The document discusses the Islamic concept of forgiveness through several Quranic verses and hadiths. It defines two types of forgiveness - decisional and emotional forgiveness - and explains the process of achieving emotional forgiveness through Worthington's REACH model of recalling the hurt objectively, empathizing with the offender, committing to forgiveness, and maintaining forgiveness over time. It also addresses forgiving others, forgiving oneself, and that only Allah can forgive sins.

1. Forgiveness
Suriyakhatun Osman

2. Quranic Verse Al Imran
And hasten to forgiveness from your Lord
and a garden as wide as the heavens and
earth, prepared for the righteous
Who spend [in the cause of Allah ]
during ease and hardship and who
restrain anger and who pardon the
people - and Allah loves the doers of
good;

3. Forgiveness quotes
 People are often unreasonable and self-
centered. Forgive them anyway. Kent M.
Keith
 “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is
the attribute of the strong.”― Mahatma
Gandhi, An Autobiography: The Story of My
Experiments
 “The truth is, unless you let go, unless you
forgive yourself, unless you forgive the
situation, unless you realize that that situation
is over, you cannot move forward.”― Steve
Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free
 “Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet
sheds on the heel that has crushed it.”―

4. Forgiving others
 Resentment is like a glass of poison that a
man drinks; then he sits down and waits for
his enemy to die.—Nelson Mandela when
asked why he was not resentful for his
imprisonment.
 Forgiveness means that you've decided not
to let it keep festering inside even if it only
comes up once in awhile. --Doc Childre and
Howard Martin

5. Forgiving is not :
 Letting off a person for not doing their
work
 Letting somebody get away with
harming you or harming others
 Letting people shirk their
responsibilities
 Not holding those accountable
 Submitting to bullying and tyranny

6. 2 types of forgiveness
Theory and Applications, divides
forgiveness into two types. Decisional
forgiveness involves choosing to let go of
angry thoughts about the person you feel
has wronged you.
 "You can tell yourself, 'I am not going to
seek revenge,' for example, or, 'I am
going to avoid that person,'" Worthington
says. "You could choose decisional
forgiveness and still have a lot of
emotional unforgiveness."
Everett L. Worthington Jr., PhD, a professor of psychology at Virginia Commonwealth University and the author of Forgiveness
and Reconciliation:

7. 2 types of forgiveness
 The ultimate goal is emotional forgiveness : negative
emotions such as
resentment, bitterness, hostility, hatred, anger, and fear
are replaced with love, compassion, sympathy, and
empathy.
 "Emotional forgiveness is what is needed
 "Emotional unforgiveness causes a chronic stress
response, which results in obsessing about the wrong
done to you ie:
◦ Rumination is associated with almost everything bad
in the mental health field -- obsessive-compulsive
disorder, anxiety, depression, urticaria ...
Everett L. Worthington Jr., PhD, a professor of psychology at Virginia Commonwealth University and the author of Forgiveness
and Reconciliation:

8. REACH*
 Recall the hurt objectively, without blame
and self-victimization
 Empathize by trying to imagine the
viewpoint of the person who wronged
you.
 Altruistic part involves getting people to
think about a time they were forgiven
and how that felt.
 Commit to forgiveness, people usually
say, not yet, but when they finally do
 Hold on to forgiveness.
*Everett L. Worthington Jr., PhD, a professor of psychology at Virginia Commonwealth University
and the author of Forgiveness and Reconciliation

9. Forgiving yourself
 Have you ever made a mistake you thought
was so bad that you simply couldn’t forgive
yourself?
 So bad that you sunk into a depression
and were unable to move on?
 Why are we so hard on ourselves?
 Why can’t we forgive ourselves for our
mistakes?
 How long must you flog yourself before you
are worthy of forgiveness?

10. Allah forgives
Allahumma anta Rabbi la ilaha illa anta, abu`u Laka bini`matika `alaiya,
 O Allah, You are my Lord. There is  I acknowledge Your blessings on
no god except You. me,
Khalaqtani wa ana abduka, wa Abu Laka bidhanbi
 You created me, and I am Your  And in front of You, I accept my
slave-servant sins,
wa ana `ala ahdika wa wa`dika faghfirli
mastata`tu,
 (O Allah, please) forgive me
 And I am on the Path of
obedience, to the best of my ability.
Fa innahu la yaghfiru adhdhunuba illa
anta.
A`udhu bika min Sharri ma sana`tu,
 Indeed, none can forgive sins
 I seek refuge in You from the evil except You.
that I have done,