This document discusses emotional maturity and its importance. It outlines six levels of emotional maturity: 1) basic emotional responsibility, 2) emotional honesty, 3) emotional openness, 4) emotional assertiveness, 5) emotional understanding, and 6) emotional objectivity. Achieving higher levels of emotional maturity is important for career success as it leads to better relationships, leadership skills, and ability to handle challenges. Developing emotional maturity involves practices like acknowledging others, embracing change objectively, and improving listening skills.

1. Emotional Maturity Dr. Deborah Frey, Copyright 2006 All rights reserved

2. Maturing involves remaining formative for as long as one lives. When we stop forming it is because we stop learning and growing. We become crystallized.. Vulnerable to shocks, large and small. Hugh Downs, (1973)Potential: The Way to Emotional Maturity

3. Emotional Maturity & Success? More than four decades of Human Relations studies show that workplace well-being & performance are not independent (Gallup, 2002) Emotionally immature people becomeHelpless Reactors.(Senge, 1990) Don’t let this be you! Your Emotional Maturity shapes your life & your career reality

4. What are YourLevels of Emotional Maturity? Sometimeswe lack the maturity to recognize that we are emotionally immature! Let’s examine these Levels Level 1: Basic Emotional Responsibility Level 2: Emotional Honesty Level 3: Emotional Openness Level 4: Emotional Assertiveness Level 5: Emotional Understanding Level 6: Emotional Objectivity (FitzMaurice, 1989)

5. “You can buy people’s time: you can buy their physicalpresence at a given place; you can even buy a measured number of muscular motions per hour. But you cannot buy enthusiasm…you cannot buy loyalty… youcannot buy the devotion of their hearts. This you must earn.” Clarence Francis, Fortune Magazine

7. Do others seem to have it better than you?

10. How do you build on your attributes & muffle self-doubt?

13. My relationship with ________ is: _____________________________________.

14. The difference (s) between these 2 relationships is (are) __________________.

15. The reason (s) for the differences is (are): __________________________.

16. To strengthen my relationship with _____________, I plan to ______________.

18. Are you impulsive? Or do you consider the consequencesof your actions & reactions?

19. Can you delay your immediate fulfillment? Who & what comes first?Refine emotional assertiveness with an action plan to target tension-reduction. You feel it building– Make a list, any list—office or hobby supplies Rearrange things—your work area, furniture, your sock drawer!! Music—soothing music Stop! Stop now! Smile (no matter how forced your smile might be) Count (to 10 or 20 )

23. How do you react to change? To difficult circumstances? To opportunity? With angst, eagerness, with a plan? “Not having self-concepts to defend or promote, this person can remain unaffected by the Blame Game, and even experiences unconditional love for their enemies!” (Fitzmaurice, 1989) Emotional detachment (or objectivity) liberates us to experience each event, large or small, failure or success, as an enriching part of the bigger picture or vision.

24. Attitudes Start with EM Our attitude affects how others receive us, thus our career potential hinges on our ability to embrace our unique emotional development When we were children, mud pies, dolls, marbles, and candy were comforting & good trade-offs for hurt feelings, when the stakes were not so high.

25. Make the Difference! Regardless of our roles: Leader, Follower, Mentor Emotional maturity is critical for effective career relationships & ultimately, our success. Be a Grownup to be the Best YOU!

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