems involving our own behaviour .It can
be solve by working on your habits like
proactiveness, begine with the end in
mind,put first things first .
l Problems involving other people's behaviour -
solution by changing our method of influence
.The public victories of Think Win win , seek
first to understand and than to be understood
,syergize.
l Problems we can do nothing about ,such as
our past --solution is take the responsibility to
change the line on the bottom on your face to
Whether your problem is direct ,indirect or no
control .Keep in mind that all the problems are
just because of you and you are the only person
who can solve it by
Change habit
Your methods of infulence
Change the way you see your no control
problems .
EXPANDING THE CIRCLE OF
INFLUENCE
• As human beings, we have the capacity to be
proactive. We can focus on the things that we
can actually do something about, or we can
add to the stress in our lives by worrying and
fretting over the things we have no control
over.
• Proactive people focus on the Circle of
Influence, which is the area we have control
over and we can act upon. When we do this,
the Circle of Influence gets bigger.
• When you act on your Circle of Influence you are
able to reduce stress levels and increase
happiness, because you can initiate and influence
change.
• There are some ways in which you can increase
your circle of influence:
Be a better listener
Be more loving
Be a better learner
Be a dedicated worker
Be Happy- genuinely smile
• You believe that if no one in your circle of
influence has accomplished what you want,then
you would not become successful as well.
HAVE’S AND BE’S
• “The have’s and the be’s” .We all have a circle of
concern and a circle of influence. Our circle of
concerns are defined as some things we have no
real control over such as
• If only I had someone to really push me
• If only I had someone to watch my children so i
could workout
• If only I had someone to workout with
• If I could just have more time to myself…..
The list goes on and on but what I am getting to is
that all these (Have’s/had’s) are in your circle of
concern and if you honestly look at that list these
are things that you have little to no control over,
if looked at it from a reactive point of view.
• If you take those same situations and viewed them from your circle
of influence, which are things that you can directly do something
about, it should go a little like this
• I will be the one to push and hold myself accountable
• I will be responsible to come up with a way to either have someone
watch my children or find a way to incorporate them into my
workout
• I will be patient and persistent with my own fitness goals that
someone will either notice and want to join me or I will meet
someone who has similar goals as me, but I will not sit and wait
• I will be mindful that I need to make sure to incorporate time in my
schedule for exercise, I will hold myself accountable, not my
environment
Now when focused on the circle of influence you focus on the Be’s
and use the highly effective inside-out approach. Because if you
think the problem is “out there,” that thought itself is the problem.
We in turn empower whats out there to control us.
The one thing that I can control at all times, and work to
improve, is my Be’s no matter what life throws at me.
I can choose what qualities I want to cultivate and focus
on daily. And I also recognize that these Be’s are also
the overriding frameworks that I can later design my
life around once more. I just needed to realize that
Have’s and Do’s aren’t the intentions in my life. They
are the effects of utilizing my “Be” intentions. So here
are my few, new, Be’s which will one day become my
intentions:
I want to Be Present.
I want to Be Peaceful.
I want to Be Healthy.
I want to Be Grateful.
I want to Be Loving.
When you lift a stick, you lift both
sides.
• With actions come
consequences & mistakes.
• Consequences are results of our
actions.
• Consequences are not in our
power, decisions to make that
action are.
• Before you react, you must
consider the consequences.
Ooops….
• Mistakes should be
admitted & corrected.
• Mistakes can be
corrected, but not
undone.
• Even admitting a mistake
but not correcting it is
another mistake.
I do, I Will!
• Making & keeping promises are one of
the basics of character building &
growth.
• Make a promise, keep it. Set a goal,
achieve it!
• When we fulfill commitments we gain a
sense of courage & power.
• Commitments in short create self
awareness, about our strengths and
weaknesses.
The Importance of Goals for
Proactivity
• Goals give us a meaning, a direction.
• Goals aren’t of any use if we don’t
work to achieve them.
• Goals keep us focused and motivated.
• The absence of goals would just lead
us to being reactive individuals.
• Not everyone can be Lionel Messi, but
we can try our best to be!
Proactivity in our Daily Life
• You don’t have to go to extremes to discover your proactivity, it is
in your daily life.
• Let’s take a moment to think how we react to negative
consequences.
