1. Love
Dr. Suresh Kumar Murugesan PhD
Head, Department of Psychology, The American College, Madurai
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2. About the Presenter
● Dr.Suresh Kumar Murugesan is a passionate Professor, researcher
and Mental Health Practitioner from Madurai, Tamil Nadu, India
● At present he is Heading the department of Psychology, The
American College, Madurai and Adjunct Professor of School of
Behavioural Sciences and Education at TAU
● He is very keen in new research studies in behavioural Sciences
and open to learn.
● His area of specializations are Psychometry, Counselling &
Psychotherapy, Positive Psychology, Education Psychology.
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4. Disclaimer
● This presentation is prepared for
learning purpose only and all the
photos used in this presentation are
taken from google image search.
● Due recognition was given to all the
material collected from the various
sources.
● Any name or reference is missed
kindly bring it to the notice of the
presenter for inclusion
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5. “Love has nothing to do with what you are
expecting to get — only with what you are
expecting to give — which is everything.”
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6. Love
Love is complex.
A mix of emotions, behaviors, and beliefs
associated with strong feelings of
affection, protectiveness, warmth, and
respect for another person.
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7. Love
Some possible definitions of love include:
● A willingness to prioritize another’s well-being or
happiness above our own.
● Extreme feelings of attachment, affection, and
need.
● Dramatic, sudden feelings of attraction and respect.
● A fleeting emotion of care, affection, and like.
● A choice to commit to helping, respecting, and
caring for another, such as in marriage or when
having a child.
● Some combination of the above emotions
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8. LOVE AND MENTAL
HEALTH
1. Most researchers do agree that love
plays a significant role in both
physical and psychological well-
being.
2. Numerous studies have
demonstrated the benefits of love.
3. Love’s role in mental health is far-
reaching.
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9. The fact that babies who
are not shown love and
affection in the form of
frequent holding and
cuddling may be
developmentally delayed or
ill.
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15. LOVE VERSUS LUST
In the early stages of a relationship, it can be
difficult to tell the difference between love and lust.
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16. LOVE VERSUS
LUST
Love and Lust are
associated with physical
attraction and an
intoxicating rush of feel-
good chemicals, coupled
with an often overwhelming
desire to be closer to
another person, but only
one is long-lasting: love.
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17. LOVE VERSUS LUST
Love is something that is cultivated between two
people and grows over time, through getting to
know him or her and experiencing life’s many ups
and downs together.
It involves commitment, time, mutual trust, and
acceptance.
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18. LOVE VERSUS
LUST
Lust has to do with the sex-driven
sensations that draw people
toward one another initially and is
fueled primarily by the urge to
procreate.
Characterized by sex hormones
and idealistic infatuation, lust
blurs our ability to see a person
for who he or she truly is, and
consequently, it may or may not
lead to a long-term relationship.
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24. 1 2 3
Love
● Passion refers to the
intense, physical
attraction partners
feel toward one
another.
● Passion can be found
in the early stages of
a relationship,
● Intimacy involves the
ability the share
feelings, personal
thoughts and
psychological
closeness with the
other.
● Intimacy takes time to
develop because it is
based on knowledge
of the partner.
● Commitment is the
conscious decision to
stay together.
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27. Liking 1. In this relationship, intimacy or knowledge of
the other and a sense of closeness is present.
2. In liking there won't be any Passion and
commitment.
3. Partners feel free to be themselves and
disclose personal information.
4. They may feel that the other person knows
them well and can be honest with them and let
them know if they think the person is wrong.
5. These partners are friends.
6. However, being told that the partner ‘thinks the
person as a friend’ can be a devastating blow if
we are attracted to them and seek a romantic
involvement.
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28. Infatuation 1. Perhaps, this is Sternberg’s version of “love
at first sight”.
2. Infatuation consists of an immediate, intense
physical attraction to someone.
3. A person who is infatuated finds it hard to
think of anything but the other person.
4. Brief encounters are played over and over in
one’s head;
5. it may be difficult to eat and there may be a
rather constant state of arousal.
6. Infatuation is rather short-lived, however,
lasting perhaps only a matter of months or as
long as a year or so.
7. It tends to be based on chemical attraction
and an image of what one thinks the other is
all about.
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29. Fatuous Love
1. Some people who have a strong physical
attraction push for commitment early in
the relationship.
2. Passion and commitment are aspects of
fatuous love.
3. There is no intimacy and the commitment
is premature.
4. Partners rarely talk seriously or share
their ideas.
5. They focus on their intense physical
attraction and yet one, or both, is also
talking of making a lasting commitment.
6. Sometimes this is out of a sense of
insecurity and a desire to make sure the
partner is locked into the relationship.
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30. Empty Love 1. This type of love may be found later in a
relationship or in a relationship that was
formed to meet needs other than
intimacy or passion (money, child
rearing, status).
2. Here the partners are committed to
staying in the relationship (for the
children, because of a religious
conviction, or because there are no
alternatives perhaps), but do not share
ideas or feelings with each other
3. The partner have no physical attraction
for one another.
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31. Romantic Love
1. Intimacy and passion are components
of romantic love, but there is no
commitment.
2. The partners spend much time with
one another and enjoy their closeness
but have not made plans to continue
‘no matter what’.
