The document discusses how coaches can serve as father figures for players who lack a father at home. It notes that factors like violent crime, drug abuse, teen pregnancy, and suicide are more strongly related to fatherlessness than any other single factor. As a father figure, coaches can help players develop healthy self-esteem, make wise decisions, and have a solid foundation by coaching life lessons through football. The document goes on to discuss how expectations-based love can create fear, while God's unconditional love banishes fear.

2. COACHES AS FATHER FIGURES AND
DISCIPLE MAKERS
“Violent crime, drug and alcohol abuse,
teen pregnancy and suicide
all relate more to fatherlessness
than any other single factor.”
S. Baskerville, Professor Ph.D. Howard University

3. COACHES AS FATHER FIGURES AND
DISCIPLE MAKERS

4. COACHES AS FATHER FIGURES AND
DISCIPLE MAKERS
COACHES AS FATHER
FIGURES
• Establish authority
• Communicate identity
• Provide security
• Validate potential
by coaching life through football
PLAYERS COACHED
BY A FATHER FIGURE
• Develop a healthy self-esteem
• Learn to make wise decisions
• Have a solid foundation to build
their life on

5. COACHES AS FATHER FIGURES AND
DISCIPLE MAKERS

6. COACHES AS FATHER FIGURES AND
DISCIPLE MAKERS
FROM FATHERLESS TO FATHER FIGURE

7. COACHES AS FATHER FIGURES AND
DISCIPLE MAKERS
I believe the job of a father is to show
love and train others how to love
• So how does love work?
• 1 John 4:7-21
• Who said last night, this morning to someone
“ I love you “
• What did you mean by that?
• Love what they do, what they give you
• Do you love your expectations of them?

8. COACHES AS FATHER FIGURES AND
DISCIPLE MAKERS
Expectations
• Expectation of my wife… Steffi, Julia, Lara
• Marlene of me… Bob the builder, Mr Fixit
• Ideal picture of my son… Cricket, listen, sleep
• Ideal picture of God… gives, responds, favours
• Norm Wakefield story
• I don’t know if I have ever loved anyone…
• I love the idol, the expectations, I love myself
• Fibre in expectation – I need something

9. COACHES AS FATHER FIGURES AND
DISCIPLE MAKERS
Our love vs God’s love
• External
Who has the right to make
me happy, give me
security, significance
• Exchange love
Contractional
• Expectational
• Internal
God does not need me to
make Him happy. Heaven
perfect
• One direction
From source to us
• Unconditional (?)

10. Expectations based love creates fear
15
Expectations
Guilt & Shame Performance
Disappointment
Fear

11. God’s love banishes fear
16
Abundance
Joy Share
No conditions
No fear

12. www.ambassadorsfootball.org/za
bmarais@ambassadorsfootball.org
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