Rhonda Begos discusses her life journey from childhood abuse and trauma to recovery. As a child, she was sexually abused multiple times but adults did not help when she reported it. This led to struggles with substance abuse, mental health issues, and dysfunctional relationships as an adult. Through therapy, she was able to understand how the abuse impacted her. Key to her recovery was acknowledging, believing, and processing the abuse; learning coping strategies; and regaining a sense of safety, trust, and self-worth. She now helps others as a speaker and advocate.
Disclaimer
This is a project for a high school AP Psychology course. This is a fictionalized account of having a psychological ailment. For questions about this blog project email the teacher Chris Jocham: jocham@fultonschools.org
Parent Workshop Suicide Among AdolescentsLaWanda17
This powerpoint is for educational purposes only and to raise awareness about adolescent suicide. Please contact me for more information about this presentation or if you would like me to facilitate this presentation for your school, parent group, youth group, agency, or business.
Domestic violence: Through the Eyes of a SurvivorCassie Walker
This is a brief explanation of domestic violence, what it is, the damage it can do, and ways to help or get help. This has been created through the eyes of a survivor.
Disclaimer
This is a project for a high school AP Psychology course. This is a fictionalized account of having a psychological ailment. For questions about this blog project email the teacher Chris Jocham: jocham@fultonschools.org
Parent Workshop Suicide Among AdolescentsLaWanda17
This powerpoint is for educational purposes only and to raise awareness about adolescent suicide. Please contact me for more information about this presentation or if you would like me to facilitate this presentation for your school, parent group, youth group, agency, or business.
Domestic violence: Through the Eyes of a SurvivorCassie Walker
This is a brief explanation of domestic violence, what it is, the damage it can do, and ways to help or get help. This has been created through the eyes of a survivor.
Sexual assault and Rape information for parents! Learn about the statistics and tips for helping you respond if your child tells you they have been a victim of rape.
Overview of Suicide Risk Assessment & Preventionmilfamln
Managing suicide risk can often be a challenging experience for patients and providers alike. This 60 minute webinar will highlight various techniques that will help better prepare providers on how to manage these challenging situations. The presenter will provide you with a step-by-step approach for assessing, mitigating, and documenting suicide risk when working with military service members and their families.
Suicide Risk Assessment and Interventions - no videosKevin J. Drab
An in depth presentation of the current information known about suicide and the most effective interventions we currently have. If you are unclear about how to handle suicidal behavior or what are the more research-based approaches this PPT will be an excellent review for you. I have been training clinicians in Suicidology for over 20 years and have always stayed on top of the latest research and literature.
Sexual assault and Rape information for parents! Learn about the statistics and tips for helping you respond if your child tells you they have been a victim of rape.
Overview of Suicide Risk Assessment & Preventionmilfamln
Managing suicide risk can often be a challenging experience for patients and providers alike. This 60 minute webinar will highlight various techniques that will help better prepare providers on how to manage these challenging situations. The presenter will provide you with a step-by-step approach for assessing, mitigating, and documenting suicide risk when working with military service members and their families.
Suicide Risk Assessment and Interventions - no videosKevin J. Drab
An in depth presentation of the current information known about suicide and the most effective interventions we currently have. If you are unclear about how to handle suicidal behavior or what are the more research-based approaches this PPT will be an excellent review for you. I have been training clinicians in Suicidology for over 20 years and have always stayed on top of the latest research and literature.