Are we proactive?
• Our happiness, our actions, our effectiveness is entirely in our
hands.
So let’s be less reactive & more
Proactive!
• Let’s listen before we speak
• Let’s understand before we react
• Let’s remember people’s strength
before we pick on their
weaknesses.
• Let’s focus on how you react to the
issue.
DREAM BIG
AND WORK FOR IT!

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7 habbits

  • 1.
  • 2.
  • 3. What makes you different from Animals ??
  • 4. THAT LEADS TO • Evaluate and learn from other’s experience, • Make and break out habits, • Enables us to stand apart and examine even the way we see ourselves our “SELF PARADIGM” …
  • 5.
  • 6.
  • 7.
  • 8. What happen when you see yourself from the current social paradigm !! • “You are never on time” • “Why can’t you ever keep things in order” • “you must be an artist” • “You eat like a horse” • “I can’t believe you won” • “This is so simple, why can’t you understand it”
  • 9. Our view of ourselves becomes like the reflection in the crazy mirror room at the carnival !
  • 10. “Projections Rather Than Reflections” Projecting the concerns and character weakness of people rather than accurately reflecting what we are….
  • 11. These social mirrors creates social maps in mind which leads to theories of determinism, on which human resides his/her responses, which may be… 1. My Grand parents Did this to me (GENETIC DETERMINISM) 2. My Parents Did this to me (PSYCHIC DETERMINISM) 3. My boss, spouse, bratty teenager, economic situations, national policies Did this to me (ENVIROMENTAL DETERMINISM) …
  • 12. These maps decide your Response to some specific Stimuli !! STIMULUS RESPONSE
  • 13.
  • 14. Look at the word ‘responsibility’___”response-ability” , The ability to choose your response !!
  • 15.
  • 16. Reactive people are driven by feelings while proactive people are driven by values….
  • 17. There are 3 central values in life, 1. The experiential : “that happens to us” 2. The creative : “that we bring into existence” 3. The Attitudinal : “that is our response in difficult circumstances” According to Stephen R.covey , what matters most is how we respond to what we experience in life !!
  • 18. What We Focus on~Expands. The Circle of Influence
  • 19.
  • 20. Circle of concern Things we are concerned and worried about
  • 21. Circle of concern But have no control over it
  • 22. Circle of concern Who will be getting the promotion?
  • 23. Circle of concern Who will be getting the promotion? Who will the clients be purchasing the items From?
  • 24. Circle of concern Who will be getting the promotion? Who will the clients be purchasing the items From? Will my future in laws like me?
  • 25. Circle of concern Who will be getting the promotion? Who will the clients be purchasing the items From? Will my future in laws like me? Will my friends be loyal to me always?
  • 26. Proactive people focus their efforts inthe circle of influence .They work on the things they can do something about. Circle of Influenc e
  • 27. What are the things I could do to ensure that promotion? Circle of Influenc e
  • 28. What are the things I could do to ensure that promotion? How can I built trust so that the clients would purchase from me? Circle of Influenc e
  • 29. Circle of Influenc e What are the things I could do to ensure that promotion? How can I built trust so that the clients would purchase from me? What are the paradigms of my future in laws of good choice in a person?
  • 30. Circle of Influenc e What are the things I could do to ensure that promotion? How can I built trust so that the clients would purchase from me? What are the paradigms of my future in laws of good choice in a person?Have I been keeping the promises I made to my friends?
  • 31. Reactive people focus on the outer circle.
  • 33. The circle where they could do nothing much about
  • 35. Complaining Judging Criticizing Wanting to be understood first Withdrawing from the emotional bank account
  • 36. That cause their circle of influence to shrink .
  • 37. Proactive people focus on the inner circle .The circle which they have influence over Circle of Influenc e
  • 38. This is also where we are to focus all our energies on . If we carry on working on the inner circle ,inevitably , this circle will only get larger and larger over time.
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  • 40. Which also means we would have more and more control over the things we are concerned about. And it will change in.....
  • 43. All the problems we face are falling in one of three areas 1 .Direct control 2. Indirect control 3. No control l Problems involving our own behaviour .It can be solve by working on your habits like proactiveness, begine with the end in mind,put first things first .
