Why Equallyoked? Some motives of equallyokedtarian couples.

1. Why ‘Equallyoked’?Why ‘Equallyoked’?
Some motives of ‘equallyokedtarian’ couplesSome motives of ‘equallyokedtarian’ couples
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2. Social MotivesSocial Motives
• ‘Equallyokedtarian’
couples claim to
select mates and
marry for a variety
of reasons.1
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3. Some reasons are - Beliefs:Some reasons are - Beliefs:
(1.)…about life,…
..couples living in a complex multicultural society choose
equallyoked relationships as the best personal security to
provide psychosocial stability and social resilience.1
(2.)…self-image,…
..individuals in an ‘equallyoked’ relationship usually have ‘excellent’
insight into ‘self-image’ thus affecting their ‘good self esteem.’ 2
(3.)…truth,…
.. usually have - a clear self-image of ‘who I am’ as a human being
not merely a ‘robot’ in a mix of multicultural confusion.3
(4.)…God,…
.. ‘equallyoked’ couples honor God – ‘who created me as I am.’3
(5.)…death..
…unequallyoked is a sin,.. by not sinning,.. …having an afterlife.4
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4. BondingBonding
Bonding (identifying and personal attaching):
(1.) ...for long term love,…
– ..by heartfelt ‘falling in love’ with someone of similar
‘civil identity’- in accordance with ‘social mores’…1
(2.)…romance,…
– ..a feeling of loveliness, as an ‘equally yoked’ couple,
affirmation of gender identity, and mutually pleasant
interactive affection for each other…2
(3.)..sex…
– ..phermonal and physically intimate arousal. 3
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5. MarriageMarriage
Marriage:
(1.) …family,…
– …his and her families ‘accept’ one another in
accordance with valuable established ‘social mores’.1
(2.) …children,…
– .. An equallyoked couple - planned pregnancy, having
a baby together, …or a ‘blended’ family.2
(3.) …financial goals…
– ..each of equallyoked individuals have a family with
with financial security in an economic community.3
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6. Self EsteemSelf Esteem
Self image and
Self esteem:
• ..individuals as
‘equally yoked’
couples.. ..with a
clear sense of
“Self” marry a
partner of a ‘like’
(or similar) civil
identity.1
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7. Family IdentityFamily Identity
• Family identity: to
properly maintain
the integrity of the
extended family
identity.1
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8. Social MoresSocial Mores
• As social mores –
• ...a preserved
standard in a
multicultural society
for the sake of
community
(biopsychosocial)
health. 1
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9. Some “Suggested” SchoolsSome “Suggested” Schools
• Liberty U., Lee U., Houghton Coll., Southern Adventist U.,Liberty U., Lee U., Houghton Coll., Southern Adventist U., Johnson U.,Johnson U.,
California Lutheran U., Northland Coll., Milligan Coll., Coll. of the Ozarks,California Lutheran U., Northland Coll., Milligan Coll., Coll. of the Ozarks,
Cedarville U., Anderson U., Samford U., Bryan Coll., Corban U., Hendrix Coll.,Cedarville U., Anderson U., Samford U., Bryan Coll., Corban U., Hendrix Coll.,
Southwestern U., Centre Coll., Bethel Coll., Central Coll., Eastern U., BelmontSouthwestern U., Centre Coll., Bethel Coll., Central Coll., Eastern U., Belmont
U., Luther Coll., Eastern Mennonite U., Southern Methodist U., Macalester Coll.,U., Luther Coll., Eastern Mennonite U., Southern Methodist U., Macalester Coll.,
Muhlenberg Coll., Gustavus Adolphus Coll., George Fox U., Southeastern U.,Muhlenberg Coll., Gustavus Adolphus Coll., George Fox U., Southeastern U.,
Emory U., St. Olaf Coll., Hope Coll., Roberts Wesleyan Coll., Concordia U., NE,Emory U., St. Olaf Coll., Hope Coll., Roberts Wesleyan Coll., Concordia U., NE,
DePauw U., Whitworth U., Lafayette Coll., Wittenberg U., Taylor U., AbileneDePauw U., Whitworth U., Lafayette Coll., Wittenberg U., Taylor U., Abilene
Christian U., Sewanee-U.of the South, Valparaiso U., Texas Christian U., OhioChristian U., Sewanee-U.of the South, Valparaiso U., Texas Christian U., Ohio
Wesleyan U., Franklin Coll., Ouachita Baptist U., U. of Mobile, Gordon Coll.,Wesleyan U., Franklin Coll., Ouachita Baptist U., U. of Mobile, Gordon Coll.,
Covenant Coll., California Baptist U., Millsaps Coll.,, Goshen Coll., AlleghenyCovenant Coll., California Baptist U., Millsaps Coll.,, Goshen Coll., Allegheny
Coll., Union U., Westmont Coll., Union U., Westmont Coll., Waynesburg U.,Coll., Union U., Westmont Coll., Union U., Westmont Coll., Waynesburg U.,
Biola U., Wheaton Coll., Regent U., Presbyterian Coll., Baylor U., DavidsonBiola U., Wheaton Coll., Regent U., Presbyterian Coll., Baylor U., Davidson
Coll., Rhodes Coll., Transylvania U., Pepperdine U., Wofford Coll., OklahomaColl., Rhodes Coll., Transylvania U., Pepperdine U., Wofford Coll., Oklahoma
Baptist U., Indiana Wesleyan U., Trinity U., Asbury U., Hanover Coll., ChapmanBaptist U., Indiana Wesleyan U., Trinity U., Asbury U., Hanover Coll., Chapman
U., Messiah Coll., Nebraska Wesleyan U.,, Illinois Coll., Augustana Coll. – SD,U., Messiah Coll., Nebraska Wesleyan U.,, Illinois Coll., Augustana Coll. – SD,
Point Loma Nazarene U., Erskine Coll., Augsburg Coll., Calvin Coll., AzusaPoint Loma Nazarene U., Erskine Coll., Augsburg Coll., Calvin Coll., Azusa
Pacific U., Concordia Coll., U. of Evansville, North Central Coll., Vanguard U. ofPacific U., Concordia Coll., U. of Evansville, North Central Coll., Vanguard U. of
SoCal, Seattle Pacific U., Oklahoma Christian U., Patrick Henry Coll., AlbionSoCal, Seattle Pacific U., Oklahoma Christian U., Patrick Henry Coll., Albion
Coll., LeTourneau U., Oral Roberts U., John Brown U.John Brown U.,Coll., LeTourneau U., Oral Roberts U., John Brown U.John Brown U.,
Oklahoma City U., Wartburg Coll., Alma Coll., U. of Tulsa, Grove City Coll.,Oklahoma City U., Wartburg Coll., Alma Coll., U. of Tulsa, Grove City Coll.,
Belhaven U., American U.Belhaven U., American U.
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10. ““Be ye not unequally yoked…”Be ye not unequally yoked…”
II Corinthians 6:14II Corinthians 6:14
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