Made in Heaven - Equally Yoked (Equallyoked) for Premarital Couples and the Lay Ministries

1. ““Made in Heaven”Made in Heaven”
(Equallyoked)
- Basic Bible Counseling
for Premarital CouplesPremarital Couples and
the Lay Ministries
““Equally Yoked”Equally Yoked”

2. • In the image of God he created them;
male and female he created them.
Genesis 1:27
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3. • Be perfect, therefore, as your
heavenly Father is perfect.
Matthew 5:48
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4. • Be ye not unequally yoked together...
II Corinthians 6:14
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5. Social IdentitySocial Identity
• YourYour Social identitySocial identity is your sense of belongingnessis your sense of belongingness
to a collective of identified important groups such as;to a collective of identified important groups such as;
• CitizenshipCitizenship: a Nation,: a Nation, ResidenceResidence:: Home, Property:Home, Property:
OwnershipOwnership,, deeds, and co-ownership in Real estate,deeds, and co-ownership in Real estate,
e.g., vacation homes, office buildings, land, and maye.g., vacation homes, office buildings, land, and may
include motor homes, RVs, cars, boats, planes, etc.,include motor homes, RVs, cars, boats, planes, etc.,
ProfessionProfession: your trade, vocation, skill, craft boards or: your trade, vocation, skill, craft boards or
union,union, TitlesTitles: in clubs, associations, organizations, etc.,: in clubs, associations, organizations, etc.,
Education: CredentialsCredentials, degrees, diplomas, certifications,, degrees, diplomas, certifications,
documentation of schools successfully attended. Socio-documentation of schools successfully attended. Socio-
economiceconomic ClassClass: Amount of money in bank, in stocks and: Amount of money in bank, in stocks and
bonds investments, in bank notes and certificates.bonds investments, in bank notes and certificates.
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6. ““Social Identities”Social Identities”
• CitizenshipCitizenship::
U.S. CitizenU.S. Citizen
• ResidenceResidence::
New York, NYNew York, NY
• Ownership:Ownership:
Home is paid forHome is paid for
• ProfessionProfession::
CounselorCounselor
• Education:
Ph.D. DegreePh.D. Degree
• Titles:Titles:
““Doctor”Doctor”
• ClassClass::
Middle ClassMiddle Class
• CitizenshipCitizenship::
U.K. / WorkVisaU.K. / WorkVisa
• ResidenceResidence::
New York, NYNew York, NY
• Ownership:Ownership:
RentingRenting
• ProfessionProfession::
ManagementManagement
• Education:
M.B.A.DiplomaM.B.A.Diploma
• Titles:Titles:
““Director”Director”
• ClassClass::
Middle ClassMiddle Class
Example 2
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Example 1

7. • Be devoted to one another in love. Honor
one another above yourselves.
Romans 12:10
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8. Your “Civil Identity”
• YourYour Civil IdentityCivil Identity is actually a uniqueis actually a unique
mosaic of your present:mosaic of your present:
Ancestry, Ethnicity, Political Party, Race,Ancestry, Ethnicity, Political Party, Race,
Color,Color, ReligionReligion, Disability, Sex, Sexual, Disability, Sex, Sexual
(Pleasure Preference) Orientation, Marital(Pleasure Preference) Orientation, Marital
Status, Family Status, …etc.Status, Family Status, …etc.
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9. ““Civil Identity”Civil Identity”
- Ethnicity:
- Politics:
- Religion:
- Race:
- Color:
- Age:
- Sex:Sex:
- Sex preference:
- Marital status:
- Ethnicity:
- Politics:
- Religion:
- Race:
- Color:
- Age:
- Sex:Sex:
- Sex preference:
- Marital status:
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‘de facto’ (in fact, in reality)
personalitypersonalitypersonalitypersonality

10. Some Examples:Some Examples:
• Ethnicity: Euro-American
• Political Party: Republican
• Race: Anglo, Color: Light
• Religion: Christian
• Disability: None Known
• Age: 21 ½
• Sex: MaleMale
• Preference: Heterosexual
• Marital Status: Single
• Ethnicity: Euro-American
• Political Party: Republican
• Race: Anglo, Color: Light
• Religion: Christian
• Disability: None Known
• Age: 21
• Sex: FemaleFemale
• Preference: Heterosexual
• Marital Status: Single
Example 1Example 1 Example 2Example 2
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11. Keep God’s CommandmentsKeep God’s Commandments
• And you shall love the Lord your God with all
your heart, and with all your soul, and with all
your mind, and with all your strength: this is the
first commandment.
• And the second is like, namely this, You shall
love your neighbor as yourself. There is no other
commandment greater than these.
Mark 12:30-31
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12. • Do everything in love.
1 Corinthians 16:14
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• In the same way, you husbands must give honor
to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding
as you live together. She may be weaker than you
are, but she is your equal partnerequal partner in God's gift....
1 Peter 3:7

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• Let love and faithfulness never leave you;
bind them around your neck, write them
on the tablet of your heart.
Proverbs 3:3