  • 44. l Problems involving other people's behaviour - solution by changing our method of influence .The public victories of Think Win win , seek first to understand and than to be understood ,syergize. l Problems we can do nothing about ,such as our past --solution is take the responsibility to change the line on the bottom on your face to
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  • 46. Whether your problem is direct ,indirect or no control .Keep in mind that all the problems are just because of you and you are the only person who can solve it by Change habit Your methods of infulence Change the way you see your no control problems .
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  • 48. EXPANDING THE CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE
  • 49. • As human beings, we have the capacity to be proactive. We can focus on the things that we can actually do something about, or we can add to the stress in our lives by worrying and fretting over the things we have no control over. • Proactive people focus on the Circle of Influence, which is the area we have control over and we can act upon. When we do this, the Circle of Influence gets bigger.
  • 50. • When you act on your Circle of Influence you are able to reduce stress levels and increase happiness, because you can initiate and influence change. • There are some ways in which you can increase your circle of influence: Be a better listener Be more loving Be a better learner Be a dedicated worker Be Happy- genuinely smile • You believe that if no one in your circle of influence has accomplished what you want,then you would not become successful as well.
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  • 53. • “The have’s and the be’s” .We all have a circle of concern and a circle of influence. Our circle of concerns are defined as some things we have no real control over such as • If only I had someone to really push me • If only I had someone to watch my children so i could workout • If only I had someone to workout with • If I could just have more time to myself….. The list goes on and on but what I am getting to is that all these (Have’s/had’s) are in your circle of concern and if you honestly look at that list these are things that you have little to no control over, if looked at it from a reactive point of view.
  • 54. • If you take those same situations and viewed them from your circle of influence, which are things that you can directly do something about, it should go a little like this • I will be the one to push and hold myself accountable • I will be responsible to come up with a way to either have someone watch my children or find a way to incorporate them into my workout • I will be patient and persistent with my own fitness goals that someone will either notice and want to join me or I will meet someone who has similar goals as me, but I will not sit and wait • I will be mindful that I need to make sure to incorporate time in my schedule for exercise, I will hold myself accountable, not my environment Now when focused on the circle of influence you focus on the Be’s and use the highly effective inside-out approach. Because if you think the problem is “out there,” that thought itself is the problem. We in turn empower whats out there to control us.
  • 55. The one thing that I can control at all times, and work to improve, is my Be’s no matter what life throws at me. I can choose what qualities I want to cultivate and focus on daily. And I also recognize that these Be’s are also the overriding frameworks that I can later design my life around once more. I just needed to realize that Have’s and Do’s aren’t the intentions in my life. They are the effects of utilizing my “Be” intentions. So here are my few, new, Be’s which will one day become my intentions: I want to Be Present. I want to Be Peaceful. I want to Be Healthy. I want to Be Grateful. I want to Be Loving.
  • 56. When you lift a stick, you lift both sides. • With actions come consequences & mistakes. • Consequences are results of our actions. • Consequences are not in our power, decisions to make that action are. • Before you react, you must consider the consequences.
  • 57. Ooops…. • Mistakes should be admitted & corrected. • Mistakes can be corrected, but not undone. • Even admitting a mistake but not correcting it is another mistake.
  • 58. I do, I Will! • Making & keeping promises are one of the basics of character building & growth. • Make a promise, keep it. Set a goal, achieve it! • When we fulfill commitments we gain a sense of courage & power. • Commitments in short create self awareness, about our strengths and weaknesses.
  • 59. The Importance of Goals for Proactivity • Goals give us a meaning, a direction. • Goals aren’t of any use if we don’t work to achieve them. • Goals keep us focused and motivated. • The absence of goals would just lead us to being reactive individuals. • Not everyone can be Lionel Messi, but we can try our best to be!
  • 60. Proactivity in our Daily Life • You don’t have to go to extremes to discover your proactivity, it is in your daily life. • Let’s take a moment to think how we react to negative consequences. Are we proactive? • Our happiness, our actions, our effectiveness is entirely in our hands.
  • 61. So let’s be less reactive & more Proactive! • Let’s listen before we speak • Let’s understand before we react • Let’s remember people’s strength before we pick on their weaknesses. • Let’s focus on how you react to the issue.