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, soy Médico General Alto, Rubio, de Piel Blanca, ojos claros , soy Atlético Simpático, me esmero a seguir Adelante solucionando los Problemas de las demás Personas para salvar su Vida en Salud y en Enfermedades. Internet, Networds….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, la VIDA es una VIRTUD que cada Humano, Persona tiene es Valeroso y Digno lograr SALVAR la VIDA de una Persona que está en Peligro, cada Persona es una sóla Unidad único no hay nadie como esa persona somos distintos. Internet, Networds….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, la NATURALEZA es Bella y Linda Vivirla al Aire Libre, con Agua, la Vegetación, los Bellos Animales en el Ecosistema la Biodiversidad hay que Valorar y Gozar lo que hay en el Mundo Vivirla y Disfrutarla. Internet, Networds….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, ME GUSTA LO QUE SOY MI FORMA DE SER ME ENCANTA LO QUE SOY YÓ MI FÍSICO, MENTE, PENSAMIENTOS, ALMA Y CUERPO, FÍSICO. Y VIVIR LA VIDA, NATURALEZA LA BELLEZA. Web, Redes Sociales….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, Me gusta la Naturaleza y la Vida. VIVIR LA VIDA RESPETANDO A LOS DEMÁS CHICAS Y CHICOS A TODAS LAS PERSONAS LES RESPETO Y ADMIRO PORQUE TIENEN SUS VALORES Y DONES. HACER EL BIEN NUNCA EL MAL A LA PERSONA TRATAR COMO A UNO LE GUSTARÍA QUE LE TRATEN. Web, Redes Sociales….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, "creo que las artes marciales mixtas sirven principalmente para desarrollar la energía. A veces es necesario darse cuenta de un peligro y conocer el medio para salvar la vida. Web, Redes Sociales….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, La Energía es Vital para lograr una Meta con Fuerza y Salud es lo más Importante en la Vida. ", Web, Internet….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, "es necesario realizar ejercicios determinados en la columna, para proporcionar oxígeno al cerebro y ayudarle a descansar totalmente", Web, Internet….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, "hay tres palabras que aprendemos a gritar que llevan consigo descanso y energía; fuerza, valor y convicción", Web, Internet….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, soy Médico General Alto, Rubio, de Piel Blanca, ojos claros , soy Atlético Simpático, me esmero a seguir Adelante solucionando los Problemas de las demás Personas para salvar su Vida en Salud y en Enfermedades. Internet, Networds….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, la VIDA es una VIRTUD que cada Humano, Persona tiene es Valeroso y Digno lograr SALVAR la VIDA de una Persona que está en Peligro, cada Persona es una sóla Unidad único no hay nadie como esa persona somos distintos. Internet, Networds….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, la NATURALEZA es Bella y Linda Vivirla al Aire Libre, con Agua, la Vegetación, los Bellos Animales en el Ecosistema la Biodiversidad hay que Valorar y Gozar lo que hay en el Mundo Vivirla y Disfrutarla. Internet, Networds….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, ME GUSTA LO QUE SOY MI FORMA DE SER ME ENCANTA LO QUE SOY YÓ MI FÍSICO, MENTE, PENSAMIENTOS, ALMA Y CUERPO, FÍSICO. Y VIVIR LA VIDA, NATURALEZA LA BELLEZA. Web, Redes Sociales….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, Me gusta la Naturaleza y la Vida. VIVIR LA VIDA RESPETANDO A LOS DEMÁS CHICAS Y CHICOS A TODAS LAS PERSONAS LES RESPETO Y ADMIRO PORQUE TIENEN SUS VALORES Y DONES. HACER EL BIEN NUNCA EL MAL A LA PERSONA TRATAR COMO A UNO LE GUSTARÍA QUE LE TRATEN. Web, Redes Sociales….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, "creo que las artes marciales mixtas sirven principalmente para desarrollar la energía. A veces es necesario darse cuenta de un peligro y conocer el medio para salvar la vida. Web, Redes Sociales….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, La Energía es Vital para lograr una Meta con Fuerza y Salud es lo más Importante en la Vida. ", Web, Internet….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, "es necesario realizar ejercicios determinados en la columna, para proporcionar oxígeno al cerebro y ayudarle a descansar totalmente", Web, Internet….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, "hay tres palabras que aprendemos a gritar que llevan consigo descanso y energía; fuerza, valor y convicción", Web, Internet….