2. About the Author: Oscar Trimboli
Author of Books
Deep Listening – Impact beyond words and Breakthroughs: How to
Confront Assumptions
How to Listen – Discover the Hidden Key to Better Communication – the
most comprehensive book about listening in the workplace,
Host of the Apple award-winning podcast “Deep
Listening”
Sought-after keynote speaker
Along with the “Deep Listening Ambassador
Community”, he is on a quest to create 100 million deep
listeners in the workplace
Marketing and technology industry veteran working for
Microsoft, PeopleSoft, Polycom, and Vodafone. He
consults with organizations including American Express,
AstraZeneca, Cisco, Google, HSBC, IAG, Montblanc, PwC,
Salesforce, Sanofi, SAP, and Siemens
3. Review:
“When Oscar Trimboli has something to
say about listening, listen. He’s the best in
the world.”
Michael Bungay Stanier, bestselling
author of The Coaching Habit and How to
Begin
4. Book Contents
Chapter 1: Why listen?
Chapter 2 & 3 : Level 1 – Yourself: Get Ready to listen & Give and Pay
Attention
Chapter 4: Level 2 – Content: Hear, See and Sense
Chapter 5 & 6 : Level 3 – Context: Explore the Backstory & Notice How
It Is Said
Chapter 7: Level 4 – Unsaid: Focus on What Is Unsaid
Chapter 8: Level 5 – Meaning: Listen for Their Meaning
8. Establish and Nurture Relationships
Engaged Employees
Successful Products and Organizations
Happy Customers
Healthy Community
The more senior you are in an
organization, the more your
listening matters!!
10. We each think we are much
better listeners than other
people are. Not just much better,
but actually six times better!!
11. Deep Listening Research Data
Rate yourself as a “Listener” perspective:
74.9% of people rated themselves either well above average or
above average listeners
Rate yourself as a “Speaker” perspective:
12% of people rated the person listening to them above average
or well above average.
Self-awareness bias!!
18. Anticipate distractions
Internal:
Allowing the subconscious time to process makes
listening light and liberating rather than draining
External:
Switching off Electronic devices and Quiet
environment
The deeper you breathe, the
deeper you listen!
20. How well do you notice
whether you listen for
similarities or for differences?
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23. Paying versus Giving attention
Paying attention: Well known situations
Giving attention: Emerging or emergency situation
24. Listening is very difficult because
we use working memory when you
listen to a conversation.
Working memory can actually only
perform one task at a time.
25. Attention is the gateway to working memory
But,
Our mind is waiting for the speaker – and
while it’s waiting, it’s anticipating what they
might say next
Why?
26. Deep Listening Research Data
Talking Speed – 125 words per minute
Listening Speed – 400 words per minute
Thinking Speed – 900 words per minute
27. We are all fast listeners!
125/400 Rule
While the speaker is speaking between 125 to
150 words per minute, we can listen to 400
words per minute!
29. Hear – Listening with our body and
mind
See – Facial expression and body
language
Sense – the emotion present during
the discussion
30. Distinct ways of communication:
Stories
Statistics
Mismatched preferences between the
speaker’s preferred style and listeners will
accelerate how quickly we drift away
35. Something powerful and transformation
happens when a speaker says the entire
story out loud from the beginning from
the idea’s inception
The backstory is the critical link
36. Adjectives are signposts for teams and
systems
Pronouns are useful shortcuts to
understanding the speaker’s orientation : self,
other, system
Time – Past, Present, Future
The way of expressions
• Positive or negative
• Absolute or relative
38. Their complete thoughts are not in
their first explanation
What else? Or Who else? Or And
Treat Silence like a complete word
The curiosity to pause and ensure
shared understanding
40. The speaker creates their meaning
when they link the past and the
future. It’s our role as a listener to
help create this connection
41. When we listen for meaning, opposing ideas
and views can coexist and cooperate. This is
the essence of Deep Listening:
Impact beyond words
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43. Good Listeners: Listen to make sense of what’s said
Great Listeners: Help the speaker make sense of what
they’re thinking.
Shifting the orientation
from
“How does this make sense for me?”
to “
“How does this make sense for them?”