There are three stages that most people go through: 1) Looking good, where one tries to show others that they are good or better than others by boasting about their qualifications, skills, possessions, and social circles. 2) Feeling good, where one feels good by showing off to others or takes steps to feel good regardless of what others think. 3) Being good, which is the most important but difficult stage, where one simply "is good" without needing to show off or spend money on rituals and practices, but rather achieves inner calmness regardless of external disturbances.

1. Looking good - Feel good and Being good
These are the three stages man (or woman), likely to stay.
1. In first one, he shows to the society or family that he is ok.
To do that he struggles to show others that he is good, and
more often ''better than'' others.
During the process, he boasts off about his qualifications,
skills, buying capacity, his circles in the society, his movable
and immovables and many other things which are very much
tangible to others.
2. In second phase, he feels good by showing off through the
first step. Alternatively, he takes steps to feel good,
irrespective of what others think or see of him.
3. This is more important, but difficult to practice, to be just
''BE GOOD''. No need to show off, spend money, go to
piligrimage, read scriptures, chant holi things, To do puja,
daana, vratha, upavasa, etc, are all for ''INNER
CALMNESS''. These are only ways / paths to get inner
calmness, and they themselves are not 'destinations'. If
finally that ''inner calmness '' is not achievd, through above
things, no point in doing them.
Meaning of inner calmness is, just 'BEING CALM'
irrespective of external disturbances. The words such as
happiness, ecstacy, bliss, solace, contentment, look nearer
in meaning, but are very much distant.