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, soy Médico General Alto, Rubio, de Piel Blanca, ojos claros , soy Atlético Simpático, me esmero a seguir Adelante solucionando los Problemas de las demás Personas para salvar su Vida en Salud y en Enfermedades. Internet, Networds….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, la VIDA es una VIRTUD que cada Humano, Persona tiene es Valeroso y Digno lograr SALVAR la VIDA de una Persona que está en Peligro, cada Persona es una sóla Unidad único no hay nadie como esa persona somos distintos. Internet, Networds….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, la NATURALEZA es Bella y Linda Vivirla al Aire Libre, con Agua, la Vegetación, los Bellos Animales en el Ecosistema la Biodiversidad hay que Valorar y Gozar lo que hay en el Mundo Vivirla y Disfrutarla. Internet, Networds….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, ME GUSTA LO QUE SOY MI FORMA DE SER ME ENCANTA LO QUE SOY YÓ MI FÍSICO, MENTE, PENSAMIENTOS, ALMA Y CUERPO, FÍSICO. Y VIVIR LA VIDA, NATURALEZA LA BELLEZA. Web, Redes Sociales….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, Me gusta la Naturaleza y la Vida. VIVIR LA VIDA RESPETANDO A LOS DEMÁS CHICAS Y CHICOS A TODAS LAS PERSONAS LES RESPETO Y ADMIRO PORQUE TIENEN SUS VALORES Y DONES. HACER EL BIEN NUNCA EL MAL A LA PERSONA TRATAR COMO A UNO LE GUSTARÍA QUE LE TRATEN. Web, Redes Sociales….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, "creo que las artes marciales mixtas sirven principalmente para desarrollar la energía. A veces es necesario darse cuenta de un peligro y conocer el medio para salvar la vida. Web, Redes Sociales….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, La Energía es Vital para lograr una Meta con Fuerza y Salud es lo más Importante en la Vida. ", Web, Internet….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, "es necesario realizar ejercicios determinados en la columna, para proporcionar oxígeno al cerebro y ayudarle a descansar totalmente", Web, Internet….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, "hay tres palabras que aprendemos a gritar que llevan consigo descanso y energía; fuerza, valor y convicción", Web, Internet….
Child Death Review and the U.S. National Child Death Review Case Reporting Sy...BASPCAN
Helping us better understand child maltreatment fatalities.
Vincent J. Palusci MD MS, New York University, School of Medicine. USA
Theresa M. Covington, MPH, National Center for CHild Death Review, Washington DC, USA
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, soy Médico General Alto, Rubio, de Piel Blanca, ojos claros , soy Atlético Simpático, me esmero a seguir Adelante solucionando los Problemas de las demás Personas para salvar su Vida en Salud y en Enfermedades. Internet, Networds….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, la VIDA es una VIRTUD que cada Humano, Persona tiene es Valeroso y Digno lograr SALVAR la VIDA de una Persona que está en Peligro, cada Persona es una sóla Unidad único no hay nadie como esa persona somos distintos. Internet, Networds….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, la NATURALEZA es Bella y Linda Vivirla al Aire Libre, con Agua, la Vegetación, los Bellos Animales en el Ecosistema la Biodiversidad hay que Valorar y Gozar lo que hay en el Mundo Vivirla y Disfrutarla. Internet, Networds….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, ME GUSTA LO QUE SOY MI FORMA DE SER ME ENCANTA LO QUE SOY YÓ MI FÍSICO, MENTE, PENSAMIENTOS, ALMA Y CUERPO, FÍSICO. Y VIVIR LA VIDA, NATURALEZA LA BELLEZA. Web, Redes Sociales….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, Me gusta la Naturaleza y la Vida. VIVIR LA VIDA RESPETANDO A LOS DEMÁS CHICAS Y CHICOS A TODAS LAS PERSONAS LES RESPETO Y ADMIRO PORQUE TIENEN SUS VALORES Y DONES. HACER EL BIEN NUNCA EL MAL A LA PERSONA TRATAR COMO A UNO LE GUSTARÍA QUE LE TRATEN. Web, Redes Sociales….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, "creo que las artes marciales mixtas sirven principalmente para desarrollar la energía. A veces es necesario darse cuenta de un peligro y conocer el medio para salvar la vida. Web, Redes Sociales….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, La Energía es Vital para lograr una Meta con Fuerza y Salud es lo más Importante en la Vida. ", Web, Internet….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, "es necesario realizar ejercicios determinados en la columna, para proporcionar oxígeno al cerebro y ayudarle a descansar totalmente", Web, Internet….