15. • And above all these things put on charity,
which is the bond of perfectnessthe bond of perfectness.
Colossians 3:14
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16. ““Personal Identity”Personal Identity”
• Your ‘Your ‘PersonalityPersonality’ is’ is
just how your capabilityjust how your capability
is manifested in theis manifested in the
way you personally:way you personally:
observeobserve,, uphold, anduphold, and
promotepromote what is right,what is right,
such as-such as-
• Law abidingness,Law abidingness,
• Morality/Morality/ abiding inabiding in
social moressocial mores, and, and
• Heartfulness/emotionalHeartfulness/emotional
stability.stability.
• Your ‘Your ‘CharacterCharacter’ is the’ is the
actual way your seen byactual way your seen by
your peers as havingyour peers as having
the capacity of just howthe capacity of just how
you personally andyou personally and
actively:actively: fight againstfight against--
• Crime/infractions of theCrime/infractions of the
law,law,
• Immorality/violatingImmorality/violating
social mores, andsocial mores, and
• Infatuation/lust.Infatuation/lust.
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17. • Have you not read that He who made them at the
beginning… …the two shall become one ...
So then, they are no longer two but one...
Therefore what God has joined together,
let not man separate.
Matthew 19:4-6
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18. • For the wife does not have authority over her
own body, but the husband does. Likewise the
husband does not have authority over his own
body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one
another I Corinthians 7:3-5
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19. Liberal Arts Schools
Some “Suggested” SchoolsSome “Suggested” Schools
• Liberty U., Lee U., Houghton Coll., Southern Adventist U.,Liberty U., Lee U., Houghton Coll., Southern Adventist U., Johnson U.,Johnson U.,
California Lutheran U., Northland Coll., Milligan Coll., Coll. of the Ozarks,California Lutheran U., Northland Coll., Milligan Coll., Coll. of the Ozarks,
Cedarville U., Anderson U., Samford U., Bryan Coll., Corban U., Hendrix Coll.,Cedarville U., Anderson U., Samford U., Bryan Coll., Corban U., Hendrix Coll.,
Southwestern U., Centre Coll., Bethel Coll., Central Coll., Eastern U., BelmontSouthwestern U., Centre Coll., Bethel Coll., Central Coll., Eastern U., Belmont
U., Luther Coll., Eastern Mennonite U., Southern Methodist U., MacalesterU., Luther Coll., Eastern Mennonite U., Southern Methodist U., Macalester
Coll., Muhlenberg Coll., Gustavus Adolphus Coll., George Fox U.,Coll., Muhlenberg Coll., Gustavus Adolphus Coll., George Fox U.,
Southeastern U., Emory U., St. Olaf Coll., Hope Coll., Roberts Wesleyan Coll.,Southeastern U., Emory U., St. Olaf Coll., Hope Coll., Roberts Wesleyan Coll.,
Concordia U., NE, DePauw U., Whitworth U., Lafayette Coll., Wittenberg U.,Concordia U., NE, DePauw U., Whitworth U., Lafayette Coll., Wittenberg U.,
Taylor U., Abilene Christian U., Sewanee-U.of the South, Valparaiso U., TexasTaylor U., Abilene Christian U., Sewanee-U.of the South, Valparaiso U., Texas
Christian U., Ohio Wesleyan U., Franklin Coll., Ouachita Baptist U., U. ofChristian U., Ohio Wesleyan U., Franklin Coll., Ouachita Baptist U., U. of
Mobile, Gordon Coll., Covenant Coll., California Baptist U., Millsaps Coll.,,Mobile, Gordon Coll., Covenant Coll., California Baptist U., Millsaps Coll.,,
Goshen Coll., Allegheny Coll., Union U., Westmont Coll., Union U., WestmontGoshen Coll., Allegheny Coll., Union U., Westmont Coll., Union U., Westmont
Coll., Waynesburg U., Biola U., Wheaton Coll., Regent U., Presbyterian Coll.,Coll., Waynesburg U., Biola U., Wheaton Coll., Regent U., Presbyterian Coll.,
Baylor U., Davidson Coll., Rhodes Coll., Transylvania U., Pepperdine U.,Baylor U., Davidson Coll., Rhodes Coll., Transylvania U., Pepperdine U.,
Wofford Coll., Oklahoma Baptist U., Indiana Wesleyan U., Trinity U., AsburyWofford Coll., Oklahoma Baptist U., Indiana Wesleyan U., Trinity U., Asbury
U., Hanover Coll., Chapman U., Messiah Coll., Nebraska Wesleyan U.,, IllinoisU., Hanover Coll., Chapman U., Messiah Coll., Nebraska Wesleyan U.,, Illinois
Coll., Augustana Coll. – SD, Point Loma Nazarene U., Erskine Coll., AugsburgColl., Augustana Coll. – SD, Point Loma Nazarene U., Erskine Coll., Augsburg
Coll., Calvin Coll., Azusa Pacific U., Concordia Coll., U. of Evansville, NorthColl., Calvin Coll., Azusa Pacific U., Concordia Coll., U. of Evansville, North
Central Coll., Vanguard U. of SoCal, Seattle Pacific U., Oklahoma Christian U.,Central Coll., Vanguard U. of SoCal, Seattle Pacific U., Oklahoma Christian U.,
Patrick Henry Coll., Albion Coll., LeTourneau U., Oral Roberts U., John BrownPatrick Henry Coll., Albion Coll., LeTourneau U., Oral Roberts U., John Brown
U.John Brown U., Oklahoma City U., Wartburg Coll., Alma Coll., U. of Tulsa,U.John Brown U., Oklahoma City U., Wartburg Coll., Alma Coll., U. of Tulsa,
Grove City Coll., Belhaven U., American U.Grove City Coll., Belhaven U., American U.

20. ““Be ye not unequally yoked…”Be ye not unequally yoked…”
II Corinthians 6:14II Corinthians 6:14
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Bible Reference: The Layman’s Parallel Bible