3. This may be true because they are not
in a position to make such
commitments or because they are
looking for passion and closeness and
are afraid it will die out if they commit
to one another and start to focus on
other kinds of obligations.
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32. Companionate
Love
1. Intimacy and commitment are the
hallmarks of companionate love.
2. Partners love and respect one another
and they are committed to staying
together.
3. But their physical attraction may have
never been strong or may have just died
out.
4. This may be interpreted as ‘just the way
things are’ after so much time together
or there may be a sense of regret and
loss.
5. Nevertheless, partners are good friends
committed to one another.
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33. Consummate Love
1. Intimacy, passion, and
commitment are present in
consummate love.
2. This is often the ideal type of love.
3. The couple shares passion; the
spark has not died, and the
closeness is there.
4. They feel like best friends as well
as lovers and they are committed
to staying together.
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35. Philia Philia is love without romantic attraction and occurs
between friends or family members. It occurs when both
people share the same values and respect each other —
it’s commonly referred to as “brotherly love.”
Love Catalyst: The mind
Your mind articulates which friends are on the same
wavelength as you and who you can trust.
How to Show Philia:
● Engage in deep conversation with a friend.
● Be open and trustworthy.
● Be supportive in hard times.
● Bonus: Gift a gratitude card to a friend.
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37. Pragma
Pragma is a unique bonded love that matures over many years. It’s an everlasting love between a couple that chooses to put equal effort
into their relationship. Commitment and dedication are required to reach “Pragma.” Instead of “falling in love,” you are “standing in love”
with the partner you want by your side indefinitely.
Love Catalyst: Etheric (Subconscious)
The subconscious drives partners towards each other. This feeling comes unknowingly and feels purposeful.
How to Show Pragma:
● Continue to strengthen the bond of long-term relationships.
● Seek and show effort with your partner.
● Choose to work with your partner forever.
● Bonus: Gift a love coupon booklet.
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39. Storge
Storge is a naturally occurring love rooted in parents and children, as well as best friends. It’s an infinite love built upon acceptance and
deep emotional connection. This love comes easily and immediately in parent and child relationships.
Love Catalyst: Causal (Memories)
Your memories encourage long-lasting bonds with another individual. As you create more memories, the value of your relationship
increases.
How to Show Storge:
● Sacrifice your time, self or personal pleasures.
● Quickly forgive harmful actions.
● Share memorable and impactful moments.
● Bonus: Show how much you care with love words.
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41. Eros
Eros is a primal love that comes as a natural instinct for most people. It’s a passionate love displayed through physical affection. These
romantic behaviors include, but are not limited to, kissing, hugging and holding hands. This love is a desire for another person’s physical
body.
Love Catalyst: Physical body (Hormones)
Your hormones awaken a fire in your body and must be satiated with romantic actions from an admired partner.
How to Show Eros:
● Admiring someone’s physical body.
● Physical touch, such as hugging and kissing.
● Romantic affection.
● Bonus: Steal from our romance ideas.
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43. Ludus
Ludus is a child-like and flirtatious love commonly found in the beginning stages of a relationship (a.k.a. the honeymoon stage). This type
of love consists of teasing, playful motives and laughter between two people. Although common in young couples, older couples who
strive for this love find a more rewarding relationship.
Love Catalyst: Astral (Emotion)
Your emotions allow you to feel giddy, excited, interested and involved with another person.
How to Show Ludus:
● Flirt and engage in whimsical conversation.
● Spend time together to laugh and have fun.
● Exemplify childlike behavior together.
● Bonus: Gift a bouquet of roses.
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45. Mania
Mania is an obsessive love towards a partner. It leads to unwanted jealousy or possessiveness — known as codependency. Most cases of
obsessive love are found in couples with an imbalance of love towards each other. An imbalance of Eros and Ludus is the main cause of
Mania. With healthy levels of playful and romantic love, the harm of obsessive love can be avoided.
Love Catalyst: Survival instinct
Survival instinct drives a person to desperately need their partner in order to find a sense of self-value.
How to Avoid Mania:
● Recognize obsessive or possessive behavior before acting upon it.
● Focus on yourself more versus another person.
● Put trust into your relationships.
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47. Philautia
Philautia is a healthy form of love where you recognize your self-worth and don’t ignore your personal needs. Self-love begins with
acknowledging your responsibility for your well-being. It’s challenging to exemplify the outbound types of love because you can’t offer
what you don’t have.
Love Catalyst: Soul
Your soul allows you to reflect on your necessary needs and physical, emotional and mental health.
How to Show Philautia:
● Create an environment that nurtures your well-being.
● Take care of yourself like a parent would care for a child.
● Spend time around people who support you.
● Bonus: Use flowers to boost your mood.
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49. Agape
Agape is the highest level of love to offer. It’s given without any expectations of receiving anything in return. Offering Agape is a decision
to spread love in any circumstances — including destructive situations. Agape is not a physical act, it’s a feeling, but acts of self-love can
elicit Agape since self-monitoring leads to results.
Love Catalyst: Spirit
Your spirit creates purpose bigger than yourself. It motivates you to pass kindness on to others.
How to Show Agape:
● Dedicate your life to improving the lives of others.
● Stay conscious of your actions for the good of humankind.
● Offer your time and charity to someone in need.
● Bonus: Start a random acts of kindness calendar.
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