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, "hay tres palabras que aprendemos a gritar que llevan consigo descanso y energía; fuerza, valor y convicción", Web, Internet….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, soy Médico General Alto, Rubio, de Piel Blanca, ojos claros , soy Atlético Simpático, me esmero a seguir Adelante solucionando los Problemas de las demás Personas para salvar su Vida en Salud y en Enfermedades. Internet, Networds….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, la VIDA es una VIRTUD que cada Humano, Persona tiene es Valeroso y Digno lograr SALVAR la VIDA de una Persona que está en Peligro, cada Persona es una sóla Unidad único no hay nadie como esa persona somos distintos. Internet, Networds….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, la NATURALEZA es Bella y Linda Vivirla al Aire Libre, con Agua, la Vegetación, los Bellos Animales en el Ecosistema la Biodiversidad hay que Valorar y Gozar lo que hay en el Mundo Vivirla y Disfrutarla. Internet, Networds….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, ME GUSTA LO QUE SOY MI FORMA DE SER ME ENCANTA LO QUE SOY YÓ MI FÍSICO, MENTE, PENSAMIENTOS, ALMA Y CUERPO, FÍSICO. Y VIVIR LA VIDA, NATURALEZA LA BELLEZA. Web, Redes Sociales….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, Me gusta la Naturaleza y la Vida. VIVIR LA VIDA RESPETANDO A LOS DEMÁS CHICAS Y CHICOS A TODAS LAS PERSONAS LES RESPETO Y ADMIRO PORQUE TIENEN SUS VALORES Y DONES. HACER EL BIEN NUNCA EL MAL A LA PERSONA TRATAR COMO A UNO LE GUSTARÍA QUE LE TRATEN. Web, Redes Sociales….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, "creo que las artes marciales mixtas sirven principalmente para desarrollar la energía. A veces es necesario darse cuenta de un peligro y conocer el medio para salvar la vida. Web, Redes Sociales….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, La Energía es Vital para lograr una Meta con Fuerza y Salud es lo más Importante en la Vida. ", Web, Internet….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, "es necesario realizar ejercicios determinados en la columna, para proporcionar oxígeno al cerebro y ayudarle a descansar totalmente", Web, Internet….
Médico Especialista Álvaro Miguel Carranza Montalvo, "hay tres palabras que aprendemos a gritar que llevan consigo descanso y energía; fuerza, valor y convicción", Web, Internet….
This ppt throws light on all aspects of domestic violence. It also shares a true story about a lady ho is a victim of domestic violence . I have tried to explain about domestic violence highlighting women and children and also suggested ways in which one can help a women who is the victim of domestic violence . I hope this will be helpful to the victims.
However one should know that even boys can be subjected to such violence.
This is one little step i would like to take to stop domestic violence. I hope that someday this violence stops and every lives happily together
Role of Women in Overcoming Erectile Dsyfunction was presented by Clinical Sexologist Dr. Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching at a public forum organised by a group of NTU students at Singapore Conference Hall on Sat 21 Feb 2016.
Dr Martha Tara Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching since 2009. She is a certified sexologist with ACS (American College of Sexologists), as well as a certified sexuality educator with AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists). Martha holds a Doctorate in Human Sexuality as well as Certificates in Sex Therapy, Practical Counselling and Life Coaching. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women under 40′ by Her World Singapore in July 2010 and ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women by CozyCot Singapore in March 2011. Website: http://www.eroscoaching.com.
This is the basic introduction of Sigmund Freud and the knowledge of Psychoanalytical approaches and the therapy goals. Sigmund Freud contributions are discusses in detail. The work on id,ego, and superego is discussed in detail.
Living and Coping with Grief and Loss - 1.29.18 - Margaret S. Clarke LPC, BC-...Summit Health
Everyone experiences grief at some time in their life. Grief can accompany many forms of loss. The death of a loved one can be the most intense grief experience; however, there are many forms of loss that can occur. This lecture will explore how managing grief and loss is an individual process and the role compassion can play.
