The document provides 4 tools for networking comfortably and effectively: presence, not trying to look good, focusing on connecting with others, and helping others. It discusses how networking is often an "unconscious performance" where people try to make a good impression but feel fake. The tools encourage being fully present, stopping efforts to appear a certain way, listening to the other person, and finding ways to be of service rather than focusing on personal goals. The overall message is to relax and connect with others rather than see networking as a performance.

1. 4 Practical Toolsto Network Comfortably, Naturally and Effectivelyby Jonathan Bender, MS, MFAFounder, WholeSpeakhttp://www.wholespeak.com

2. OverviewWhat is Get Real NetworkingEveryday Performance Philosophy4 Tools to Transform Your Networking: Presence, Not Trying, Connecting, HelpingPractical ExercisesQ&A

3. Why Network?Meet new clientsExpand our circle of influenceHave a fun timeLearn new tools and ideas

4. TechniquesWhat have you tried? How’s it worked for you?

5. What’s “Real?”Being ourselvesNot putting on airsBeing down to earth

6. Everyday PerformancePerformance Studies: burgeoning field“All the world’s a stage:” life as a performanceWe perform differently based on our surroundingsIdentity as performance

7. Identity as Unconscious PerformanceGestures and body languageFacial expressionsEye contactMuscle tensionVoiceEmotions

8. Performing at Networking Events“Performing” ourselvesWanting to make a great impressionFear of being judgedFeeling fakeSo…How do we let go of our habits and get real?

9. Tool #1:Get PresentPresence = Fully Present.Connect with your breath.Warm up beforehand.

10. Tool #2:Don’t Try to Look Good.Don’t try to make a good impression.Stop obsessing about how you’re being perceived.Don’t give away your power.Practice not looking good.

11. Tool #3:Focus on Connecting.It’s about both of you. (Duh.)Listen.Heart Breathing Exercise

12. Tool #4:Help others.Find ways to be of service.Follow up the very next day.Be a resource; connect others with resources.

13. SummaryLet go of trying to perform your best. (Get out of your own way.)Loosen up, relax, and get present.Focus on connecting, not on your goals of getting more clients.Help others.

14. Bonus Tips: ReframingWhen meeting someone, act like it’s the 10th time seeing them.Don’t say what you do – tell a story of how you helped someone.How does your work affect people? Make their lives easier or better? What do you love about what you do?

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