SMG's Grief Support Group: https://www.summitmedicalgroup.com/event/grief-support-group/
This is the powerpoint for the first day of class on child abuse and neglect that I am teaching in the fall of 2016. I'm wondering what other people think of the content.
Addiction and Suicide Prevention - December 2012 Dawn Farm
“Addiction and Suicide Prevention” was presented on Tuesday December 18, 2012; by Raymond Dalton, MA; Dawn Farm therapist. There is an alarmingly high prevalence of suicide among people with addiction and people in early recovery. This program will raise awareness of the signs of suicidal thinking and describe ways to offer support and obtain help for people who may be contemplating suicide. Viewers will learn how to recognize suicidal thinking, reach out and offer support to others contemplating suicide, obtain help when suicidal thoughts are present, and access local and national suicide prevention and intervention resources. This program is part of the Dawn Farm Education Series, a FREE, annual workshop series developed to provide accurate, helpful, hopeful, practical, current information about chemical dependency, recovery, family and related issues. The Education Series is organized by Dawn Farm, a non-profit community of programs providing a continuum of chemical dependency services. For information, please see http://www.dawnfarm.org/programs/education-series.
Using Coronial Records to Understand Deaths of Infants Through Co-sleepingBASPCAN
Joe Clarke, South Eastern Health & Social Care Trust
Catherine Coyle, Public Health Agency, Northern Ireland
Sharon Beattie, Safeguarding Board for Northern Ireland
Cathy MacPherson, South Eastern Health & Social Care Trust
Una Turbitt, Public Health Agency, Northern Ireland
Brid Farell, Public Health Agency, Northern Ireland
Anne Lazenbatt, Queens University, Belfast, Northern Ireland
Lisa Bunting, Queens University, Belfast, Northern Ireland
John Devaney, Queens University, Belfast, Northern Ireland
Asking for, and getting help for child neglect:children, young people and par...BASPCAN
Brigid Daniel
Professor of Social Work
University of Stirling
with thanks to:
Cheryl Burgess, University of Stirling
Jane Scott, With Scotland
Julie Taylor, University of Edinburgh
and to Action for Children
What is the point of small housing associations.pptxPaul Smith
Given the small scale of housing associations and their relative high cost per home what is the point of them and how do we justify their continued existance
ZGB - The Role of Generative AI in Government transformation.pdfSaeed Al Dhaheri
This keynote was presented during the the 7th edition of the UAE Hackathon 2024. It highlights the role of AI and Generative AI in addressing government transformation to achieve zero government bureaucracy
Jennifer Schaus and Associates hosts a complimentary webinar series on The FAR in 2024. Join the webinars on Wednesdays and Fridays at noon, eastern.
Recordings are on YouTube and the company website.
https://www.youtube.com/@jenniferschaus/videos
Jennifer Schaus and Associates hosts a complimentary webinar series on The FAR in 2024. Join the webinars on Wednesdays and Fridays at noon, eastern.
Recordings are on YouTube and the company website.
https://www.youtube.com/@jenniferschaus/videos
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1. Brain Behind, Body Forward
Rhonda Begos
Rhonda Begos Speaks
www.rhondabegos.com
Milwaukee, WI
April 14, 2015
2. Who Am I – Today
• Rhonda Begos – 46 year old
• Singer
• Single mom
• Musician, full time worker, volunteer,
• Non drinker, non partier, but I still have fun
• Will be a wife shortly
• Public speaker
• Advocate for children and victims of abuse
3. Who I WAS
• Almost died from drinking
• Suffered from severe claustrophobia
• Fears I didn’t understand
• Extreme substance abuse
• Very angry and combative
• Nightmares
• Hopelessness and despair
4. Who I WAS
• Diagnosed with juvenile (Type I) diabetes in 1983
• Relationships of any kind were unbelievably difficult to maintain
• Became physically self abusive in my sexual behavior
• Could not hold down a job where authority felt overbearing
• Severe depression
• Didn’t know what a “normal” life was
• Became worse after having children
• Had no idea where behavior was coming from
5. Childhood
• Life began in a confusing fashion
• No one to answer my questions
• Didn’t understand what was happening
• Didn’t understand the difference in my life and the lives of others, but
I knew it wasn’t the same
• Felt ostracized because of my color
• Wanted desperately to fit in
• Very Low Self Esteem
6. The Abuse
• First sexual abuse episode
• Didn’t know what was happening
• Couldn’t separate myself from the situation
• Knew something wasn’t right, but wasn’t sure what
• Did the right thing and told an older sibling
• I told my sister right away
• Directed by sister to tell her in front of brother in law – I did
• Expected to be saved
• Nothing happened
7. The Abuse
• First mental signs of dysfunction appear
• Combativeness in school
• Authority wasn’t tolerated
• Desperate for attention – wanted to tell someone but couldn’t felt too afraid
• Didn't understand the response from adults
• Not trusting adults began to infiltrate my life
• ON the other side, if anyone showed me affection and acceptance, I
began to cling to them immediately
• Began to equate love with being sexually available
8. The Abuse
• Second abuse episode happened
• Disassociation began
• Second incident was more violent
• My belief that adults would protect me was gone
• Did not believe life would ever be different than what had already been
established
• Never told anyone until I turned 17
• My brain took a back seat to understanding why my behavior was
abnormal
• My body began to react outwardly to what was happening inwardly
9. Early Adult Life
• Began experimenting with drugs as early as 14
• Became angry and combative with family members and could not
make the connection
• Was asked by a family member if the first incident of abuse could
have been provoked by the way I was dressed; that's when I revealed
the second incident
• Wanted to leave home to escape
• Was mentally, emotionally and physically exhausted
10. Early Adult Life
• Began drinking as soon as I got to college – even though I TOLD myself
I would never drink and/or smoke
• The only way to connect with a man was physically
• Couldn’t connect emotionally – if someone did connect emotionally, I
sabotaged it – friendship, or romantically
• Never received my degree
• Moved from Boston to Milwaukee – broke and broken
11. Late Adult Life
• Met my first husband and expected to be "saved"
• Was desperate to be understood and validated
• Intellectually put together; understood many things; could make no
sense of my behavior and thought process
• Anger began to take over
• Behavior became increasingly worse after birth of first son
• Drinking and bad behavior became a way of life
• When abuse was revealed, society said "get over it"
12. Late Adult Life
• August 4, 2004
• Finally got help – realized that being pharmaceutically medicated was
not the route
• Began to put puzzle pieces together – claustrophobia, fear of
commitment, substance abuse, problems with authority, self esteem,
anger, fear of good, trust, self destruction – all began to make sense
• Several years to find the right therapist
• Surround myself around those who either understood or were trying
to understand what I was going through
13. Late Adult Life
Health Issues Experienced
• Allergies
• Circulation problems
• Stomach and gastric disturbances
• Unexplained severe migraines
• Insomnia
• Rapid heartbeat and severe anxiety
• Acid reflux disease
• Some PTSD symptoms
14. Late Adult Life
Health Issues Experienced
• Eating disorders
• Autoimmune disorders (i.e., diabetes) (OR =4.4 (1.7, 11.6))
• Heart disease (OR = 3.7 (1.5, 9.4))
• Arthritic disorders (OR= 1.5 (1.1, 2.2))
• Peptic ulcers (OR= 1.5 (1.03, 2.2))
• Lung disease (OR= 1.5 (1.1, 2.2))
• Acid reflux disease
Bullet 2, 3, 4, 5 and 6 - http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15259836 - Association between childhood trauma and physical disorders among adults in the United States
15. Essential Process
• Victim must acknowledge abuse
• Victim must be committed to professional care
• Victim must re-experience their episode (so episode can slowly die)
• Victim must be ACKNOWLEDGED and BELIEVED
• Victim must be listened to
• Victim must be given efficient tools to deal with their abuse
• Victim must be dealt with honestly and openly
• Victim must be given strategies to transfer to the NOW and escape
the THEN
16. Essential Process
• Victim must be allowed to feel
• Victim must be comforted
• Victim must be respected
• Victim must be told they are not alone
• Victim must be shown how the behavior and episode(s) are related
• Victim must take responsibility for their behavior, but given reasons
for why the behavior happens
• Victim must be told that feelings may never go away, but that there
are tools to deal with those feelings
• Victim must be shown new ways to live peacefully
17. Essential Process
• Victim must be handled as the abused child and not the adult
• When a victim is allowed to BE….their brains are able to catch up with
what their bodies have been automatically, but dysfunctionally, been
looking for:
• Acknowledgement
• Acceptance
• Belief
• Love
• DO NOT REVICTIMIZE by MISDIAGNOSIS
18. Scenario 1:
In the middle of a conversation with an family member, it is revealed to
you that she/he was abused by another family member who you know.
She/he explains in detail and with extreme emotion, what happened to
her/him as a child. She/he then reveals that it happened on multiple
occasions.
The victim also explains that the appropriate adults were told about
the abuse, but nothing ever was done about the perpetrator.
WHAT DO YOU DO?
19. Scenario 2:
You suspect that a very close friend of yours has suffered some sort of
abuse in their past. In conversation, you ask your friend if something
ever happened, and he/she says to you “Something did happen, but I
got over it.”
His/her behavior suggest otherwise, and you believe that he/she would
benefit from getting help.
WHAT DO YOU DO?
20. Scenario 3:
A patient who has a myriad of emotional and mental dysfunctions, i.e.,
borderline personality disorder, post traumatic stress disorder, extreme
anxiety, finally reveals after years of therapy that childhood sexual
trauma has occurred in his/her past. She/he has not experienced any
improvement in the treatment as far as medications, and traditional
therapy as it happens in session modes.
All of his/her behavior is classic textbook behavior for someone who
has been sexually abused in their past.
WHAT DO YOU DO?
21. THANK YOU - QUESTIONS
Rhonda Begos
Rhonda Begos Speaks
www.rhondabegos.com
Milwaukee, WI
April 14, 2015
Editor's Notes
Talk About Being A Wife
Speak at schools, churches
-mention the claustrophobia later in terms of it came from attic
Explain later
The only way I felt I could be loved
FIRST BULLETT –
Drinking
Physical and Mental abusiveness from outside sources
Homelessness and money problems
Watching my mom getting abused
Half black and half white
Explain how I came to live with sister and brother in law
Sibling suggested I tell my sister
Talk about going on walk after telling sister
Weeks went by
Explain the attic and claustrophobia
Could only relate sexually to all things. I equated like and love to sex
Thought I had dealt with my issues – but had not.
After having my son, my fear of failure in protecting him began to take over
Lost jobs-fear of good-felt comfortable with dysfunction
If people are only going to tell you what they think and not try to understand or research what you know, you need to separate from them, therapists included
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19845782
Childhood maltreatment and migraine (part I). Prevalence and adult revictimization: a multicenter headache clinic survey.
Tietjen GE1, Brandes JL, Peterlin BL, Eloff A, Dafer RM, Stein MR, Drexler E, Martin VT, Hutchinson S, Aurora SK, Recober A, Herial NA, Utley C, White L,Khuder SA.
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Abstract
OBJECTIVES:
To examine the prevalence of childhood maltreatment and adult revictimization in migraineurs and the association with sociodemographic factors, depression and anxiety.
BACKGROUND:
Population and practice-based studies have demonstrated an association of childhood abuse and headache in adults, although further details on headache diagnoses, characteristics, and comorbid conditions are lacking. There are mounting data suggesting substantial impact of early maltreatment on adult physical and mental health.
METHODS:
Electronic surveys were completed by patients seeking treatment in 11 headache centers across the United States and Canada. Physicians determined the primary headache diagnoses based on the International Classification of Headache Disorders-2 criteria and average monthly headache frequency. Self-reported information on demographics (including body mass index), social history, and physician-diagnosed depression and anxiety was collected. The survey also included validated screening measures for current depression (Patient Health Questionnaire-9) and anxiety (The Beck Anxiety Inventory). History and severity of childhood (<18 years) abuse (sexual, emotional, and physical) and neglect (emotional and physical) was gathered using the Childhood Trauma Questionnaire. There were also queries regarding adult physical and sexual abuse, including age of occurrence. Analysis includes all persons with migraine with aura, and migraine without aura.
RESULTS:
A total of 1348 migraineurs (88% women) were included (mean age 41 years). Diagnosis of migraine with aura was recorded in 40% and chronic headache (>or=15 days/month) was reported by 34%. The prevalence of childhood maltreatment types was as follows: physical abuse 21%, sexual abuse 25%, emotional abuse 38%, physical neglect 22%, and emotional neglect 38%. Nine percent reported all 3 categories of childhood abuse (physical, sexual, and emotional) and 17% reported both physical and emotional neglect. Overlap between maltreatment types ranged between 40% and 81%. Of those reporting childhood abuse, 43% reported abuse in adulthood, but infrequently (17%) over the age of 30 years. In logistic regression models adjusted for sociodemographic variables, current depression was associated with physical (P = .003), sexual (P = .007), and emotional abuse (P < .001), and physical and emotional neglect (P = .001 for both). Current anxiety was also associated with all childhood abuse and neglect categories (P < .001 for all). A graded relationship was observed between the number of childhood maltreatment types and remote or current depression and anxiety. In adjusted logistic regression analysis, migraineurs reporting 3 or more categories of childhood trauma were more likely to have received diagnoses of both depression and anxiety (odds ratios [OR] = 6.91, 95% confidence interval [CI]: 3.97-12.03), or either depression or anxiety (OR = 3.66, 95% CI: 2.28-5.88) as compared with those without childhood abuse or neglect.
CONCLUSION:
Reports of childhood maltreatment, especially emotional abuse and neglect, are prevalent in outpatients with migraine. There is extensive overlap of maltreatment types and a high rate of revictimization in adulthood. All types of childhood abuse and neglect are strongly associated with remote and current depression and anxiety, and the relationship strengthens with an increasing number of maltreatment types.
All issues that can be caused by having been victimized as a child – mention my diabetes – no history of it in my family at all.
Has to deal with truth
Has to have a qualified therapist trained in dealing with victims of abuse – or a survivor
Has to relive In order for experience to die. Nothin can die unless it's allowed to live
Victim must be HEARD
Not all victims require medications, which is why proper assessment is necessary. Lexopro…sleep pills
Honesty is important and open conversation is needed
Next slide……
the one thing to understand is the victim, when abused, had every right taken away and has not found functional ways to re enter society. All aspects of what a victim needs to experience emotionally is not only essential in their care, but is also their way of reclaiming who the are. Their identity was robbed. They take Tay person back when allowing themselves to feel. Humanity.
Victim must be approached as a child is approached when disclosing the abuse. Often times the adult has not progressed past the episode due to the non acknowledgement and denial from the outside world. In order to communicate with a victim you have to communicate with the child In the way the child never has been
The brain has been behind because the body has been its spokesperson. Changing our thoughts about caring for victims will help us better care for those who are looking for answers. They are within them already.
Help for the victim
Believing the victim
If possible, speaking with family members
Finding out the statues of limitations in terms of prosecuting the adult perpetrator
Finding out the physical outcomes of these abuses
Mental disorders
Asking the victim what they need and what you can do?
Sharing your experience if it happened to you
Do research on the subject. Victims respond to fact, not opinion
Give the victim time to reveal their issues
Talk about what they are going through – that they haven’t made a connection to, to give them an opportunity to see that there IS a connection to something.
Be patient
Believe – and never say “get over it”
Believe the patient
Let the patient talk
Do more research on the meds that the patient is currently on – wean patient off of meds that are not allowing the patient to DEAL with the trauma
Find an expert in childhood trauma if you are not one yourself
The EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) has proven to be highly effective in dealing with childhood trauma - I use it myself
Connects to a safe place
Allows the victim to make the choice on where that safe place is
Find out what physical ailments may also be a possible symptom of the abuse
Support the victim
Validate the Victim